Early 50s and I've never been with a man older than 42

[Anonymous]

I'm a woman in my early 50s. I've posted on here before about my new OLD experiences. I have my match settings at 48 to 61 because that was the default for my age. I thought I would allow the "system" to work, and then see what happens.

However, I realize now that I have not ever been with a man older than the age of 42. My most recent relationship was with a man 17 years younger. We worked together, and then the pandemic happened. He pursued me. He had early elementary aged children, divorced. I didn't see it working out long term.

In my 20s, I dated men up to 10 years older.

I'm just very nervous about it now. Most of these men in their early 60s have had very full lives with marriage and children and grandchildren.

I'm curious what it's like dating a man at this stage of life. In my early 30s, I really didn't enjoy dating men who had been divorced. They were very bitter, and the divorce really changed them. I'm really hoping that the men are over the divorces.

[Anonymous]

As a kid 40s woman - men in 50s look like crap, breathe stinks, dad bods yes and bitter. Some drink. I met sone nice ones but experiencing real challenge with sexual attraction.

I was dating someone 44 yo and chemistry was off the charts

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a kid 40s woman - men in 50s look like crap, breathe stinks, dad bods yes and bitter. Some drink. I met sone nice ones but experiencing real challenge with sexual attraction.

I was dating someone 44 yo and chemistry was off the charts

Mid 40s - what a weird auto correct !

[Anonymous]

Older men just don't do it for me. I'm 60, and since this is anonymous, I'm good-looking, fit, and appear much younger. Most men my age are just old looking, bald, fat, etc. Plus, women outlive men. I feel I'm justified for dating younger, but often women are made to feel like they should just settle for whatever. Men definitely have it easier as they age in the dating world.

[Anonymous]

I would date as young as I could. Men in the dating scene in their 60s might be divorced multiple times.

[Anonymous]

I am 59 and have been single for 9 years. I have dated men 5 - 10 years younger. I have yet to meet a man in this age group who is looking for commitment. Most have been burned by divorce and want to date around.

[Anonymous]

I'm 43, and the oldest I've dated since my divorce in 2020 was 38.

[Anonymous]

Im 54 - fit and pretty - my guy is 20 years younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would date as young as I could. Men in the dating scene in their 60s might be divorced multiple times.

Agree. Definitely seek out single men in their 20s and early 30s.

By their 50s, most men have bodies that look like, well, 50-year-olds. No way!

And by 50s or 60s, most men are useless in bed; it is definitely better with hot men in their 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Older men just don't do it for me. I'm 60, and since this is anonymous, I'm good-looking, fit, and appear much younger. Most men my age are just old looking, bald, fat, etc. Plus, women outlive men. I feel I'm justified for dating younger, but often women are made to feel like they should just settle for whatever. Men definitely have it easier as they age in the dating world.

It’s so true and so infuriating that women are somehow not allowed to have standards, and should in fact be grateful that anyone wants them at all, when really - women are the prize!

So glad women are developing more confidence and standards across the board.

Sorry to derail

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 59 and have been single for 9 years. I have dated men 5 - 10 years younger. I have yet to meet a man in this age group who is looking for commitment. Most have been burned by divorce and want to date around.

I agree that 50+ men are more willing to commit but they are also grumpy and look like s…t

[Anonymous]

Cool story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im 54 - fit and pretty - my guy is 20 years younger.

Yeah, we men are not picky

[Anonymous]

Men in their 40s and 50s don’t have hot bodies.

Why on earth would OP want to date a man like that?!? Definitely seek out only men in their early 30s or even 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 59 and have been single for 9 years. I have dated men 5 - 10 years younger. I have yet to meet a man in this age group who is looking for commitment. Most have been burned by divorce and want to date around.

I like dating women 20 years younger than me. Being rich and fit helps.