Quick update to those who are interested.

DH talked to his manager. DM ("dear" Manager) freaked out at first saying they could never go on without him, it would take time to find someone to fill out DH's position and blah blah blah. DH explained that since the company doesn't support or stimulate the employees' academic achievements he needed the break to be able to finally finish school and get it out of his way so he could dedicate himself entirely to the company when (if) he returned.
DM understood and agreed, still he offered DH to do his job from home for fewer hours per week but we know exactly what it will turn out (and he said that to his manager) and unfortunately it would not be an option for him.
HR approved DH's leave. Part of it will be vacation, part of it will be personal days, and the rest will be unpaid leave.
DM got the hint that DH does not intend to go back after the leave and said that after all these years working together he completely understands how DH feels and said that DH is one of the very few people he would ever recommend. He asked DH if he could keep his info, asked DH to keep in touch and thanked DH.
A few hours later we got an email with an electronic giftcard of $200 as a gift for the birth of our child - not being ungrateful here, $200 is a lot of money and we're thankful for his generosity, but this is baby #2 and when #1 was born this guy didn't even give DH a call to say congratulations when DH put in the sick leave to stay at home the first few weeks.
Anyway, I think he's freaking out because he'll have to do DH and his job for a while. DH thinks he's being regretful.
Either way, we're both so excited with what is about to come in our lives. For the first time we'll be all together for more than 1 or 2 days at a time. We'll be able to have a routine, we'll finally have real quality time together and DH will have time to dedicate himself to something that gives him pleasure. We'll be able to exercise again, do real outings as a family, and maybe even read to them. How cool is that?

I personally wouldn't report her and ask her to be banned, but I can see why others would. This woman constantly starts threads that she INTENDS to turn into fights. She posts about situations that make her sound sympathetic at first, then begins filling in details that show it's really the opposite and she is usually the instigator and creator of her own problems, and at that point, begins lashing out at other commenters, calling them names, and putting herself on a pedestal, i.e. "I'm here to teach everyone a lesson" or "I'm acting like this on purpose to piss you all off." She's a sad human, to be sure, and her kids are obviously feeling the effects, as she admits their days are chaos, the 2 year old is a nervous screaming wreck, and she doesn't read or interact with them other than to feed them and park them in front of Sesame Street.

OP, Chipotle Lady, Psoriasis Lady, whatever you want to go by, I find it hilarious you claim to switch up details so your "friends" (doubtful you have any) and family can't tell that you're the poster or know anything about your life. But I guarantee you, they know something is "off" about you. You are a drama magnet because you have nothing else going on in your life. You, like most people who are drama magnets, bring all of your issues upon yourself, then play the victim. Your life sounds like a mess and that is not going to escape the attention of people who know you. So maybe they can't read your posts and immediately discern this Internet persona is you because you say you live somewhere "like Tysons" or eat somewhere "like Chipotle" but they DO know you and your life are a shambles and probably pity you and avoid you as much as possible. Which is why you have to come to DCUM for interaction. It's sad. I don't think you should be banned, I just think you should reassess your life and your priorities and make some changes.

I think she reported the OP because OP has admitted before that she starts fake threads for her own entertainment. Jeff has said he's blocked her before but she got him to unblock her. Clearly there is more at play than someone just starting multiple threads.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just reported OP and asked for Jeff to possibly look into her trolling multiple threads.

I am of the opinion that the trolling she's doing (prolific, highly deceptive at first, and then aggressive) is going to end up being damaging to DCUM. I am irritated every time I reply to an OP with what I think is a serious issue, only to have the post end up being a troll post. While I think we all can tolerate some trolling (and maybe enjoy some popcorn while watching train wrecks), I'm not interested in participating in a forum that gets taken over by trolls and troll-baiters.

I primarily come to DCUM to seek out and read about solutions to my problems (with my family, my kid, my house, etc) and to try to help others with advice. Maybe engage in some lively disagreements about things and spend some time learning what really goes on inside the heads of fellow DC-area moms. But I definitely don't want to come to a place where multiple threads are created by a single troll. Most damningly, she's not even entertaining. If this is the way DCUM will end up, I'll just stop reading and commenting, because I am tired of this idiot wasting my time. Do you guys feel the same? Am I alone in thinking this?

Not a fan of the person, but see no reason that she be banned. Just because something is fiction (or semi-fiction) doesn't mean it has not value or it cannot stimulate interesting discussion. I think this thread was pretty entertaining (especially the first half or so). I don't feel like I am wasting my time reading it anymore than I am wasting my time being at DCUM in general.

+1

You really reported Jeff because of her possibility of starting multiple threads? Honey, people do that quite frequently...you are not the regulator of how many posts one can start.

OP< I can completely understand your husband, because im in the same freaking situation with my job, but i can't, can't leave at all, i need the money. if he can find a new job, that would be great

Anonymous wrote:Just reported OP and asked for Jeff to possibly look into her trolling multiple threads.

I am of the opinion that the trolling she's doing (prolific, highly deceptive at first, and then aggressive) is going to end up being damaging to DCUM. I am irritated every time I reply to an OP with what I think is a serious issue, only to have the post end up being a troll post. While I think we all can tolerate some trolling (and maybe enjoy some popcorn while watching train wrecks), I'm not interested in participating in a forum that gets taken over by trolls and troll-baiters.

I primarily come to DCUM to seek out and read about solutions to my problems (with my family, my kid, my house, etc) and to try to help others with advice. Maybe engage in some lively disagreements about things and spend some time learning what really goes on inside the heads of fellow DC-area moms. But I definitely don't want to come to a place where multiple threads are created by a single troll. Most damningly, she's not even entertaining. If this is the way DCUM will end up, I'll just stop reading and commenting, because I am tired of this idiot wasting my time. Do you guys feel the same? Am I alone in thinking this?

Not a fan of the person, but see no reason that she be banned. Just because something is fiction (or semi-fiction) doesn't mean it has not value or it cannot stimulate interesting discussion. I think this thread was pretty entertaining (especially the first half or so). I don't feel like I am wasting my time reading it anymore than I am wasting my time being at DCUM in general.

I asked Jeff to step in early in the thread and stand by it - she's making the forums frustrating.

I haven't read all of OP's threads, but I don't think she's a troll. I think she is probably lonely and overwhelmed (the 2 kids under 2 part seems real) and comes to DCUM for an escape, and to interact with other adults.

For better or worse, DCUM seems to be her adopted community...

Alrighty guys, after reading this long assed thread, I find that the OP has less of an attitude than all the posters here giving her so much grief. Geez, do you all act like this irl too...

None of your posts are real, OP. This is not news. There is no good reason anyone should believe one word you say.

Anonymous wrote:I think her posts are part real, part made up.

OP here. This is not news. From the very beginning I've said that I change details and don't share some specifics because I don't want friends or neighbors finding out about us.

I think her posts are part real, part made up.

Is OP / Chipotle mom the same person who posted a few times about visa issues for her mother?? who was trying to come to the US when her kids were born:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/102630.page

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/225336.page

Okay, it really scares me that I remember enough of these posts to even post this query. Anyway, seems like the same brand of crazy. On the plus (??) side, there is at least some consistency in the details of her situation, so maybe she is not a troll, just a very strange and lonely person? Or maybe both.

21:53, i agree with you. And well said.

I agree. Just posted to website feedback.