Loving but annoying in laws visiting
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One week down and one week to go...
My husband’s parents are good people but my FIL never shuts up. I’m trying to talk to my toddler or nurse the baby and he continues his long story about how great his kids were. My MIL questions everything I do (why don’t you let 2.5 yr old watch tv? Why don’t you make him say he’s sorry when he does something wrong? Why don’t you make him try new food? Etc.) And they refuse to call the baby the nickname we chose and love. They keep yelling her formal name even though she doesn’t respond!! Just a vent. |
Anonymous
| Just keep smiling and thank the heavens they don’t live nearby! |
Anonymous
| 2 weeks is way too long |
5mercury
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| Ah, welcome to the club!! |
Anonymous
| Yeah just grin and bear it and schedule time outside the house for just you as much as possible. And next time a week max. |
Anonymous
| Just keep focusing on the “loving” part. One out of two ain’t bad! |
Anonymous
| Agh two weeks is too long for visitors. Are they traveling from a foreign country? That's the only reason I would be ok with a stay that long. |
Anonymous
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Where is your spouse when these things are happening. They need to step in with things like:
“Mom, we’re calling her Trixie. Please stop with Maryelizabeth.” “Mom, your questions are coming off as judgment. Rather than just accepting decisions we’re making around raising the kids, you’re questioning them. Please stop.” |
Anonymous
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When FIL drones, you do r have to actively listen. A few minutes of polite conversation is one thing. When it’s clear he’s not conversing, but yapping, feel free to ignore, close your eyes, walk away.
To MIK: “Because that’s the decision we’ve made for our child.” Each and every time. Or literally ignore it it’s something you already answered. If they choose to use a given name, that’s fine. But if they act put out, shrug and say, “As I’ve mentioned, she responds better to Larlette. But you insist on Larla, so you get what you get.” |
Anonymous
| Ah, yes! The question/accusation! I know it well! |
Anonymous
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My sister had a nickname I thought everyone used. Or so I thought. I never noticed that my Dad always used her formal name until my sister mentioned in our 30’s. After that, I heard her formal name when he used it (they sound somewhat similar).
Let them use the formal name. Your kids will like having a special name from their grandparents. |
Anonymous
| The formal vs. nickname is on you and your spouse, OP. |
Anonymous
That's all fine if they can roll with it when the CHILD doesn't answer to her less-familiar name. But that's...not what's happening, now is it? They're getting put our that the child isn't answering/paying attention. Do you see the difference? |
Anonymous
| Too much togetherness. For anyone. Two weeks is ridiculous. 2-3 nights max, then hotel. No reason most or all of their visit they couldn't have stayed at a hotel. And come over for small, daily visits. |
Anonymous
| Find a real problem. |