Loving but annoying in laws visiting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One week down and one week to go...

My husband’s parents are good people but my FIL never shuts up. I’m trying to talk to my toddler or nurse the baby and he continues his long story about how great his kids were. My MIL questions everything I do (why don’t you let 2.5 yr old watch tv? Why don’t you make him say he’s sorry when he does something wrong? Why don’t you make him try new food? Etc.)

And they refuse to call the baby the nickname we chose and love. They keep yelling her formal name even though she doesn’t respond!!

Just a vent.

MIL is right about a few things.
You should ask your son say sorry when he does something wrong. And trying new food is healthy, it's part of a future healthy diet.
Kids would only eat pasta if you let them ... It's your job to teach them.

The nickname is what it is. You chose to give him one, not everybody has to like it or say it.
I would also say the formal name if I didn't like the nickname.

Maybe they're not easy but you're not either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One week down and one week to go...

My husband’s parents are good people but my FIL never shuts up. I’m trying to talk to my toddler or nurse the baby and he continues his long story about how great his kids were. My MIL questions everything I do (why don’t you let 2.5 yr old watch tv? Why don’t you make him say he’s sorry when he does something wrong? Why don’t you make him try new food? Etc.)

And they refuse to call the baby the nickname we chose and love. They keep yelling her formal name even though she doesn’t respond!!

Just a vent.

MIL is right about a few things.
You should ask your son say sorry when he does something wrong. And trying new food is healthy, it's part of a future healthy diet.
Kids would only eat pasta if you let them ... It's your job to teach them.

The nickname is what it is. You chose to give him one, not everybody has to like it or say it.
I would also say the formal name if I didn't like the nickname.

Maybe they're not easy but you're not either.

WRONG!!

Regarding “I’m sorry”: a toddler isn’t sorry and forcing them to say something untrue is confusing. Also, with smart kids, “I’m sorry” is used as a get-out-of-jail-Free card. The toddler sacks his sister and then quickly says “I’m sorry” which puts an immediate end to the issue. You try to talk about it and the kid says “I told you I was sorry!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One week down and one week to go...

My husband’s parents are good people but my FIL never shuts up. I’m trying to talk to my toddler or nurse the baby and he continues his long story about how great his kids were. My MIL questions everything I do (why don’t you let 2.5 yr old watch tv? Why don’t you make him say he’s sorry when he does something wrong? Why don’t you make him try new food? Etc.)

And they refuse to call the baby the nickname we chose and love. They keep yelling her formal name even though she doesn’t respond!!

Just a vent.

MIL is right about a few things.
You should ask your son say sorry when he does something wrong. And trying new food is healthy, it's part of a future healthy diet.
Kids would only eat pasta if you let them ... It's your job to teach them.

The nickname is what it is. You chose to give him one, not everybody has to like it or say it.
I would also say the formal name if I didn't like the nickname.

Maybe they're not easy but you're not either.

WRONG!!

Regarding “I’m sorry”: a toddler isn’t sorry and forcing them to say something untrue is confusing. Also, with smart kids, “I’m sorry” is used as a get-out-of-jail-Free card. The toddler sacks his sister and then quickly says “I’m sorry” which puts an immediate end to the issue. You try to talk about it and the kid says “I told you I was sorry!”

Also WRONG on the “just try a bite”. Would you try a bite of dirt if I offered it to you? Seriously, just try a bite of this roach - it’s delicious. No. That’s what strange food looks like to a toddler. So much better to respect your child and introduce him to new food by watching you eat and enjoy it. Meals should never be a battle.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One week down and one week to go...

My husband’s parents are good people but my FIL never shuts up. I’m trying to talk to my toddler or nurse the baby and he continues his long story about how great his kids were. My MIL questions everything I do (why don’t you let 2.5 yr old watch tv? Why don’t you make him say he’s sorry when he does something wrong? Why don’t you make him try new food? Etc.)

And they refuse to call the baby the nickname we chose and love. They keep yelling her formal name even though she doesn’t respond!!

Just a vent.

MIL is right about a few things.
You should ask your son say sorry when he does something wrong. And trying new food is healthy, it's part of a future healthy diet.
Kids would only eat pasta if you let them ... It's your job to teach them.

The nickname is what it is. You chose to give him one, not everybody has to like it or say it.
I would also say the formal name if I didn't like the nickname.

Maybe they're not easy but you're not either.

WRONG!!

Regarding “I’m sorry”: a toddler isn’t sorry and forcing them to say something untrue is confusing. Also, with smart kids, “I’m sorry” is used as a get-out-of-jail-Free card. The toddler sacks his sister and then quickly says “I’m sorry” which puts an immediate end to the issue. You try to talk about it and the kid says “I told you I was sorry!”

Also WRONG on the “just try a bite”. Would you try a bite of dirt if I offered it to you? Seriously, just try a bite of this roach - it’s delicious. No. That’s what strange food looks like to a toddler. So much better to respect your child and introduce him to new food by watching you eat and enjoy it. Meals should never be a battle.

The nickname thing is just annoying. Who the f are the grandparents to decide what to call the baby? Plus she doesn’t respond to it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One week down and one week to go...

My husband’s parents are good people but my FIL never shuts up. I’m trying to talk to my toddler or nurse the baby and he continues his long story about how great his kids were. My MIL questions everything I do (why don’t you let 2.5 yr old watch tv? Why don’t you make him say he’s sorry when he does something wrong? Why don’t you make him try new food? Etc.)

And they refuse to call the baby the nickname we chose and love. They keep yelling her formal name even though she doesn’t respond!!

Just a vent.

MIL is right about a few things.
You should ask your son say sorry when he does something wrong. And trying new food is healthy, it's part of a future healthy diet.
Kids would only eat pasta if you let them ... It's your job to teach them.

The nickname is what it is. You chose to give him one, not everybody has to like it or say it.
I would also say the formal name if I didn't like the nickname.

Maybe they're not easy but you're not either.

WRONG!!

Regarding “I’m sorry”: a toddler isn’t sorry and forcing them to say something untrue is confusing. Also, with smart kids, “I’m sorry” is used as a get-out-of-jail-Free card. The toddler sacks his sister and then quickly says “I’m sorry” which puts an immediate end to the issue. You try to talk about it and the kid says “I told you I was sorry!”

Also WRONG on the “just try a bite”. Would you try a bite of dirt if I offered it to you? Seriously, just try a bite of this roach - it’s delicious. No. That’s what strange food looks like to a toddler. So much better to respect your child and introduce him to new food by watching you eat and enjoy it. Meals should never be a battle.

The nickname thing is just annoying. Who the f are the grandparents to decide what to call the baby? Plus she doesn’t respond to it.

Why would you name a kid something but call her by a nickname so the kid doesn't even know her formal name? Why not just name your kid nickname? Seems ridiculous to me and this is going to be something OP has to fight for years to come. Just a really stupid parenting choice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One week down and one week to go...

My husband’s parents are good people but my FIL never shuts up. I’m trying to talk to my toddler or nurse the baby and he continues his long story about how great his kids were. My MIL questions everything I do (why don’t you let 2.5 yr old watch tv? Why don’t you make him say he’s sorry when he does something wrong? Why don’t you make him try new food? Etc.)

And they refuse to call the baby the nickname we chose and love. They keep yelling her formal name even though she doesn’t respond!!

Just a vent.

MIL is right about a few things.
You should ask your son say sorry when he does something wrong. And trying new food is healthy, it's part of a future healthy diet.
Kids would only eat pasta if you let them ... It's your job to teach them.

The nickname is what it is. You chose to give him one, not everybody has to like it or say it.
I would also say the formal name if I didn't like the nickname.

Maybe they're not easy but you're not either.

WRONG!!

Regarding “I’m sorry”: a toddler isn’t sorry and forcing them to say something untrue is confusing. Also, with smart kids, “I’m sorry” is used as a get-out-of-jail-Free card. The toddler sacks his sister and then quickly says “I’m sorry” which puts an immediate end to the issue. You try to talk about it and the kid says “I told you I was sorry!”

Also WRONG on the “just try a bite”. Would you try a bite of dirt if I offered it to you? Seriously, just try a bite of this roach - it’s delicious. No. That’s what strange food looks like to a toddler. So much better to respect your child and introduce him to new food by watching you eat and enjoy it. Meals should never be a battle.

The nickname thing is just annoying. Who the f are the grandparents to decide what to call the baby? Plus she doesn’t respond to it.

Why would you name a kid something but call her by a nickname so the kid doesn't even know her formal name? Why not just name your kid nickname? Seems ridiculous to me and this is going to be something OP has to fight for years to come. Just a really stupid parenting choice.

Maybe (I wouldn't do this either), but different people like different things and ultimately who cares. In a couple of years the kid will be big enough to decide if she likes going by Ginny or if she'd rather be Virginia now and will say so. Heck, my own kid went through a phase where she wouldn't respond to any name except Ramona (which is not even close to her real name).

The OP was just venting about something that annoyed her, not trying to solve a problem.

Deep breaths, OP. You sound like you need a break - I give you permission to go get a coffee by yourself and take a book!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One week down and one week to go...

My husband’s parents are good people but my FIL never shuts up. I’m trying to talk to my toddler or nurse the baby and he continues his long story about how great his kids were. My MIL questions everything I do (why don’t you let 2.5 yr old watch tv? Why don’t you make him say he’s sorry when he does something wrong? Why don’t you make him try new food? Etc.)

And they refuse to call the baby the nickname we chose and love. They keep yelling her formal name even though she doesn’t respond!!

Just a vent.

MIL is right about a few things.
You should ask your son say sorry when he does something wrong. And trying new food is healthy, it's part of a future healthy diet.
Kids would only eat pasta if you let them ... It's your job to teach them.

The nickname is what it is. You chose to give him one, not everybody has to like it or say it.
I would also say the formal name if I didn't like the nickname.

Maybe they're not easy but you're not either.

WRONG!!

Regarding “I’m sorry”: a toddler isn’t sorry and forcing them to say something untrue is confusing. Also, with smart kids, “I’m sorry” is used as a get-out-of-jail-Free card. The toddler sacks his sister and then quickly says “I’m sorry” which puts an immediate end to the issue. You try to talk about it and the kid says “I told you I was sorry!”

Also WRONG on the “just try a bite”. Would you try a bite of dirt if I offered it to you? Seriously, just try a bite of this roach - it’s delicious. No. That’s what strange food looks like to a toddler. So much better to respect your child and introduce him to new food by watching you eat and enjoy it. Meals should never be a battle.

The nickname thing is just annoying. Who the f are the grandparents to decide what to call the baby? Plus she doesn’t respond to it.

Why would you name a kid something but call her by a nickname so the kid doesn't even know her formal name? Why not just name your kid nickname? Seems ridiculous to me and this is going to be something OP has to fight for years to come. Just a really stupid parenting choice.

Who cares what you think?! Not your kid - not your decision.

[Anonymous]

Why are some people so hung up on the nickname thing? If I name my daughter Margaret and tell people we will call her Maggie, people should call her Maggie! And it doesn’t seem strange to me that 2 year old Maggie doesn’t yet know her full name is Margaret.

[Anonymous]

Go to your room to nurse. Also, nap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go to your room to nurse. Also, nap.

This. Nursing was always my respite from in-laws who loved nothing more than the sound of their own voices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One week down and one week to go...

My husband’s parents are good people but my FIL never shuts up. I’m trying to talk to my toddler or nurse the baby and he continues his long story about how great his kids were. My MIL questions everything I do (why don’t you let 2.5 yr old watch tv? Why don’t you make him say he’s sorry when he does something wrong? Why don’t you make him try new food? Etc.)

And they refuse to call the baby the nickname we chose and love. They keep yelling her formal name even though she doesn’t respond!!

Just a vent.

MIL is right about a few things.
You should ask your son say sorry when he does something wrong. And trying new food is healthy, it's part of a future healthy diet.
Kids would only eat pasta if you let them ... It's your job to teach them.

The nickname is what it is. You chose to give him one, not everybody has to like it or say it.
I would also say the formal name if I didn't like the nickname.

Maybe they're not easy but you're not either.

+1

My base on the nickname is that if you wanted people to only call him the nickname then you should’ve given him that name.. I agree with what the PP said above on everything.

They appear to be loving and focus on the good. Not a single person doesn’t have annoying qualities.

[Anonymous]

OP, be grateful. I’m sure you have annoying habits too. Enjoy the visit.

[Anonymous]

1302 and 1303 you might be the same person but it sounds like you let your kids rule the roost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One week down and one week to go...

My husband’s parents are good people but my FIL never shuts up. I’m trying to talk to my toddler or nurse the baby and he continues his long story about how great his kids were. My MIL questions everything I do (why don’t you let 2.5 yr old watch tv? Why don’t you make him say he’s sorry when he does something wrong? Why don’t you make him try new food? Etc.)

And they refuse to call the baby the nickname we chose and love. They keep yelling her formal name even though she doesn’t respond!!

Just a vent.

MIL is right about a few things.
You should ask your son say sorry when he does something wrong. And trying new food is healthy, it's part of a future healthy diet.
Kids would only eat pasta if you let them ... It's your job to teach them.

The nickname is what it is. You chose to give him one, not everybody has to like it or say it.
I would also say the formal name if I didn't like the nickname.

Maybe they're not easy but you're not either.

+1

My base on the nickname is that if you wanted people to only call him the nickname then you should’ve given him that name.. I agree with what the PP said above on everything.

They appear to be loving and focus on the good. Not a single person doesn’t have annoying qualities.

We named our daughter Elizabeth and everyone calls her a common nickname for Elizabeth that we chose before she was born. It has never been an issue and literally no one insists on calling her Elizabeth.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One week down and one week to go...

My husband’s parents are good people but my FIL never shuts up. I’m trying to talk to my toddler or nurse the baby and he continues his long story about how great his kids were. My MIL questions everything I do (why don’t you let 2.5 yr old watch tv? Why don’t you make him say he’s sorry when he does something wrong? Why don’t you make him try new food? Etc.)

And they refuse to call the baby the nickname we chose and love. They keep yelling her formal name even though she doesn’t respond!!

Just a vent.

MIL is right about a few things.
You should ask your son say sorry when he does something wrong. And trying new food is healthy, it's part of a future healthy diet.
Kids would only eat pasta if you let them ... It's your job to teach them.

The nickname is what it is. You chose to give him one, not everybody has to like it or say it.
I would also say the formal name if I didn't like the nickname.

Maybe they're not easy but you're not either.

WRONG!!

Regarding “I’m sorry”: a toddler isn’t sorry and forcing them to say something untrue is confusing. Also, with smart kids, “I’m sorry” is used as a get-out-of-jail-Free card. The toddler sacks his sister and then quickly says “I’m sorry” which puts an immediate end to the issue. You try to talk about it and the kid says “I told you I was sorry!”

Also WRONG on the “just try a bite”. Would you try a bite of dirt if I offered it to you? Seriously, just try a bite of this roach - it’s delicious. No. That’s what strange food looks like to a toddler. So much better to respect your child and introduce him to new food by watching you eat and enjoy it. Meals should never be a battle.

The nickname thing is just annoying. Who the f are the grandparents to decide what to call the baby? Plus she doesn’t respond to it.

Why would you name a kid something but call her by a nickname so the kid doesn't even know her formal name? Why not just name your kid nickname? Seems ridiculous to me and this is going to be something OP has to fight for years to come. Just a really stupid parenting choice.

Oof...not the op, you sound incredibly rude.