I know a ton who work fulltime and our kids aren’t even at that school. |
No one with their kids in private maybe. |
Must be. Same neighborhood, older kids though, and no one I know who stayed at home had a nanny. |
I would agree with the 65/35 split. The Republican presence just feels more prominent because in so many other schools in this area the split is more like 90/10. Frankly, there's a real opportunity for STA to put on programs that model civil dialogue on sensitive issues for the entire community and beyond. The kids actually get some of those opportunities in the classroom, government club, etc. As for the moms, I know as many working moms as SAHMs. |
I don't have a kid at the school but why must people always take cheap shots at women?! MYOB OP. Live your life and don't worry about what other people are doing. Leave women alone. |
No, it's not. https://femmagazine.com/feminism-101-what-is-choice-feminism/ Additionally, it’s important to note that even if this form of the feminist movement was more inclusive, it still misidentifies the most central goal of the movement itself. The choice rhetoric only serves to distract from pursuing equality and justifies internalized misogyny. Just because there is not a singular, unified vision of what equality is, does not mean it should be rebranded as the ability to choose between mundane activities within a given power structure. It’s this hyperfixation on the choices of individual women that derails choice feminism from the entirety of the movement. Feminism is first and foremost about gender equality, so how can this ideology really fit, if it misses the main point? |
It's a mix. In the LS, there are more SAHMs. As you get to the US, there are more and more working moms. I don't know if that's because the parents who apply at later years tend to be more working parents, or whether it's because moms go back to work once their kids no longer need them so intensively.
Politically, it does differ from class to class. Some forms are full of conservative families, others more liberal. It seems more liberal in US to me. Faculty and admin are pretty liberal, as are the chaplains. That reflects the liberalism of the Episcopal church. |
Our experience as well, and I would agree about the "feel." Our DS was fortunate enough to be admitted to multiple schools (including the so-called "big 3") and we found in some instances that 90/10 was generous. Different strokes for different folks, but, as liberals, we appreciate ideological diversity (within reason--I will be clear that we think that inflammatory, racist, and sexist language--the type often used by Trump is unacceptable FROM ANYONE--and we would not be happy if that were a feature of the school, which we don't find it to be). Not all do. Our view is that our son won't (and shouldn't) live in the DC bubble his whole life, and more than that, he will be a better steward of and advocate for his beliefs if they are fully formed, tested, and refined through civil discourse and debate. Re: working moms--tons of moms work. Tons stay home. Tons have flexible jobs that they have worked very hard to attain (high-powered, but flexible hours--ahh, the dream). For me personally--emphasis on me personally--I think my accomplishments and my job are good things for my son to see in his mother. Others make different choices, and that is what it's all about--choices. In fact, my son has definitely said to me a few times that he wishes I didn't have to work. I hope this doesn't become a SAHM vs. WOHM debate. So tired. OP, if what you're asking is whether you'll find moms who work at STA? Yes, you will. SAHM's? Yes. Formerly working moms? Yes. Part-time working moms? Yes. Flexible job moms? Yes. Figure out if STA is where your son wants to be/where you think he'll be happy and thrive. You'll find your people anywhere. Truly. |
Oh take this nonsense elsewhere. I don’t think anyone cares what you think about whether they work or don’t work. I’m a liberal but if you want to say I’m not a liberal or feminist because I don’t work go ahead. I made a lot of money in the stock market in my 20s and 30s which allows me to not work and because I made a lot of money I’m also independent financially which technically makes me the “breadwinner” of the house even though I don’t report to an office. Take your nonsense elsewhere. |
This is not at all true of our close-in McLean neighborhood. Families in both public and private, and we know very few SAHMs with nannies. They are very involved in their children’s activities, from volunteering in the classroom to running scout troops to chauffeuring their kids around. Is it really that different in Bethesda?? |
But aren't you talking of the kids here and not the parents (OP's focus)? Most teens I know have very strong views of their own and may not necessarily fall on the same end of the political spectrum of their parents (in fact, may purposely advocate the other side for the sake of it!!) |
I don't know but I'm not making this up. I moved to upper NW (as a SAHM) from elsewhere in the US and I felt like a fish out of water because I didn't have close to full time help--these were moms I met in a variety of different circles: preschool, church, sports, neighborhood, playgroups, exercise classes. They all had a ton of help. I got tired of hearing from everyone "you're so amazing for doing it by yourself". For the record, I "did it by myself" because we couldn't afford help outside of an occasional sitter. I ended up going back to work after a few years. |
You've totally missed the point, which is that the 'choice' feminist argument is elitist and misogynistic and only used by bs-spouting rich women living off their fancy husbands. |
our experience in Bethesda sounds like yours in McLean. Very uncommon for a family with a stay at home parent to also have a nanny. SAHP is doing a lot of school volunteer work, driving kids all over for activities (during week and on weekend too). |
Sounds like you are seeking out a different type of person to hang out with than I am. There are many types of people at any church, school, etc. Exercise class seems even more likely to be self-selecting. I generally want to be around down to earth, unpretentious, genuine types, and these tend to be SAHP without nannies. Not many SAHP with no nanny have the ability to go to exercise classes regularly because they are somewhere with their kids. |