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how often do you talk/communicate with your spouse during the workday?
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It depends on how busy we are. Sometimes there is no time to talk during the day. But I usually talk to him on the way home, even if we have nothing to talk about. I'll ask him to stay on the phone with me so I can dodge all the sales pitch people on every corner.
OP, I would be hurt too if DH never had time to talk. Maybe he is super busy, but I think he could at least tell you something short and sweet. Maybe if you don't call him all week and appear to be too busy for him for a change, he'll get the hint. |
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ITA. DH and I talk 4-5 times during the day, plus many emails. We both work very stressful and busy jobs, although I'm on leave right now. But it only takes a second to say hi and check in. I once dated someone who would "forget" to call me back during the work day (we actually worked together, so I know it wasn't because he was too busy; he spent hours on the phone with his buddies). Oddly enough, after we broke up, he started remembering to call all of the time. I think it was more about the idea of establishing a boundary than anything else. Does your DH erect boundaries in other areas of your life, too? Do you feel like you are getting enough from him emotionally? If so, you might consider single or couples therapy... |
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| I SAH and my husband works outside the home. We talk and/or e-mail 3-4 times a day. But, he bills in 6 minute increments and will usually hang up after 5 and a half minutes! So hard to vent when I'm on the clock! |
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We never talk during the day -- he calls me from the car to say he is on his way home.
We have been happily married for 20 years, together for 25. |
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| Somedays we'll call or email 2-3 times. Sometimes not at all. Just depends on the day. If we don't talk at all it's not a problem or a worry. |
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| ONce a day to check in. Never to chat. |
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We never talk during the day -- he calls me from the car to say he is on his way home.
We have been happily married for 20 years, together for 25. this is us too. Unless there is an emergency of course. But we have been married 7 years. 
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We're both busy and we never talk on the phone during the day unless there's something urgent. I'd say that's maybe once or twice a month. Maybe.
We do email each other -- sometimes once a day, sometimes not. It can be anything from a question (scheduling/home stuff etc.), to sharing something about DD, to forwarding a link we saw. Often the other person doesn't reply, which is fine. This works for us! |
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We IM all day long. We both do web design and work part-time so one of us is home with our son all day. So I like to IM and say "what is he doing now?"
I think it's just a combination of communication style and work climate. |
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Before cell phones were the norm, I would call DH's office and a particular admin person would actually give me a hard time about calling. Did I mention that DH was the owner of the company and the next time she asked for a fancy raise and/or fancy title and/or fancy expensive coursework, she got canned! Oops! Funny how that happens....... |
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| Dh and I email on an as needed basis for logistics. Sometimes calls if something is urgent (sick kid, doctor update, things like that). Some days we are both working from home and email each other. We tend to save our conversations for after work hours, when we can focus on each other. |
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| We call each other to check in and say hi. I like his voice. |
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Usually at least one phone call "just to say hi". He usually calls me. For actual questions/logistics, we text.
OP, have you tried texting with your husband? |
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No b/c we're both texting morons. I don't have a blackberry, and my phone is not the easiest for texting (tho my 9-yr old has no problem with it!). |
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Sometimes three times in a day, sometimes not at all. Our communication is more via text and email than by phone. One of us might email a photo of the baby to the other who is working late or away. We're busy during the day, and in "work mode" which is more focused, not chatty.
Not returning your calls? Are you requesting info? Asking for him to make decisions on something? If he's holding you up, I guess you could take the same approach his colleagues might take: I need your input by X time or else I'll proceed to do Y. Also wondering if he'd be more willing to respond to an IM or text than a phone call. The busier I am, the more that would be the case for me. |