how often do you talk/communicate with your spouse during the workday?

[Anonymous]

We talk on the phone once at the most, but that's pretty rare. We text a lot most days, though.

[Anonymous]

All day. DH works from home, and I am a SAHM.

[Anonymous]

I'm surprised at all the people who say they never or rarely talk during the workday. We do all the time--probably 3-4x/day for several minutes each time, although usually it's "talking" via IM rather than on the phone. We're both really busy during our work days, but not too busy to chat quickly. It makes a great break from working and also keeps us connected.

[Anonymous]

"Keeps us connected. . ." I don't need to IM at work -I'm working- to do that. It's rare that there is something that cannot wait until he or I get home. Rare meaning couple times a week. But, neither of us are phone talkers in general. So, that probably plays into it, too.

Side note: My DH's work buddies (who are all married) complain CONSTANTLY about their wives bugging them at work over every little thing. Don't know if your DH's have ever noticed that or not. I'm sure not ALL husbands think that but, uniformly, all of my DH's do.

[Anonymous]

DH and I work together too, and we communicate twice a day via email. Once at lunch, "Are you ready for lunch?" and once when we leave "Are you ready to leave?"

It works for us! Some people really don't like talking on the phone very much, your DH is probably one of them.

[Anonymous]

At least twice a day, usually more.

[Anonymous]

We have IM on both our computers if we need to get hold of each other, and we talk on the phone maybe twice per day.

[Anonymous]

We IM briefly about twice a day. Usually one of these is the daily "when are you coming home? conversation"

[Anonymous]

We talk on the phone soon after we arrive to check in on day care drop off, then at lunch time, then sometime during the afternoon. Calls are usually no more than a couple of minutes long.

[Anonymous]

OP here.

I'm obviously not alone!

I guess the thing that bothers me is that it would NEVER occur to him to call to check in or say hi, and most of the times I call him, as soon as he hears my voice, he says "gotta call you back" and hangs up, then doesn't call back. It makes me feel like no matter what I need/want to tell him, I'm a nuisance and less important than everything else he's doing.

[Anonymous]

My husband tends to be short with me when he is at work and I usually call just to give over info on kids. Yesterday I was upset due to a family drama and I thought he didn't hear me.Imagine my surprise when a dozen roses arrived saying to "hang in there!!"

[Anonymous]

Almost never. If he calls I know there is some sort of logistical thing he needs to check with me.

[Anonymous]

My husband gets mad if I do not call him to say hello!! we talk twice a day or sometimes more.

[Anonymous]

he "never remembers or gets around to calling me back"

OP - this is unacceptable and plain rude/insensitive.

I work full time too, but I always call back when I say I will call back. This is a red flag for me that he is disrespectful.

[Anonymous]

not often. some days barely a call. My husband is a consultant that is often in meetings all day. I tend to only textor call if it's an emergency,. I will email---and we sometimes will converse. It really depends on his day. Days that are lighter for him he will check in more. I work by myself at computer all day so I would be able to converse more readily. I don't think it's weird to not have much communication.