Ladies, where did you meet your AP?

Anonymous
Work, different locations. Luckily he left the company a few months into it and moved south. We stayed emotionally involved for 2 years after.
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Also, there are a few nice happy hour places are DC.


Which few?


if you work in a local area where there are professional offices, go where the business professionals go. I found a local place near my job that older guys hang out after work. Its in a hotel. Also, conference season is coming up and the traveling guys are tons of fun.


Are you a hooker by any chance? Serious question..
gentry
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Why wouldn’t an attractive women seek an AP if she’s not getting the attention that she needs?

Relax, moral crusaders. You clearly knew the content of the thread when you chose to click on it....just like a fine mistress knows she’s about to be satisfied when she leaves her home for mine.
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Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how many people are SEEKING out affairs. It's a whole other level of affair.


Did you think they happened as a coincidence. I would think that most guys that are open to an affair are actively looking for them. Married men are very aggressive when it comes to arranging an affair. They have a goal and they will reach the target no matter what it takes. They could teach a few of the single men on how to attract and go after a woman.


Who the crap are you talking about? Most married guys I know are too busy killing themselves at work to come complicate their lives with an affair.


Oh honey. You must not be very attractive.


Oh, it is the “oh honey” poster. Loser poster alert
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+1,000,000


+1,000,000?.

Somebody is sock-puppeting themselves.
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Anonymous wrote:Through work but we never worked at the same place.

We became work social-ish acquaintances (occasional lunches), then friends, then after about 4 years, emails turned to an intense emotional affair, which turned physical almost two years ago.

Both of us were what you might call ripe for affairs. We has tough home lives; his wife cut off all sexual contact after menopause, my husband lost sex drive and has big emotional and physical challenges. But neither of us was looking for an affair.

We weren't looking for it but it's impossible to imagine life without it at this point. Life without sex is soul crushing. I'd rather have to give up food and live on tasteless nutrition shakes than live without sex again.

Of course it's messy because you inevitably fall in love with the person who brings intimacy back to your life. But we're good at finding ways and times to be close. We're meeting later today in fact. Jumping out of my skin; it's been 9 days since the last time (had a couple of lunches though and talk every day) and that is far too long. Can't believe I made it years without intimacy before this.


For me.. My Kids. I make this huge sacrifice that they will never appreciate

Serious question: why are you still married?


Kids. Extended families. Spouses who have needs that we fill. Decades of life built up that each would have to walk away from. Money. Fear of others' judgment.



You’re affair martyrs??? Lol give me a break. Poor you, no choice but to destroy your marriage vows and be a liar to everyone you know.

Having an affair is the ultimate sham. You present one face to the world but you’re really someone different. You should own up to what you’re doing, put the truth out there, and face the consequences. Otherwise you’re just a sneaky COWARD.


I actually tried and it was my DW that stopped and created the distance... Not Me! After several “discussions”, she didn’t live up to what a normal role for a DW. I wanted to be a great dad and I have been. There is so much more that will not share because I don’t want people that I know who might be reading this board to know things that they don’t need to know. Bottom line is unless you have walk in my footsteps and know what I have endorsed.. Do not judge me.


Boo hoo cry me a river. Puh-lease. Grow a pair and leave your wife already if you’re not happy.

What is the point of getting married and making vows to your spouse if you decide to just trample all over them later? Do marriage vows have an expiration date nowadays? If so that’s fine, just make sure your spouse knows this as well.
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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I am a sneaky coward


And PP is a judgy biyotch. PP: Sorry your husband cheated on you, but you can't possibly know the various individual circumstances that lead some to consider outsourcing. Starvation, for instance, can drive people to extremes.


Judgy bitch? Nah. Just someone who believes honesty is the best policy. Sorry I don’t condone your sham lifestyle you’re pulling off here. Your kids will be screwed up for life when they find out the truth. And they will find out the truth.

My granddad died at almost 90 years old, and my dad and his sibling found out at the funeral that they had another sibling they never knew about. You can’t hide the truth forever!
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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I am a sneaky coward


And PP is a judgy biyotch. PP: Sorry your husband cheated on you, but you can't possibly know the various individual circumstances that lead some to consider outsourcing. Starvation, for instance, can drive people to extremes.


I'm the PP who wrote the story of my affair. Someone else wrote that they were a sneaky coward. It wasn't me. Whoever did that is welcome to call me a coward but not to pretend to speak for me.
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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I am a sneaky coward


And PP is a judgy biyotch. PP: Sorry your husband cheated on you, but you can't possibly know the various individual circumstances that lead some to consider outsourcing. Starvation, for instance, can drive people to extremes.


Judgy bitch? Nah. Just someone who believes honesty is the best policy. Sorry I don’t condone your sham lifestyle you’re pulling off here. Your kids will be screwed up for life when they find out the truth. And they will find out the truth.

My granddad died at almost 90 years old, and my dad and his sibling found out at the funeral that they had another sibling they never knew about. You can’t hide the truth forever!


Very sorry this subject touches such a nerve for you.

I had my tubes tied years ago and am in my late 40s. There will be no secret kids.

The overwhelming bulk of affairs are never discovered.

Maybe dedicate all of your passion to being great in bed and you won't have to worry.
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Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how many people are SEEKING out affairs. It's a whole other level of affair.


Did you think they happened as a coincidence. I would think that most guys that are open to an affair are actively looking for them. Married men are very aggressive when it comes to arranging an affair. They have a goal and they will reach the target no matter what it takes. They could teach a few of the single men on how to attract and go after a woman.


Who the crap are you talking about? Most married guys I know are too busy killing themselves at work to come complicate their lives with an affair.


Oh honey. You must not be very attractive.


Oh, it is the “oh honey” poster. Loser poster alert
.

+1,000,000


+1,000,000?.

Somebody is sock-puppeting themselves.


No, i just agree strongly. I'm not a fan of the condescending "oh, honey." And then to say something about the poster's attractiveness ... ridiculous. I know dcum is a hotbed of insults, but I'm not a fan. There is no need to act like that.
Anonymous
So, the original poster asked if anyone met on Ashley Madison? Just wondering if this is a viable option.
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Anonymous wrote:So, the original poster asked if anyone met on Ashley Madison? Just wondering if this is a viable option.


I have a married friend, a woman, who met her AP on Ashley Madison. It has a lot of options for women especially if you are looking for another married person. I met my AP on Tinder. I am married. AP is single.
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Anonymous wrote:Through work but we never worked at the same place.

We became work social-ish acquaintances (occasional lunches), then friends, then after about 4 years, emails turned to an intense emotional affair, which turned physical almost two years ago.

Both of us were what you might call ripe for affairs. We has tough home lives; his wife cut off all sexual contact after menopause, my husband lost sex drive and has big emotional and physical challenges. But neither of us was looking for an affair.

We weren't looking for it but it's impossible to imagine life without it at this point. Life without sex is soul crushing. I'd rather have to give up food and live on tasteless nutrition shakes than live without sex again.

Of course it's messy because you inevitably fall in love with the person who brings intimacy back to your life. But we're good at finding ways and times to be close. We're meeting later today in fact. Jumping out of my skin; it's been 9 days since the last time (had a couple of lunches though and talk every day) and that is far too long. Can't believe I made it years without intimacy before this.


For me.. My Kids. I make this huge sacrifice that they will never appreciate

Serious question: why are you still married?


Kids. Extended families. Spouses who have needs that we fill. Decades of life built up that each would have to walk away from. Money. Fear of others' judgment.



You’re affair martyrs??? Lol give me a break. Poor you, no choice but to destroy your marriage vows and be a liar to everyone you know.

Having an affair is the ultimate sham. You present one face to the world but you’re really someone different. You should own up to what you’re doing, put the truth out there, and face the consequences. Otherwise you’re just a sneaky COWARD.


I actually tried and it was my DW that stopped and created the distance... Not Me! After several “discussions”, she didn’t live up to what a normal role for a DW. I wanted to be a great dad and I have been. There is so much more that will not share because I don’t want people that I know who might be reading this board to know things that they don’t need to know. Bottom line is unless you have walk in my footsteps and know what I have endorsed.. Do not judge me.


Boo hoo cry me a river. Puh-lease. Grow a pair and leave your wife already if you’re not happy.

What is the point of getting married and making vows to your spouse if you decide to just trample all over them later? Do marriage vows have an expiration date nowadays? If so that’s fine, just make sure your spouse knows this as well.


I love how people throw vows around when it comes to affairs but are perfectly fine with divorce or declaring sex strikes.. So it's just some of the vows that are important.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:So, the original poster asked if anyone met on Ashley Madison? Just wondering if this is a viable option.


I've had several APs in the last 8 years that I met on AM and other sites. After their big bust, the site is even better but, like any dating site, you need to know how to work it.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can't get over how many people are SEEKING out affairs. It's a whole other level of affair.


Did you think they happened as a coincidence. I would think that most guys that are open to an affair are actively looking for them. Married men are very aggressive when it comes to arranging an affair. They have a goal and they will reach the target no matter what it takes. They could teach a few of the single men on how to attract and go after a woman.


Who the crap are you talking about? Most married guys I know are too busy killing themselves at work to come complicate their lives with an affair.


Oh honey. You must not be very attractive.


Oh, it is the “oh honey” poster. Loser poster alert
.

+1,000,000


+1,000,000?.

Somebody is sock-puppeting themselves.


You wish. I posted the “loser alert” but not the +1,000,000. Other posters find you annoying as well.
Anonymous
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