Polite way to say "We are not revealing our name choices?"

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[Post New]10/09/2009 11:08
Anonymous
i get asked all the time if we've chosen a name. We have, and we're not sharing. I say it just like that.

Question: Have you decided on a name yet?

Me: We have, but we're not sharing.

Most people understand, but if I'm pressed on the issue I am honest with them. I say, "We're not telling because I don't want unsolicited advice on whether or not people like the name." That usually ends the conversation.
[Post New]10/09/2009 14:53
Anonymous
OUr response is "we have to decide whose last name the baby is going to have before we choose a first name." that tends to change the subject (and it's true, not a joke).

other friends of ours 'faked' people out by offering all their runner ups and middle names, but not the first name they had ultimately chosen. this way they got to hear opinions, etc, but kept their chosen one private.
[Post New]10/09/2009 15:04
Anonymous
Maybe I'm rude, but I tell people straight out that we're not sharing the name before the birth. It's not so it can be some kind of grand surprise. It stems from two things. One, that I'm come from a background where we're superstitious and don't use the baby's name before the birth and two, because I'd like to reserve the right to change my mind without it causing WWII among my family. We're considering two family names, but from opposite sides of the family and if I committed to one and then changed to the other, I would never hear the end of it.

You try dealing with a pissed off 93 year old Bubbe

My husband and I don't even refer to the baby by a name when we talk about her among ourselves. She's always just "Baby".

I did enjoy seeing my father's face when I told him that the baby woud be named Shenaynay when he wouldn't stop asking.
[Post New]10/09/2009 15:29
Anonymous
We have names but haven't shared them with anyone because (1) we don't want any unsolicited input about the names and (2) we're superstitious and don't even refer to the baby by the name. (We don't know the sex so that makes it easier - we just refer to it as Baby). No one's been outwardly offended. 90% of them are just asking out of mild curiousity anyway. And most of my friends have done the same as we have so I never even thought about telling people.
[Post New]10/09/2009 21:24
Anonymous
Yeah, I really don't think it's rude to say--"you know, we decided not to reveal our name choices before the baby arrives. We'll let you know in 3 months (2 months, 6 weeks, whatever)."
Firm, but polite.
[Post New]10/10/2009 17:25
Anonymous
We *thought* we'd decided on a name, told a few people, and have now changed our minds. So, that's what I tell people when they ask!
[Post New]10/10/2009 20:40
Anonymous
Both times we were expecting, we had a terrible time deciding on names. I told people that when they asked and at the very end of the pregnancy, I told them we'd narrowed it down to a few names and were going to wait to see the baby. Period.
[Post New]10/10/2009 22:05
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For those who think they are coming up with clever answers - trust me, you just sound like a moron when you tell people those "clever" answers but then again I imagine you are the same people who announce "we're pregnant!"

Its your child's name and people will be using for the rest of that child's life. Its not some major secret that, if revealed, will cause harm.


And YOU sound like a nosy, intrusive, abrasive, jerk. We chose not to tell people because we did not find out the gender (several people accused us of "knowing" that but just not wanting to tell, so weird). We told a few folks our name initially and one of the people, a colleague who annoys everyone, decided she thought it was going to be a girl and told everyone she *knew* I wanted a girl, and then proceeded to call the unborn child by the girl's name we had picked out. After that, we decided not to tell anyone else.

Oh, and, it was a BOY.


It's nosy to ask someone's name? Really?

Seriously, why did you even bother to care that some annoying coworker did this. Non one else did. Clearly once your child was born, it was not a girl and had a different name. Its not as if people are going to come up and say "YOU LIED! YOU Horrible person you!"
[Post New]10/10/2009 22:07
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For those who think they are coming up with clever answers - trust me, you just sound like a moron when you tell people those "clever" answers but then again I imagine you are the same people who announce "we're pregnant!"

Its your child's name and people will be using for the rest of that child's life. Its not some major secret that, if revealed, will cause harm.

Right, that's all well and good. Until you tell people the name of your baby female fetus and everyone refers to it that way and everything is monogrammed with her name and lo and behold a baby boy is born.

With our second, we said, sorry, we're not talking about names with anyone--the baby will be named when when we lay eyes on him/her.


OMG the horror! Getting monogrammed gifts that end up in the charity box or worse yet, you have to rip out the monogramming if you want to use it. Again, its the child's name. It's going to be used day in and day out for the rest of their life - its not going to be a secret.

[Post New]10/10/2009 22:15
maynie
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For those who think they are coming up with clever answers - trust me, you just sound like a moron when you tell people those "clever" answers but then again I imagine you are the same people who announce "we're pregnant!"

Its your child's name and people will be using for the rest of that child's life. Its not some major secret that, if revealed, will cause harm.

Right, that's all well and good. Until you tell people the name of your baby female fetus and everyone refers to it that way and everything is monogrammed with her name and lo and behold a baby boy is born.

With our second, we said, sorry, we're not talking about names with anyone--the baby will be named when when we lay eyes on him/her.


OMG the horror! Getting monogrammed gifts that end up in the charity box or worse yet, you have to rip out the monogramming if you want to use it. Again, its the child's name. It's going to be used day in and day out for the rest of their life - its not going to be a secret.



I agree. This whole name reveal thing is a bit much IMO. I've asked my pregnant friends about it, but none of them know anyone doing this. And I've only heard about people doing it on here. Guess this trend depends on your circle of family and friends.
[Post New]10/11/2009 12:17
Anonymous
We revealed the names the first time but didn't know if we were having a boy or girl. There was lots of "feedback" on the name we chose (strong, Old Testament, biblical name), which really ticked me off, to be frank. This time, we found out gender but have kept it AND the name to ourselves (another strong, OT name). I tell everyone who asks to stay tuned!
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