cba wrote:to all of the non-judgmental responses - thank you.

and to those who did judge - when your marriage goes through tough times i hope you make better choices than i did

Anonymous wrote:

cba wrote:to all of the non-judgmental responses - thank you.

and to those who did judge - when your marriage goes through tough times i hope you make better choices than i did

Uh, yeah. My marriage went thru some super-tough times, and I managed not to cheat. It's not that hard. I have kids. I didn't want to take a financial hit. I had a sexless marriage, and I still didn't cheat. Instead, I was honest about what I needed in the marriage and after 2.5 years of trying to work it out unsuccessfully, I ended it with dignity. Was it hard to divorce? Sure. But a whole heck of a lot easier than trying to resolve my problems by lying and cheating and losing my own self-respect.

You cheaters always think that your problem is worse than anyone else's, that it's so painful you are justified in doing anything to relieve that pain. It's lame and narcissistic.

Anonymous wrote:It seems many people who have affairs feel regret and self loathing afterwards, but cant see that or realize it when they are in the fog.

cba wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many STD’s have you had?

none

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems many people who have affairs feel regret and self loathing afterwards, but cant see that or realize it when they are in the fog.

Many, perhaps, but not most IMO. If done right, and no one get's caught, it's just another chapter in life.

Anonymous wrote:

cba wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many STD’s have you had?

none

It's so funny to always hear people talking about STDs in an affair, as if that's such a high risk. The reality is, you are at much higher risk having sex with your average single person with an active sex life, than your average cheating married person.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

cba wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many STD’s have you had?

none

It's so funny to always hear people talking about STDs in an affair, as if that's such a high risk. The reality is, you are at much higher risk having sex with your average single person with an active sex life, than your average cheating married person.

You don't expect monogamy from a sexually active single person, but in marriage there is an expectation of monogamy. Statistically, the risk of STDs is higher in non-monogamous relationships with unprotected sex.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It seems many people who have affairs feel regret and self loathing afterwards, but cant see that or realize it when they are in the fog.

Many, perhaps, but not most IMO. If done right, and no one get's caught, it's just another chapter in life.

Anonymous wrote:I've had plenty of opportunities, never did it and I have no regrets. You, OP, are a loser!