Anonymous wrote:
I'm in the more common scenario that little faults which were barely noticeable when we lived just the two of us without much responsibility have snowballed into really big ones when you factor in kids and mortgage, etc.

Anonymous wrote:

He is VERY nice. Treats me incredibly well. He does work hard at his career but in a low pay/low prestige job and I am stressed about how we will make it work in this city.

what's low pay? whats your salary?

post pdh, I was making low 60s until I was in my late 30s in a high prestige but low pay environment. DH was making 75k at 40. We managed well.

Now, mid 40s I make double that. DH also doubled his salary between age 40 and 50. We both made some strategic moves.

We are 28.

He makes 82k

I make 65k.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

He is VERY nice. Treats me incredibly well. He does work hard at his career but in a low pay/low prestige job and I am stressed about how we will make it work in this city.

what's low pay? whats your salary?

post pdh, I was making low 60s until I was in my late 30s in a high prestige but low pay environment. DH was making 75k at 40. We managed well.

Now, mid 40s I make double that. DH also doubled his salary between age 40 and 50. We both made some strategic moves.

We are 28.

He makes 82k

I make 65k.

Dang girl. You have high expectations. Might be time to temper. If you are not a troll, that is.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

He is VERY nice. Treats me incredibly well. He does work hard at his career but in a low pay/low prestige job and I am stressed about how we will make it work in this city.

what's low pay? whats your salary?

post pdh, I was making low 60s until I was in my late 30s in a high prestige but low pay environment. DH was making 75k at 40. We managed well.

Now, mid 40s I make double that. DH also doubled his salary between age 40 and 50. We both made some strategic moves.

We are 28.

He makes 82k

I make 65k.

so put your skills and talents to use and go out and make a killing. he can stay home (if and when you decide to have kids) and you can be bread winner.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, found out DH has a sex addiction and is now going to be a soon Ex-DH.

Married 11 years, 3 kids and then she decided she is gay

Anonymous wrote:This is OP...I feel stupid since I feel i misread situations early in our dating and came to flattering conclusions.

Such as:

- Texts mom in the middle of a party: I thought aw how sweet! He is family oriented - turns out his mother is controlling and codependent
- Wears nice clothes and shoes: I thought wow he must come from a good family - his mom picked out his clothes to portray a certain image
- Graduated from an IVY and we met at a competitive internship: I thought he was hardworking and ambitious - turns out he is academically gifted but has little career skills or ambition

So now I sometimes wonder how did I get here with someone who I share little with

taketothebank wrote:

Married 11 years, 3 kids and then she decided she is gay

Wow. Sorry to hear this. Are you divorced now?

Anonymous wrote:OP your expectations are unrealistic or you are incredibly materialistic. I suggest you do what you need to in order to make bank and do some introspection on gratitude and happiness.

82k at 28 is an excellent salary for many ppl. Including ivy grads. One of my classmates is a billionaire. Like one of the richest ppl in the world. Not any more or less happy than most of us.