Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, we know that isn't true but I am so tired of the appts and medications and not being able to plan trips (work or personal) without an extensive calendar, moon alignments and testing the direction of the wind b/c we may need to be around for monitoring. We are doing ERA (aka mock transfer) so today was the first day of our mock transfer protocol. While sitting in the waiting room I just wanted to cry, mostly b/c I remember how excited I felt when we were trying to get pregnant with our first. Now we're closing in on two years of infertility cycles (started with clomid and have graduated to IVF) to get pregnant with our second. I am just tired. Physically, emotionally, all of it. I hate this. I hate feeling this way. I hate how it's impacted my marriage b/c my husband is ready to call it quits and I'm not ready to give up yet, so I feel selfish for wanting to do another cycle if this doesn't work. I'm almost 40 so that is a factor. If we do a second cycle, I'm hoping the stars align that I could do it while we wait for the biopsy results but thinking about three months of back to back to back monitoring, injections, the phone calls, all of it. It's exhausting. I am just tired and hoping this infertility train ends soon. Where's my fairy godmother? I think she lost her way so if you see her, tell her stop by my house. Please.

Similar boat but TTC #3, not #2. But both #1 and #2 were IVF. How many cycles of IVF have you done, OP?

I am only 7 months in and I am also sick of the monitoring, the not being able to plan stuff bc I may be pregnant but I may be starting another cycle etc. It's hard. It just plain sucks

But having gone through it twice, and now a third time, I really do think it's all worth it. I was miserable for both #1 and #2 while I was doing it, and then once I got pregnant, despite some PTSD, I was so glad I did it.

Anonymous wrote:Wait so op you've done 1 IVF, got 4 normal embryos, transferred 3 bfn, and one is left? So doing eRA before that?

Anonymous wrote:Hang in there and don't give up!!! I was a corporate exec- still am- but know how impossible it seems to plan life around these apts and keep it all together. I had the additional factor of doing all my IVF out of state- now that adds a whole other level of crazy.
My issue was all age related. I think if u know you want more kids--- and u have less than 3-- no way do I think this stuff makes sense if you have more than that- but if you are sane and doing this, it is simply perseverance and well thought out plan. I Wated time on one crazy clinic and the stupid stuff they had me do before we went to major top notch. Yes crazy hard on marriage.
But nothing is more worth the work than for a baby!
We had two on our own just looking at each other- then 4 years trying hard for last one. Finally went to donor egg and amazing amazing journey. That was much higher odds of success.
Keep trying with own eggs- Shady Grove is great-- don't give up. Once you are pregnant and into pregnancy, the stress of trying quickly fades away. I wouldn't stop until I had my baby and now I am fully 100% complete. I don't regret one hour minute or day I spent trying.
Cheer up! They are many things more difficult that don't result in a bouncing miracle of life ( which after all we went through I truly see the miracle of life).

Don't give up!!! Smile- baby u are meant to have is waiting for you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, we know that isn't true but I am so tired of the appts and medications and not being able to plan trips (work or personal) without an extensive calendar, moon alignments and testing the direction of the wind b/c we may need to be around for monitoring. We are doing ERA (aka mock transfer) so today was the first day of our mock transfer protocol. While sitting in the waiting room I just wanted to cry, mostly b/c I remember how excited I felt when we were trying to get pregnant with our first. Now we're closing in on two years of infertility cycles (started with clomid and have graduated to IVF) to get pregnant with our second. I am just tired. Physically, emotionally, all of it. I hate this. I hate feeling this way. I hate how it's impacted my marriage b/c my husband is ready to call it quits and I'm not ready to give up yet, so I feel selfish for wanting to do another cycle if this doesn't work. I'm almost 40 so that is a factor. If we do a second cycle, I'm hoping the stars align that I could do it while we wait for the biopsy results but thinking about three months of back to back to back monitoring, injections, the phone calls, all of it. It's exhausting. I am just tired and hoping this infertility train ends soon. Where's my fairy godmother? I think she lost her way so if you see her, tell her stop by my house. Please.

Similar boat but TTC #3, not #2. But both #1 and #2 were IVF. How many cycles of IVF have you done, OP?

I am only 7 months in and I am also sick of the monitoring, the not being able to plan stuff bc I may be pregnant but I may be starting another cycle etc. It's hard. It just plain sucks

But having gone through it twice, and now a third time, I really do think it's all worth it. I was miserable for both #1 and #2 while I was doing it, and then once I got pregnant, despite some PTSD, I was so glad I did it.

Anonymous wrote:so God doesn't like those of us who ran out of money or whose doctors said there was nothing more to be done?

j2415 wrote:
I would like to encourage you not to lose hope. This article, http://bit.ly/2neGGPW, might help you in coping with infertility. God has beautiful plans for you, and He will give your heart’s desire to have that child in His perfect time. Praying for you for comfort as you go through this, and you will trust Him as He leads you. Thank you for sharing.

Anonymous wrote:Hang in there and don't give up!!! I was a corporate exec- still am- but know how impossible it seems to plan life around these apts and keep it all together. I had the additional factor of doing all my IVF out of state- now that adds a whole other level of crazy.
My issue was all age related. I think if u know you want more kids--- and u have less than 3-- no way do I think this stuff makes sense if you have more than that- but if you are sane and doing this, it is simply perseverance and well thought out plan. I Wated time on one crazy clinic and the stupid stuff they had me do before we went to major top notch. Yes crazy hard on marriage.
But nothing is more worth the work than for a baby!
We had two on our own just looking at each other- then 4 years trying hard for last one. Finally went to donor egg and amazing amazing journey. That was much higher odds of success.
Keep trying with own eggs- Shady Grove is great-- don't give up. Once you are pregnant and into pregnancy, the stress of trying quickly fades away. I wouldn't stop until I had my baby and now I am fully 100% complete. I don't regret one hour minute or day I spent trying.
Cheer up! They are many things more difficult that don't result in a bouncing miracle of life ( which after all we went through I truly see the miracle of life).

Don't give up!!! Smile- baby u are meant to have is waiting for you.