Anonymous wrote:I was just thinking that there's nothing worse than going on a first date with someone who treats you like a candidate at a job interview. What every happened to the art of conversation? People have become so witless and dull.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was just thinking that there's nothing worse than going on a first date with someone who treats you like a candidate at a job interview. What every happened to the art of conversation? People have become so witless and dull.

Because I know what I want. And if you don't meet the big criteria, the little stuff doesn't matter. After the interview, if the big stuff doesn't match, then I'm happy to become friends without benefits and I'll converse with you till the cows come home. I'll also probably only see you once every two or three months as my schedule permits.

Anonymous wrote:I was just thinking that there's nothing worse than going on a first date with someone who treats you like a candidate at a job interview. What every happened to the art of conversation? People have become so witless and dull.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was just thinking that there's nothing worse than going on a first date with someone who treats you like a candidate at a job interview. What every happened to the art of conversation? People have become so witless and dull.

Because I know what I want. And if you don't meet the big criteria, the little stuff doesn't matter. After the interview, if the big stuff doesn't match, then I'm happy to become friends without benefits and I'll converse with you till the cows come home. I'll also probably only see you once every two or three months as my schedule permits.

Anonymous wrote:Why can't you just get right down to the heart of a relationship on a first date? It would go so much quicker if you could ask/share all the deal breaker questions up front. Why waste time with someone that for whatever the deal breaker is, is not going to work.

Questions like:

What do you want out of a relationship?
Where do you want to be in 5/10/20 years--job wise, family wise, location wise
How do you feel about kids?
How much emotional baggage are you bringing to the table? What is it?
How much financial baggage are you bringing to the relationship?
How do you view religion? How did you spend Easter/Rosh Hashana/(insert other major religious holiday)
What are your views on American politics?
What are your views on money? Are you a saver or a spender?
What do you enjoy doing with your free time?
Spit or swallow?

Once you get the big questions out of the way, then you can quickly decide if you want to pursue a relationship.

Anonymous wrote:Lame first date. The big stuff matters but the big is easy to find. Chemistry is what's hard. Once you've established the chemistry, some of those questions become workable.

Anonymous wrote:Why can't you just get right down to the heart of a relationship on a first date? It would go so much quicker if you could ask/share all the deal breaker questions up front. Why waste time with someone that for whatever the deal breaker is, is not going to work.

Questions like:

What do you want out of a relationship?
Yes

Where do you want to be in 5/10/20 years--job wise, family wise, location wise
No

How do you feel about kids?
Yes

How much emotional baggage are you bringing to the table?
No

What is it?
Yes
How much financial baggage are you bringing to the relationship?
No

How do you view religion?
Yes

How did you spend Easter/Rosh Hashana/(insert other major religious holiday)
No

What are your views on American politics?
Yes

What are your views on money?
No

Are you a saver or a spender?
Maybe

What do you enjoy doing with your free time?
No


Once you get the big questions out of the way, then you can quickly decide if you want to pursue a relationship.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why can't you just get right down to the heart of a relationship on a first date? It would go so much quicker if you could ask/share all the deal breaker questions up front. Why waste time with someone that for whatever the deal breaker is, is not going to work.

Questions like:

What do you want out of a relationship?
Yes

Where do you want to be in 5/10/20 years--job wise, family wise, location wise
No

How do you feel about kids?
Yes

How much emotional baggage are you bringing to the table?
No

What is it?
Yes
How much financial baggage are you bringing to the relationship?
No

How do you view religion?
Yes

How did you spend Easter/Rosh Hashana/(insert other major religious holiday)
No

What are your views on American politics?
Yes

What are your views on money?
No

Are you a saver or a spender?
Maybe

What do you enjoy doing with your free time?
No


Once you get the big questions out of the way, then you can quickly decide if you want to pursue a relationship.

Anonymous wrote:There has to be a good sexual connection. Nothing is more significant,