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Anonymous wrote:I have a girl and TBH, I'm kind of hoping she's not going to be a sitting quietly getting a mani pedi, or shopping kind of girl. I'm hoping she's going to be a mountain biking, hiking, ball of sass. But, she's going to be who she is, and I'm already anticipating I'm going to have to learn to use glitter and eyeshadow.

My SIL is deeply depressed about not having a girl. She had two really great little boys and can't even appreciate what an awesome family she has.

I wonder how many of you women deeply pining for a girl have unresolved mommy issues, or self esteem issues? Is it about wanting to mold someone into a mini me?

I hate it when people crow about their girls being "sassy" or "feisty". It's such gendered language that you rarely hear used to describe our sons.

No, boys get "rambunctious", "busy" or "such a BOY". I want my daughter to buck against the little lady stereotypes, meek and quiet aT lunch like a PP mentioned. I want a who has opinions and a voice. I want her to ask questions, disagree, and not be scared to be who she is...so yes, in current terminology that I can quickly use to Illustrate who I hope she'll be - I want sassy.

Huh. I have two boys, but if I have a girl I will use the same language to describe how I hope she will be as I do with my sons - confident, brave, and compassionate. No need to water it down with gendered language like spunky, sassy, or feisty.

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Anonymous wrote:i know this is so taboo on here, but why does everyone who only has boys pretend they're so content with this?

Because some people are? I very much wanted a girl, but my first was a boy. Once he came into my life, I was over the moon about being mom to a boy. I ended up hoping my second was a boy as well. But it was a girl. Now I love being a mom to both. But if I only had boys, I'm pretty sure I'd be thrilled with that as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, ALL of my female friends are super close to their moms. and A LOT of my female friends speak to their moms every day or even multiple times if you count text email etc., and i know of no grown men who do that.

This is fascinating to me. You're the second person to say this. How old are you?

I have many friends who aren't close to their mothers and know almost no one who speaks to their mom daily. Too busy.

Anonymous wrote:i know this is so taboo on here, but why does everyone who only has boys pretend they're so content with this?

Anonymous wrote:I have four boys. I also have two nieces, who are about the same age as my middle two and bring so much more drama than any of my kids. I wouldn't wish for a girl... I love being a boy mom.

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Anonymous wrote:I am one of three girls and I have 2 boys. I was in the car with my mom and sisters the other day and my mom said "ahh my 3 girls. Girls will always be by your side and never leave you like boys." I was so hurt. Here I am with a toddler and baby, both boys, in the thick of the early years of parenting, my baby boys are the loves of my life and she says that? I found it to be so rude and insensitive.

Your mom wasn't just rude and insensitive, she was wrong, as a bit of reading in this thread or any other on the Internet will attest. Who "leaves" you has much more to do with how your kids are raised than with whether they sprouted peens or vags in the womb.

Anonymous wrote:I love my son and would be happy having another boy. I see myself with boys for some reason. I'm not sure why. It's hard to imagine a little me running around.

Anonymous wrote:I'm continually shocked by what assholes people are about baby boys. I had family members express overt disappointment that I was having a boy, the first time around, even though we were elated either way. Then when #2 was a boy, I can't believe how many people asked if I'd try for a third to have a girl, instead of saying congratulations. I think it's bizarre and a shame. (Very pleased with my sweet sweet boys.)

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Anonymous wrote:I'm continually shocked by what assholes people are about baby boys. I had family members express overt disappointment that I was having a boy, the first time around, even though we were elated either way. Then when #2 was a boy, I can't believe how many people asked if I'd try for a third to have a girl, instead of saying congratulations. I think it's bizarre and a shame. (Very pleased with my sweet sweet boys.)

I had the same experience in reverse in having two girls, and got a fair amount of "boys are better, how unfortunate you're having girls" projection on to me. People were very disappointed for me and my husband that we were having a second girl, and I was also told I had to have to have a third baby to "give [my] husband a son." Either way I think it's gross.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm continually shocked by what assholes people are about baby boys. I had family members express overt disappointment that I was having a boy, the first time around, even though we were elated either way. Then when #2 was a boy, I can't believe how many people asked if I'd try for a third to have a girl, instead of saying congratulations. I think it's bizarre and a shame. (Very pleased with my sweet sweet boys.)

I had the same experience in reverse in having two girls, and got a fair amount of "boys are better, how unfortunate you're having girls" projection on to me. People were very disappointed for me and my husband that we were having a second girl, and I was also told I had to have to have a third baby to "give [my] husband a son." Either way I think it's gross.

That's unusual. People always give you a sad face when you say you're having another boy.