Anonymous wrote:I'm afraid to even ask - what is chipped beef?

Anonymous wrote:OP, communication is key in a marriage. Do you really thinking communicating with your husband via DCUM is effective? It is not. Even if he DOES read DCUM. Reminds me of the people who are all "Happy Anniversary, Shmoopie! I love you more than the stars and the moon" on FB and then end up divorced a year later.

I and my pickier siblings loved cream chipped beef as kids. I don't make it because it is not healthy but I would think if my siblings and I all loved it, my kids might, too.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, communication is key in a marriage. Do you really thinking communicating with your husband via DCUM is effective? It is not. Even if he DOES read DCUM. Reminds me of the people who are all "Happy Anniversary, Shmoopie! I love you more than the stars and the moon" on FB and then end up divorced a year later.

I and my pickier siblings loved cream chipped beef as kids. I don't make it because it is not healthy but I would think if my siblings and I all loved it, my kids might, too.

Communication is good on message boards too. OP is *venting*. Her husband is doing the parenting equivalent of going out in the rain and then bitching and expecting sympathy because he got wet. Well, d'uh. OP isn't really complaining about the chipped beef [although a parent continually making meals the kids aren't fans of is also annoying and passive-aggressive], she's complaining because her DH keeps bitching that the situation plays out *exactly as could be predicted from past experience.* That's frustrating, and message boards are a great place for venting frustrations. Posting here won't fix it of course, but it may let her bleed out the negative emotional response so she can actually address it in a productive way. Or just let her vent off the annoyance and then let it go,

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Anonymous wrote:OP, communication is key in a marriage. Do you really thinking communicating with your husband via DCUM is effective? It is not. Even if he DOES read DCUM. Reminds me of the people who are all "Happy Anniversary, Shmoopie! I love you more than the stars and the moon" on FB and then end up divorced a year later.

I and my pickier siblings loved cream chipped beef as kids. I don't make it because it is not healthy but I would think if my siblings and I all loved it, my kids might, too.

Communication is good on message boards too. OP is *venting*. Her husband is doing the parenting equivalent of going out in the rain and then bitching and expecting sympathy because he got wet. Well, d'uh. OP isn't really complaining about the chipped beef [although a parent continually making meals the kids aren't fans of is also annoying and passive-aggressive], she's complaining because her DH keeps bitching that the situation plays out *exactly as could be predicted from past experience.* That's frustrating, and message boards are a great place for venting frustrations. Posting here won't fix it of course, but it may let her bleed out the negative emotional response so she can actually address it in a productive way. Or just let her vent off the annoyance and then let it go,

Just be on notice that men generally don't vent about their wives either anonymously or to their buddies. It's not in our DNA; we'd think it makes us (not our spouses) look bad; and for the most part we'd have a pretty negative reaction if we found our wives were complaining about our parenting to the world at large, even anonymously.

There really are better ways to communicate, and you know it. You just can't help yourselves because the validation that you are "right" is more important than your partnership.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, communication is key in a marriage. Do you really thinking communicating with your husband via DCUM is effective? It is not. Even if he DOES read DCUM. Reminds me of the people who are all "Happy Anniversary, Shmoopie! I love you more than the stars and the moon" on FB and then end up divorced a year later.

I and my pickier siblings loved cream chipped beef as kids. I don't make it because it is not healthy but I would think if my siblings and I all loved it, my kids might, too.

Communication is good on message boards too. OP is *venting*. Her husband is doing the parenting equivalent of going out in the rain and then bitching and expecting sympathy because he got wet. Well, d'uh. OP isn't really complaining about the chipped beef [although a parent continually making meals the kids aren't fans of is also annoying and passive-aggressive], she's complaining because her DH keeps bitching that the situation plays out *exactly as could be predicted from past experience.* That's frustrating, and message boards are a great place for venting frustrations. Posting here won't fix it of course, but it may let her bleed out the negative emotional response so she can actually address it in a productive way. Or just let her vent off the annoyance and then let it go,

Just be on notice that men generally don't vent about their wives either anonymously or to their buddies. It's not in our DNA; we'd think it makes us (not our spouses) look bad; and for the most part we'd have a pretty negative reaction if we found our wives were complaining about our parenting to the world at large, even anonymously.

There really are better ways to communicate, and you know it. You just can't help yourselves because the validation that you are "right" is more important than your partnership.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, communication is key in a marriage. Do you really thinking communicating with your husband via DCUM is effective? It is not. Even if he DOES read DCUM. Reminds me of the people who are all "Happy Anniversary, Shmoopie! I love you more than the stars and the moon" on FB and then end up divorced a year later.

I and my pickier siblings loved cream chipped beef as kids. I don't make it because it is not healthy but I would think if my siblings and I all loved it, my kids might, too.

Communication is good on message boards too. OP is *venting*. Her husband is doing the parenting equivalent of going out in the rain and then bitching and expecting sympathy because he got wet. Well, d'uh. OP isn't really complaining about the chipped beef [although a parent continually making meals the kids aren't fans of is also annoying and passive-aggressive], she's complaining because her DH keeps bitching that the situation plays out *exactly as could be predicted from past experience.* That's frustrating, and message boards are a great place for venting frustrations. Posting here won't fix it of course, but it may let her bleed out the negative emotional response so she can actually address it in a productive way. Or just let her vent off the annoyance and then let it go,

Just be on notice that men generally don't vent about their wives either anonymously or to their buddies. It's not in our DNA; we'd think it makes us (not our spouses) look bad; and for the most part we'd have a pretty negative reaction if we found our wives were complaining about our parenting to the world at large, even anonymously.

There really are better ways to communicate, and you know it. You just can't help yourselves because the validation that you are "right" is more important than your partnership.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, communication is key in a marriage. Do you really thinking communicating with your husband via DCUM is effective? It is not. Even if he DOES read DCUM. Reminds me of the people who are all "Happy Anniversary, Shmoopie! I love you more than the stars and the moon" on FB and then end up divorced a year later.

I and my pickier siblings loved cream chipped beef as kids. I don't make it because it is not healthy but I would think if my siblings and I all loved it, my kids might, too.

Communication is good on message boards too. OP is *venting*. Her husband is doing the parenting equivalent of going out in the rain and then bitching and expecting sympathy because he got wet. Well, d'uh. OP isn't really complaining about the chipped beef [although a parent continually making meals the kids aren't fans of is also annoying and passive-aggressive], she's complaining because her DH keeps bitching that the situation plays out *exactly as could be predicted from past experience.* That's frustrating, and message boards are a great place for venting frustrations. Posting here won't fix it of course, but it may let her bleed out the negative emotional response so she can actually address it in a productive way. Or just let her vent off the annoyance and then let it go,

Just be on notice that men generally don't vent about their wives either anonymously or to their buddies. It's not in our DNA; we'd think it makes us (not our spouses) look bad; and for the most part we'd have a pretty negative reaction if we found our wives were complaining about our parenting to the world at large, even anonymously.

There really are better ways to communicate, and you know it. You just can't help yourselves because the validation that you are "right" is more important than your partnership.

NP. And? So? OP isn't a man, she's a woman. And she's venting here and not taking this out on her husband in real life. What's it to you that YOU think there are better ways to communicate frustrations in HER marriage?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, communication is key in a marriage. Do you really thinking communicating with your husband via DCUM is effective? It is not. Even if he DOES read DCUM. Reminds me of the people who are all "Happy Anniversary, Shmoopie! I love you more than the stars and the moon" on FB and then end up divorced a year later.

I and my pickier siblings loved cream chipped beef as kids. I don't make it because it is not healthy but I would think if my siblings and I all loved it, my kids might, too.

Communication is good on message boards too. OP is *venting*. Her husband is doing the parenting equivalent of going out in the rain and then bitching and expecting sympathy because he got wet. Well, d'uh. OP isn't really complaining about the chipped beef [although a parent continually making meals the kids aren't fans of is also annoying and passive-aggressive], she's complaining because her DH keeps bitching that the situation plays out *exactly as could be predicted from past experience.* That's frustrating, and message boards are a great place for venting frustrations. Posting here won't fix it of course, but it may let her bleed out the negative emotional response so she can actually address it in a productive way. Or just let her vent off the annoyance and then let it go,

Just be on notice that men generally don't vent about their wives either anonymously or to their buddies. It's not in our DNA; we'd think it makes us (not our spouses) look bad; and for the most part we'd have a pretty negative reaction if we found our wives were complaining about our parenting to the world at large, even anonymously.

There really are better ways to communicate, and you know it. You just can't help yourselves because the validation that you are "right" is more important than your partnership.

NP. And? So? OP isn't a man, she's a woman. And she's venting here and not taking this out on her husband in real life. What's it to you that YOU think there are better ways to communicate frustrations in HER marriage?

Not the PP, but the best way to communicate frustrations are to address them with your partner. Not trash talk them behind their back. Anonymous or not, you're still bashing your partner.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, communication is key in a marriage. Do you really thinking communicating with your husband via DCUM is effective? It is not. Even if he DOES read DCUM. Reminds me of the people who are all "Happy Anniversary, Shmoopie! I love you more than the stars and the moon" on FB and then end up divorced a year later.

I and my pickier siblings loved cream chipped beef as kids. I don't make it because it is not healthy but I would think if my siblings and I all loved it, my kids might, too.

Communication is good on message boards too. OP is *venting*. Her husband is doing the parenting equivalent of going out in the rain and then bitching and expecting sympathy because he got wet. Well, d'uh. OP isn't really complaining about the chipped beef [although a parent continually making meals the kids aren't fans of is also annoying and passive-aggressive], she's complaining because her DH keeps bitching that the situation plays out *exactly as could be predicted from past experience.* That's frustrating, and message boards are a great place for venting frustrations. Posting here won't fix it of course, but it may let her bleed out the negative emotional response so she can actually address it in a productive way. Or just let her vent off the annoyance and then let it go,

Just be on notice that men generally don't vent about their wives either anonymously or to their buddies. It's not in our DNA; we'd think it makes us (not our spouses) look bad; and for the most part we'd have a pretty negative reaction if we found our wives were complaining about our parenting to the world at large, even anonymously.

There really are better ways to communicate, and you know it. You just can't help yourselves because the validation that you are "right" is more important than your partnership.

NP. And? So? OP isn't a man, she's a woman. And she's venting here and not taking this out on her husband in real life. What's it to you that YOU think there are better ways to communicate frustrations in HER marriage?

Not the PP, but the best way to communicate frustrations are to address them with your partner. Not trash talk them behind their back. Anonymous or not, you're still bashing your partner.

You've never vented about your spouse? Ever?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, communication is key in a marriage. Do you really thinking communicating with your husband via DCUM is effective? It is not. Even if he DOES read DCUM. Reminds me of the people who are all "Happy Anniversary, Shmoopie! I love you more than the stars and the moon" on FB and then end up divorced a year later.

I and my pickier siblings loved cream chipped beef as kids. I don't make it because it is not healthy but I would think if my siblings and I all loved it, my kids might, too.

Communication is good on message boards too. OP is *venting*. Her husband is doing the parenting equivalent of going out in the rain and then bitching and expecting sympathy because he got wet. Well, d'uh. OP isn't really complaining about the chipped beef [although a parent continually making meals the kids aren't fans of is also annoying and passive-aggressive], she's complaining because her DH keeps bitching that the situation plays out *exactly as could be predicted from past experience.* That's frustrating, and message boards are a great place for venting frustrations. Posting here won't fix it of course, but it may let her bleed out the negative emotional response so she can actually address it in a productive way. Or just let her vent off the annoyance and then let it go,

Just be on notice that men generally don't vent about their wives either anonymously or to their buddies. It's not in our DNA; we'd think it makes us (not our spouses) look bad; and for the most part we'd have a pretty negative reaction if we found our wives were complaining about our parenting to the world at large, even anonymously.

There really are better ways to communicate, and you know it. You just can't help yourselves because the validation that you are "right" is more important than your partnership.

NP. And? So? OP isn't a man, she's a woman. And she's venting here and not taking this out on her husband in real life. What's it to you that YOU think there are better ways to communicate frustrations in HER marriage?

Not the PP, but the best way to communicate frustrations are to address them with your partner. Not trash talk them behind their back. Anonymous or not, you're still bashing your partner.

You've never vented about your spouse? Ever?

When I am irritated with him or I don't like something, I tell him. He does the same to me. Neither of us gets offended. It's a novel concept, I know. I do not trash my fiancé behind his back. Ever. I can honestly say 100% I have never talked shit on him. Your spouse is the one person you are supposed to be able to count on for honesty, and to have your back. Trash talking (you call it "venting" but call a spade a spade...it's talking shit) is not having your spouse's back.