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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, communication is key in a marriage.  Do you really thinking communicating with your husband via DCUM is effective?  It is not.  Even if he DOES read DCUM.  Reminds me of the people who are all "Happy Anniversary, Shmoopie!  I love you more than the stars and the moon" on FB and then end up divorced a year later.

I and my pickier siblings loved cream chipped beef as kids.  I don't make it because it is not healthy but I would think if my siblings and I all loved it, my kids might, too.  [/quote]

Communication is good on message boards too.  OP is *venting*.  Her husband is doing the parenting equivalent of going out in the rain and then bitching and expecting sympathy because he got wet. Well, d'uh.  OP isn't really complaining about the chipped beef [although a parent continually making meals the kids aren't fans of is also annoying and passive-aggressive], she's complaining because her DH keeps bitching that the situation plays out *exactly as could be predicted from past experience.* That's frustrating, and message boards are a great place for venting frustrations.  Posting here won't fix it of course, but it may let her bleed out the negative emotional response so she can actually address it in a productive way.  Or just let her vent off the annoyance and then let it go,

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Just be on notice that men generally don't vent about their wives either anonymously or to their buddies.  It's not in our DNA; we'd think it makes us (not our spouses) look bad; and for the most part we'd have a pretty negative reaction if we found our wives were complaining about our parenting to the world at large, even anonymously.

There really are better ways to communicate, and you know it.  You just can't help yourselves because the validation that you are "right" is more important than your partnership. [/quote]

This is a great point. Men do NOT complain about their significant others in the way that women constantly complain to anyone who will listen about theirs. However, understanding this dynamic, men should just accept it for what it is. The need for validation and venting. Most times, women don't vent to their significant others, because as men, we don't really understand the concept of venting, and so, instead of being a great ear to just listen, we have to come up with a solution or we don't really "get it". Therefore, women find other avenues to vent.

Just sayin.[/quote]

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