Hey DH, if you want 3yo to eat the dinner you made...

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Anonymous wrote:Dude its something that reminds him of his childhood. Its comforting. Your kids dont like it…so what. No need to be a jerk about it. Especially if its not a nightly thing.

Well, it's certainly not a nightly thing, as he maybe cooks twice a month, and I cook the rest of the nights.

And I'm not a jerk about it. I eat it and say thank you. HE acts like a jerk when the kids won't try this heavy, condensed, nasty food.

And I'm sure mommy supports them in their tantrums and gives them whatever they whine for.

OP here. Nope. They have to try a bite of everything they are served. And unless they eat a significant portion, there is no dessert. But he is all wounded and offended that they don't gobble it up. He tries to coax and cajole and even threaten them.

You'll create eating disorders if you give desert as a reward or punishment for eating their dinner. Shame on you.

Eff you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Husband doesn't make dinner, wife complains. Husband makes dinner, wife complains. And you all wonder why your marriages end up a mess.

Plus 1

Plus 2. Married 30 years.

+3. DW, BTW. We have two busy parents and 2 busy kids. And the rule in our house is that if someone (kid or parent) takes on a household chore-- cooking, laundry, grocery shopping, overseeing a kids activity, nobody in the house gets to criticize. Anyone who criticizes inherits the chore. If they think they can do a better job, than they are free to try. DH is our cook. And if kids or I want to gripe about dinner, we are free to cook (kids are MS and HS, not 3). DH wants to criticize the laundry, he can do the laundry. In fact, the kids did criticize how I did laundry, and now they do their own.

If you want to micromanage how the house is run, fine. But be prepared to step up.

Another poster who can't read! One more time, sweetie: I DON'T COMPLAIN. I thank him when he cooks. I never ask him to cook, he wants to sometimes. I eat it and say thank you. I encourage the kids to try it.

Thanks for playing!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He is making what he ate as a kid. It's totally understandable.

The instinct is understandable. But then he is choosing to ignore the lived experience, repeated, of the kids hating it. EVERY time!

+1

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Gosh Op. you seem testy. We you hoping DCUM would wrap you in its warm loving embrace? Have we hurt your feelings?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gosh Op. you seem testy. We you hoping DCUM would wrap you in its warm loving embrace? Have we hurt your feelings?

Nope. I got commiseration...from those who can read. Have a great day!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Husband doesn't make dinner, wife complains. Husband makes dinner, wife complains. And you all wonder why your marriages end up a mess.

Plus 1

Nope, but nice try. I don't complain to him. I support him in getting them to at least try it. HE complains to ME that they don't eat it.

Op is venting on an anonymous board. She thanks him and eats the food. How do you make the leap where her marriage is a mess?

And I bet she also vents to her friends and her relatives about other perceived flaws, and her spouse picks up that she's a passive-aggressive loser. Not a good sign for the marriage.

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I think OP's husband is putting his preference for nostalgia above what the kids might enjoy then has a fit it isn't appreciated. I think OP's DH should act like an adult and have reasonable expectations. If you feed kids, or people in general food they are unaccustomed to and don't like, they probably won't eat it or will do so without enthusiasm. I get it OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Gosh Op. you seem testy. We you hoping DCUM would wrap you in its warm loving embrace? Have we hurt your feelings?

Nope. I got commiseration...from those who can read. Have a great day!

OP - ignore the DCUM idiots who clearly are unhappy in their lives that they need to consistently make ridiculous assumptions.


You are nicer than me, I would be making my own dinner those nights.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Husband doesn't make dinner, wife complains. Husband makes dinner, wife complains. And you all wonder why your marriages end up a mess.

Plus 1

Nope, but nice try. I don't complain to him. I support him in getting them to at least try it. HE complains to ME that they don't eat it.

Op is venting on an anonymous board. She thanks him and eats the food. How do you make the leap where her marriage is a mess?

And I bet she also vents to her friends and her relatives about other perceived flaws, and her spouse picks up that she's a passive-aggressive loser. Not a good sign for the marriage.

And, what does it say about you that you are calling someone a loser based on your assumptions, which have no basis?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's the formula:

Whine that your husband doesn't help out enough.

When he cooks dinner, criticize his competence.

When he gets fed up with the nagging, he stops trying to be helpful.

Cut off the sex.

Complain on an internet forum.

Get divorced when he finds someone else who appreciates him more.

Wonder why you are old and alone.

Well, that escalated quickly. Seriously You didn't even pretend to be constructive and created an entire divorce scenario out of an SOS complaint.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Gosh Op. you seem testy. We you hoping DCUM would wrap you in its warm loving embrace? Have we hurt your feelings?

Nope. I got commiseration...from those who can read. Have a great day!

OP - ignore the DCUM idiots who clearly are unhappy in their lives that they need to consistently make ridiculous assumptions.


You are nicer than me, I would be making my own dinner those nights.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Here's the formula:

Whine that your husband doesn't help out enough.

When he cooks dinner, criticize his competence.

When he gets fed up with the nagging, he stops trying to be helpful.

Cut off the sex.

Complain on an internet forum.

Get divorced when he finds someone else who appreciates him more.

Wonder why you are old and alone.

Well, that escalated quickly. Seriously You didn't even pretend to be constructive and created an entire divorce scenario out of an SOS complaint.

It's some dude who doesn't have enough self-awareness to know he's a jerk. Instead he blames his marital problems 100% on ex-wife. He is SOS himself.

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Been a while but isn't around 3 when kids become picky eaters? I seem to remember my children going through phases were they don't want to eat anything that was made for them.
Chipped beef was never high on my list growing up, and thankfully I don't think DW has ever had it or heard of it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Husband doesn't make dinner, wife complains. Husband makes dinner, wife complains. And you all wonder why your marriages end up a mess.

Let me correct that for you. Husband does not make dinner wife complains, so husband makes dinner but makes sure it is something that no one but him likes, so his wife will stop asking him to get off his lazy ass to help. Sorry, some of us are on to these tricks.

+1

Dont let him ofc the hook. Make him prepare a 2nd dish the kids will eat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:he's obviously having an affair.

End of thread. Well done!