are you one of those moms that dresses too young for her age?

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[Post New]06/26/2009 00:00
Anonymous
I'm surprised by all of this "dressing the same" over the course of 15 years. Seriously? Skirt lengths, pants shapes, and bodice shapes have made major shifts several times during those years. You could only really dress the same if you've been shopping at... oh. We're back to LL Bean, aren't we?
[Post New]06/26/2009 00:04
Anonymous
Totally, PP. Dressing the same over a long period of time with complete disregard for trends is far worse than dressing age-inappropriately. Crocheted sweater vests and palazzo pants anyone?
[Post New]06/26/2009 00:17
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Ok, first of all lets be clear here - even for thin little teens and twenty somethings, mid-driff baring tops are totally OUT. Empire waist styled tops and long skinny tees are much more hip and fashionable. Showing your belly these days is a unfashionably trashy as feathered hair and tube tops was in the eighgties.

Dressing too young or too old is equally bad. Seriously, ask your friends, they should be able to tell you it straight and, that is what girl friends are for in my book. Relying on your DH for fashion approval is a very, very poor idea (unless you are gay) and my husband actually does have decent taste but still... the truly fashioniionably dressed women of the ages never relied on a straight man for advice.


Who died and put you in charge???
[Post New]06/26/2009 00:22
zumbamama
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Yesterday I saw a woman at the bus stop, who had to be over 70. She was totally dressed like Madonna in the 80s...with fishnets, ripped rocker dress, bright red lipstick and a penciled in mole. A major fashion blooper, but quite amusing.
[Post New]06/26/2009 00:31
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Totally, PP. Dressing the same over a long period of time with complete disregard for trends is far worse than dressing age-inappropriately. Crocheted sweater vests and palazzo pants anyone?


Oooooh... palazzo pants! I had a great time in the 90s. I love minimalist outfits in sober colors with modern lines and long skirts! See, that's so out now. If I tried to wear what I wore 10+ years ago, I would have to go to some trouble just to find the clothes in stores! I used to live in my black matte jersey dresses from Banana Republic. Those were the days...
[Post New]06/26/2009 06:48
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A neighbor is over 40 and wears cut-off short shorts and a fitted tank top all summer long. She is fit, but she dresses too young and its not attractive.


I think it really depends on how one defines "too young." Cut-off shorts and a fitted tank top to me do not seem "too young"; to me, that just seems like normal clothing. I dress exactly the same now at age 40 as I did at age 25, 30, and 35, and I would never wear a midriff-baring top--but I wouldn't have worn it at age 25 either! I still wear mini-skirts and think they are fine, regardless of what the fashion police might say. In fact, my summer uniform is usually a tank top and a mini. That is the same thing I would have worn at age 25, 30, and 35, and it is still fine. Now, at age 50, perhaps not...





Yikes! Sorry, but that is most certainly not fine (fine being subjective, of course). If you are wearing a mini-skirt at 40 people are laughing at you, period.


PP here--that's the point, they are not laughing--YOU might be laughing, which is hardly "people." The only ones who are laughing are those who have narrow ideas about what "dressing too young" is. But go ahead and laugh, it honestly doesn't bother me. I feel just fine about how I look in minis, thanks, and I don't consider them inappropriate for my age. We can just agree to disagree on this one.
[Post New]06/26/2009 06:58
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A neighbor is over 40 and wears cut-off short shorts and a fitted tank top all summer long. She is fit, but she dresses too young and its not attractive.


I think it really depends on how one defines "too young." Cut-off shorts and a fitted tank top to me do not seem "too young"; to me, that just seems like normal clothing. I dress exactly the same now at age 40 as I did at age 25, 30, and 35, and I would never wear a midriff-baring top--but I wouldn't have worn it at age 25 either! I still wear mini-skirts and think they are fine, regardless of what the fashion police might say. In fact, my summer uniform is usually a tank top and a mini. That is the same thing I would have worn at age 25, 30, and 35, and it is still fine. Now, at age 50, perhaps not...





Yikes! Sorry, but that is most certainly not fine (fine being subjective, of course). If you are wearing a mini-skirt at 40 people are laughing at you, period.


PP here--that's the point, they are not laughing--YOU might be laughing, which is hardly "people." The only ones who are laughing are those who have narrow ideas about what "dressing too young" is. But go ahead and laugh, it honestly doesn't bother me. I feel just fine about how I look in minis, thanks, and I don't consider them inappropriate for my age. We can just agree to disagree on this one.


Not the PP...trust me, WE are all laughing. Would it kill you to go knee length????
[Post New]06/26/2009 07:18
Anonymous
Are the posters insisting that a 40-year-old must wear knee-length skirts the same ones who think a 40-year-old shouldn't have hair past the shoulder? Both are outdated notions.
[Post New]06/26/2009 07:21
Anonymous
"trust me, WE are all laughing. Would it kill you to go knee length????"

Not the PP you were talking to, but KNEE LENGTH simply because she is over 40? Now THAT I find laughable!

[Post New]06/26/2009 08:03
Anonymous
Agree with the 2 PPs. I find it absurd that some people treat over 40 women as something to be ashamed of. Cover up, lest "the people" laugh at you for allowing your above the knee skirt to reveal your hideous knees.

What a joke!

There was a CLEARLY over 40 woman at my pool yesterday who has a ROCKING body and looked far better in her string bikini than any woman at the pool. If she can pull that off, I say let her wear her miniskirt. I guarantee you would NOT be laughing.
[Post New]06/26/2009 08:18
Anonymous
"trust me, WE are all laughing. Would it kill you to go knee length????"

I am the PP to whom this was referring, and I will say to you the same thing I said to the original one who said she was laughing--if it tickles your funny bone that a 40-year-old would wear a skirt above the knee, then by all means, go ahead and laugh; it doesn't bother me. Knock yourself out!

[Post New]06/26/2009 08:20
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:

There was a CLEARLY over 40 woman at my pool yesterday who has a ROCKING body and looked far better in her string bikini than any woman at the pool. If she can pull that off, I say let her wear her miniskirt. I guarantee you would NOT be laughing.


Ditto that! There are a couple of women at my neighborhood pool (out of hundreds, granted) that can ROCK their bikinis and tennis skirts. I'm a size 4 but no where near that bold with a bikini, but it does give me courage to wear the J Crew 3" city shorts and a miniskirt if I want to. I'm 40 and do not have saggy knee nor thighs that touch. If anyone wants to laugh at my body, go ahead. I spent my 20's with body dysmorphia always thinking I was fat and dressing like I was middle-aged. I'm much more self-confident in my 30s and 40s and until I feel like my legs are an embarrassment, I'll continue to showcase my best asset.
[Post New]06/26/2009 08:25
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:"trust me, WE are all laughing. Would it kill you to go knee length????"

I am the PP to whom this was referring, and I will say to you the same thing I said to the original one who said she was laughing--if it tickles your funny bone that a 40-year-old would wear a skirt above the knee, then by all means, go ahead and laugh; it doesn't bother me. Knock yourself out!



Bravo and hear, hear! See, the thing is that the laughers *want* you to care that they are laughing--they want you to cringe in shame, in fact, that you would dare disobey the strictures that *they,* the almighty deciders, have announced vis DCUM edict. So the best thing is honestly to not care, and like this PP above, I am in my forties and wear mini-skirts, and if the killjoys out there laugh, well, hey, it's a free country--they can continue to laugh and I can continue to feel good about my looks and ignore them.

[Post New]06/26/2009 09:05
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A neighbor is over 40 and wears cut-off short shorts and a fitted tank top all summer long. She is fit, but she dresses too young and its not attractive.


I think it really depends on how one defines "too young." Cut-off shorts and a fitted tank top to me do not seem "too young"; to me, that just seems like normal clothing. I dress exactly the same now at age 40 as I did at age 25, 30, and 35, and I would never wear a midriff-baring top--but I wouldn't have worn it at age 25 either! I still wear mini-skirts and think they are fine, regardless of what the fashion police might say. In fact, my summer uniform is usually a tank top and a mini. That is the same thing I would have worn at age 25, 30, and 35, and it is still fine. Now, at age 50, perhaps not...





Yikes! Sorry, but that is most certainly not fine (fine being subjective, of course). If you are wearing a mini-skirt at 40 people are laughing at you, period.


PP here--that's the point, they are not laughing--YOU might be laughing, which is hardly "people." The only ones who are laughing are those who have narrow ideas about what "dressing too young" is. But go ahead and laugh, it honestly doesn't bother me. I feel just fine about how I look in minis, thanks, and I don't consider them inappropriate for my age. We can just agree to disagree on this one.


I agree with the yikes poster. Miniskirts look cheap/sleazy on middle-aged women.
[Post New]06/26/2009 09:09
Anonymous
So... fashion goddesses... can I (a 39 year old with no boobs) wear a rather low cut V-neck t-shirt? Or is that too young? I guarantee there is no cleavage showing (because I have none).

I'm not talking about wearing it to work... just for kicking around on the weekends, or at soccer games?
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