Anonymous wrote:You are her boyfriends sister, you are not her kid's free nanny. Even if she was married to your brother, you don't need to take care of her kids. She is a user and she is using your brother as well, too bad he is a push over by her. How old is your brother to be helping her take care of 2 kids? And how old are her kids? I assume she and her kids didn't pay their share for this vacation?

I don't want to see this rift get any wider but things cannot continue as they have been. To answer your question xxxxx and her kids are welcome at the house. When you bring the kids either one or both of you need to be around to take care of them 100% of the time. What I am about to say is not easy for me but it has to be said for the good of everyone. xxxxx actions have left members of our family with very negative feelings. We have tolerated her because we love you. The temper tantrum she through in FL was over the top and absolutely unacceptable.
I have to insist that you do not bring xxxxx on our trip we have planned in December. If you bring her to the cabin and its a family weekend she cannot stay more than a few hours. It will go a long way if xxxxx sincerely apologizes to the people she has taken advantage of. If she is sincere and has a good attitude I believe the hard feelings will go away and she can again join us for family vacations down the road. She needs to rebuild her relationship with the family and dinners at the house is a good place to start. If there is anything close to a repeat of what happened in Florida, xxxxx will be asked to leave the house immediately. I know you will be upset with me over this but I can no longer look the other way at such bad behavior. I refuse to let one person cause so much chaos and negativity. With that said I expect every member of our family to be respectful and courteous to xxxxx at family functions and move forward. I know it might be a long time before I hear from you but know how much I love you and the family loves you.

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Anonymous wrote:You are her boyfriends sister, you are not her kid's free nanny. Even if she was married to your brother, you don't need to take care of her kids. She is a user and she is using your brother as well, too bad he is a push over by her. How old is your brother to be helping her take care of 2 kids? And how old are her kids? I assume she and her kids didn't pay their share for this vacation?

OP here

My brother is 29 and his gf's kids are around 7&9. My parents paid for the hotel room, eating out, and my brothers airfare. They did not pay for the airfare of the GF or her kids. I do not know if she paid for herself and kids or my brother. If I were to place bets I would bet my brother paid the airfare.

For a brief update. My brother sent out a group message yesterday blasting everyone for not treating his GF right. He is really blind. He even included people in the message that were not on the trip. Our dad asked him to come over or call him so they could talk privately but he refused. He told dad he wanted everything out in the open then asked if his GF and kids were welcome. There was some going back and forth but I think my dads message sums of everything.

Below is his message:

I don't want to see this rift get any wider but things cannot continue as they have been. To answer your question xxxxx and her kids are welcome at the house. When you bring the kids either one or both of you need to be around to take care of them 100% of the time. What I am about to say is not easy for me but it has to be said for the good of everyone. xxxxx actions have left members of our family with very negative feelings. We have tolerated her because we love you. The temper tantrum she through in FL was over the top and absolutely unacceptable.
I have to insist that you do not bring xxxxx on our trip we have planned in December. If you bring her to the cabin and its a family weekend she cannot stay more than a few hours. It will go a long way if xxxxx sincerely apologizes to the people she has taken advantage of. If she is sincere and has a good attitude I believe the hard feelings will go away and she can again join us for family vacations down the road. She needs to rebuild her relationship with the family and dinners at the house is a good place to start. If there is anything close to a repeat of what happened in Florida, xxxxx will be asked to leave the house immediately. I know you will be upset with me over this but I can no longer look the other way at such bad behavior. I refuse to let one person cause so much chaos and negativity. With that said I expect every member of our family to be respectful and courteous to xxxxx at family functions and move forward. I know it might be a long time before I hear from you but know how much I love you and the family loves you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are her boyfriends sister, you are not her kid's free nanny. Even if she was married to your brother, you don't need to take care of her kids. She is a user and she is using your brother as well, too bad he is a push over by her. How old is your brother to be helping her take care of 2 kids? And how old are her kids? I assume she and her kids didn't pay their share for this vacation?

OP here

My brother is 29 and his gf's kids are around 7&9. My parents paid for the hotel room, eating out, and my brothers airfare. They did not pay for the airfare of the GF or her kids. I do not know if she paid for herself and kids or my brother. If I were to place bets I would bet my brother paid the airfare.

For a brief update. My brother sent out a group message yesterday blasting everyone for not treating his GF right. He is really blind. He even included people in the message that were not on the trip. Our dad asked him to come over or call him so they could talk privately but he refused. He told dad he wanted everything out in the open then asked if his GF and kids were welcome. There was some going back and forth but I think my dads message sums of everything.

Below is his message:

I don't want to see this rift get any wider but things cannot continue as they have been. To answer your question xxxxx and her kids are welcome at the house. When you bring the kids either one or both of you need to be around to take care of them 100% of the time. What I am about to say is not easy for me but it has to be said for the good of everyone. xxxxx actions have left members of our family with very negative feelings. We have tolerated her because we love you. The temper tantrum she through in FL was over the top and absolutely unacceptable.
I have to insist that you do not bring xxxxx on our trip we have planned in December. If you bring her to the cabin and its a family weekend she cannot stay more than a few hours. It will go a long way if xxxxx sincerely apologizes to the people she has taken advantage of. If she is sincere and has a good attitude I believe the hard feelings will go away and she can again join us for family vacations down the road. She needs to rebuild her relationship with the family and dinners at the house is a good place to start. If there is anything close to a repeat of what happened in Florida, xxxxx will be asked to leave the house immediately. I know you will be upset with me over this but I can no longer look the other way at such bad behavior. I refuse to let one person cause so much chaos and negativity. With that said I expect every member of our family to be respectful and courteous to xxxxx at family functions and move forward. I know it might be a long time before I hear from you but know how much I love you and the family loves you.

Wow, good for your dad. I doubt the gf is going to shape up but at least now it's been put out in the open that the family isn't hers to take advantage of anymore.

Anonymous wrote:It is likely your brother paid for her and her kids airfare and other expenses. She seem to be great at using people, and he seems to be either needy and hence blind or she is his first serious relationship. Your brother is acting like a teenager who will do whatever his parents dislike, just "because." I think he must really love her or he is defensive because he is backed into a corner. You have a great Dad though!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is likely your brother paid for her and her kids airfare and other expenses. She seem to be great at using people, and he seems to be either needy and hence blind or she is his first serious relationship. Your brother is acting like a teenager who will do whatever his parents dislike, just "because." I think he must really love her or he is defensive because he is backed into a corner. You have a great Dad though!

OP here. She is a user for sure. I don't know what my brother sees in her. I have always kept my mouth shut about what I think of her. To have dad tell my brother that she is only tolerated was like a ray of sunshine. I think she will try and play the victim but now thanks to my brother everything is out in the open. There is no doubt whatsoever on what her standing is in the family. The best part is she knows it too.

Anonymous wrote:Your dad should be writing an advice column! he's brilliant! tell him to come help all these poor souls on DCUM.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is likely your brother paid for her and her kids airfare and other expenses. She seem to be great at using people, and he seems to be either needy and hence blind or she is his first serious relationship. Your brother is acting like a teenager who will do whatever his parents dislike, just "because." I think he must really love her or he is defensive because he is backed into a corner. You have a great Dad though!

OP here. She is a user for sure. I don't know what my brother sees in her. I have always kept my mouth shut about what I think of her. To have dad tell my brother that she is only tolerated was like a ray of sunshine. I think she will try and play the victim but now thanks to my brother everything is out in the open. There is no doubt whatsoever on what her standing is in the family. The best part is she knows it too.