Brothers GF is a major pain

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woot for your parents taking "your" side. And for you for drawing the line in the literal sand!

I suspect there is a long history of daddy taking OP's side.

While OP should have said something to the GF Dad stepping in like hid did and banning the GF was not a good move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just got back from a family vacation and it was more stressful than it needed to be. My brothers long term GF has this annoying habit of asking you to watch her kids (brother is not the father) for an hour and she shows up 4-6 hours later. I was taking care of my nephews ages 11 & 16 (their parents could not make the trip). We were playing on the beach and she asks me if I could watch her kids while she went to the store. I told her no and she acted offended. She pressed for a why and I said you are notorious for leaving your kids and not showing up until hours later. I cannot give your kids the supervision they need. My nephews are my responsibility. You need to watch your own kids. I was very blunt and to the point. She was furious. She called my brother and started ranting. My brother then called me and told me I needed to apologize. I told him I would do no such thing. She needs to apologize for her inconsiderate behavior and I offered to give examples of her bad behavior.

Then brothers GF goes and complains to my parents. They respond by asking her why can't she take her kids to the store? lol She gets even madder. At the end of the day the family was glad that I called her out on her past inconsiderate behavior. Then my brother gets back and confronts me in person. Our dad steps in and tells him it would probably be best in the future for his GF not to ask anyone but him to babysit and not to bring her on family vacations for a while. This was a week ago and none of us have heard from him since. I am relieved. End of vent.

You'll be relieved until his help caring for your parents because you and your other sibling can't do it alone.

You'll be relieved until you can't call him again.

Pick up the damn phone! You don't have to apologize, but you can act like an adult.

You know it or you wouldn't have posted on DCUM looking for validation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woot for your parents taking "your" side. And for you for drawing the line in the literal sand!

I suspect there is a long history of daddy taking OP's side.

While OP should have said something to the GF Dad stepping in like hid did and banning the GF was not a good move.

If you legitimately think like this then I have bad news.... You are the family member that everyone hates. Maybe try not showing up to your next couple reunions

[Anonymous]

I think I may have been a little less harsh and given her a warning before blasting from all sides. Simply say that in the past her trips have been significantly longer than she indicates and you can't do that any more. Tell her that you can keep the kids for up to 1 hour but they can't Be swimming because you have too many kids to watch around water. Remind her that she has to be on time or this will be your last gig as a sitter. Then at least she would have had a warning about future refusals instead of getting broadsided by it since no one ever thought to complain before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I may have been a little less harsh and given her a warning before blasting from all sides. Simply say that in the past her trips have been significantly longer than she indicates and you can't do that any more. Tell her that you can keep the kids for up to 1 hour but they can't Be swimming because you have too many kids to watch around water. Remind her that she has to be on time or this will be your last gig as a sitter. Then at least she would have had a warning about future refusals instead of getting broadsided by it since no one ever thought to complain before.

I wouldn't have said yes for even an hour. It's OP's brother's responsibility, if anyone.

[Anonymous]

I agree, good for you OP, but I wonder if your brother does not convince her to come on family vacations by saying she will get help with the kids. Not your problem, but sometimes close families do not realize how awful extended family vacations are on the non-blood family members.

[Anonymous]

Good for you, OP.
I know from experience that nothing but direct speech works with some kinds of people.
Your brother will eventually understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woot for your parents taking "your" side. And for you for drawing the line in the literal sand!

I suspect there is a long history of daddy taking OP's side.

While OP should have said something to the GF Dad stepping in like hid did and banning the GF was not a good move.

If you legitimately think like this then I have bad news.... You are the family member that everyone hates. Maybe try not showing up to your next couple reunions

Actually ( unlike you) I'm a family member who is most loved and respected because I don't play favorites and can help resolve situations without escalating them. Which is what OP's dad did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Good for you, OP.
I know from experience that nothing but direct speech works with some kinds of people.
Your brother will eventually understand.

Not likely.

The more likely scenario is OP's brother gets closer to the GF and there are further communication breakdowns.

But it seems OP and OP's family would be fine with not communicating with the brother and it seems the brother is fine with not communicating with them.


Assuming this actually happened.

[Anonymous]

Op the problem is that your brother sounds like a loser if that's the best he could do in the gf department.

[Anonymous]

I had a relative pawn his granddaughter off on me for 8 hours. I was finally able to return the child to her mom (mom was at work) and relative got huffy when he finally called around 9 to pick up his grandbaby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woot for your parents taking "your" side. And for you for drawing the line in the literal sand!

I suspect there is a long history of daddy taking OP's side.

While OP should have said something to the GF Dad stepping in like hid did and banning the GF was not a good move.

If you legitimately think like this then I have bad news.... You are the family member that everyone hates. Maybe try not showing up to your next couple reunions

Actually ( unlike you) I'm a family member who is most loved and respected because I don't play favorites and can help resolve situations without escalating them. Which is what OP's dad did.

I'm sure you are!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woot for your parents taking "your" side. And for you for drawing the line in the literal sand!

I suspect there is a long history of daddy taking OP's side.

While OP should have said something to the GF Dad stepping in like hid did and banning the GF was not a good move.

OP's dad didn't 'ban' her. He stated made an observation:

"Our dad steps in and tells him it would probably be best in the future for his GF not to ask anyone but him to babysit and not to bring her on family vacations for a while."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woot for your parents taking "your" side. And for you for drawing the line in the literal sand!

I suspect there is a long history of daddy taking OP's side.

While OP should have said something to the GF Dad stepping in like hid did and banning the GF was not a good move.

If you legitimately think like this then I have bad news.... You are the family member that everyone hates. Maybe try not showing up to your next couple reunions

Actually ( unlike you) I'm a family member who is most loved and respected because I don't play favorites and can help resolve situations without escalating them. Which is what OP's dad did.

I'm sure you are!

I'm certain of it.
You on the other hand aren't you are probably constantly worried about who cares about you or who loves you and how popular are with others because you wonder how someone coud love a miserable bitch like you.

[Anonymous]

oh my goodness pp. you need to get out more. you are rude.