Wrong about delivering food?
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| A friend's mother has cancer and she (my friend) is driving a few hours away to be with her while she undergoes treatment. I asked my friend if I could help at all/bake something etc. she said that her parents are very picky eaters but they both like eggplant parmesean. I had never made ep before and had no idea how labor intensive it was. It took about 5 hours between salting the eggplant, chopping onions, breading and frying the eggplant, making the sauce etc. I made it Saturday while my husband preoccupied my two young children. My friend lives about 45 minutes away and is leaving tomorrow morning. As luck would have my father in law was at my home last night. He lives about 10 minutes away from my friend. I texted my friend at 7:00 last night to see if she could pick it up from my FIL's house sometime before weds morning and at first she said yes so I sent it with him. I then received a series of texts from her stating that she couldn't pick it up because various things were happening at her home and that she appreciated me making it and I should enjoy it. I appreciate that I offered to make it and perhaps it was my responsibility to get it to her but I also feel like it's not asking too much of my friend (or her husband) to pick it up. Thoughts? |
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| That stinks but it was a very kind gesture. I hope it tastes good, i didn't realize you could make egg parm that far in advance and it not get mushy. |
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| She was rude. And yes EP is a total PIA to make. I learned that the one and only time I made it. She should have made the effort to pick it up, it's not that hard to drive 10 min out of your way, no matter how busy you are. |
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| Can your FIL drop it off at your friends house? |
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My FIL is 91 and I don't want to bother him with this. Also I froze it uncooked. That's what Martha Stewart says to do 
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You wanted to do something helpful for your friend, but it ended up not being helpful for her to drive 20 minutes round-trip to receive the "help'
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| So would you suggest I get it from my FIL and drive it over? |
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| I'm trying to decide. I think the fact that she last night that she (or her husband) couldn't get it before tomorrow morning makes me not want to make a huge effort to get it to her. |
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I would get it from FIL and take it home and eat it yourself. Sounds like your friend is being a little rude, but PP is right, she's in a tough situation and maybe driving 20 minutes is just too much for her right now, just for a dish. Even though you spent a LOT of energy and time on it! |
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You made it to be helpful to her/them, right? So be helpful. Deliver it.
When I sign up to do a favor, I do the whole thing, not 90%. Please help this poor woman out. She's probably not at her very best right now. |
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Not to sound cruel, but one frozen meal isn't really that great of a help. yes, it was nice of you, but it doesn't seem to be worth the hassle for your friend.
If it is frozen, could you contact your mother's friend, instead of your friend, & offer to bring it over to her at some point next week. |
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amen |
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| What??!!!!! Yes, all of those punctuation marks. Your friend is hugely stressed and traumatized. Please cut her a break. |
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| I can't even wrap my head around this thread. |
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+1. Next time pick a pan up at Maggiano's. |