You guess you loved him. Your use of the past tense is telling. |
I married a man like OP's DH and he's been loyal for decades, but I was married to OP, I'd cheat. The guy I dumped for my DH made me feel the way OP describes her DH! Heed my warning OP -- you too can be replaced by the partner you disdain ... |
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sorry: IF I was married to OP, I'd cheat ... |
+1. So sad. Everyone deserves to be adored by his or her spouse. |
Actually, if I were any of above three, I would feel like something is missing. To me, even though they are rich and famous but it seems sad that they have no children/close family unit. Again, strickly my opinion. |
I can see some of myself in the OP's husband.
I can admit that I would't be much of a catch for some highly driven, professional women. What I don't understand, is how OP did't know that he wasn't her caliber before she married him? Put the poor bastard out of his misery and divorce him. Let him find someone who will appreciate him. |
Op, im almost with you sister. My DH never shops, and with our crazy hours and a kid I rarely give his wardrobe any thought so I think he goes around like a bozo too lol. I gave him $400 to get some stuff at macys he comes home with more work dress pants and more white work shirts I wanted to kill him. It's like he just can't shop for casual wear or anything but bus professional. |
#$@#@ |
Who gives a shit? Stop your whining. |
Sounds like she got exactly what she deserved. Is she shriveled up? |
You fools. Send this man to me! He has a job, he's dependable, he's all about family…I'll take him off of your hands. Wait to the day when he finds out how you really feel and then you'll find yourself alone and with your other shallow friends. Sure, it will be fun for a while but you'll come back to reality because it's a cold, hard world out there. |
I am new to this board but I completely agree with you OP. Sorry for the delayed response. Marriage isn't JUST about love. There are practical matters involved too. If you don't trust your significant other to represent you respectably as a familial unit that is problematic. Call the OP superficial, but I think she is brave and you are all sheep. Bahhhh.
I am in a similar situation. I married my best friend but as I've grown to know him better I've realized that he likes to play the role of a jester instead of ever learning about anyone else. He rants and raves about played out topics and makes half the table roll their eyes. Including myself. I love the man, doesn't mean I have to love everything about him. I told him what bothered me and am hoping to see a change. If I don't, I'm out. He deserves to find someone who does love those qualities about him. |
You are so selfless. |
I like threads that pertains to my situation. I'm a divorce dad but in a good relationship now. The nice qualities I have was taken for granted and the bad exaggerated. My new gf and previous ones wondered why my ex bitched so much. For years I thought it was me but I know better now. |
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