Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound like a good person. I would at least grill him for answers - was he planning to go through with it? Why did he lead you on? Was he really going to continue with the relationship? You also need closure.

I agree OP sounds like a great person, but I disagree she should grill him. Just move on. He will plead to get her back, tell her what she wants to hear, she may be tempted to believe it because she is understandably in a stage where there is a shot clock on finding a partner to have kids with.

OP, I wrote to you in the explicit column (hopefully one of the thoughtful responses) and said he may be bi but definitely is going to have gay sex. Just get out now. I like the suggestion "its not you, it me." He will suspect why you made the break and he will be relieved that you won't share his secret.

If you exchange in some back and forth, you will end up with him for longer than necessary out of loneliness (many of us have been in and out of relationships with exes because of loneliness). Don't waste time. Cleaner the break, the faster your heart will be in the right place to move on and be available to find a man.

Anonymous wrote:Wait...you are both 36 years old, and have not had sex for 8 months because you are "saving yourselves"? Are either of you virgins? I ask that as a serious question because at 36 years old that seems highly unlikely, in which case what exactly are you "saving". If this was some 14 year old or a the rare college-girl-that-does-this asking, I would understand. Given the ages that seems like a big red flag though.

OP here...the verdict is in, he is GAY. I caught him, "red handed"....he said he had to work late, so I stopped by his house to drop off dinner for him so that when he got home he was all set. Well, he was already home, and in bed with another guy... Case closed. I took the dinner back home with me!

MikeL wrote:From the explicit forum:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/502914.page

The money shot:

OP here...the verdict is in, he is GAY. I caught him, "red handed"....he said he had to work late, so I stopped by his house to drop off dinner for him so that when he got home he was all set. Well, he was already home, and in bed with another guy... Case closed. I took the dinner back home with me!

Anonymous wrote:

MikeL wrote:From the explicit forum:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/502914.page

The money shot:

OP here...the verdict is in, he is GAY. I caught him, "red handed"....he said he had to work late, so I stopped by his house to drop off dinner for him so that when he got home he was all set. Well, he was already home, and in bed with another guy... Case closed. I took the dinner back home with me!

OP, is this you?