DON'T QUIT!!! Hang on for dear life until you consult an attorney. Contact the First Shift Justice Program. They are FANTASTIC advocates for working mothers in DC. |
OP
You are going to be a mom soon. You can't take this lying down. It's time to fight for you and your growing family! Please don't quit or hang in there- you deserve better and so do your future children. They are discriminating against you. Please take to a lawyer. Good luck! |
![]() Go get 'em, OP. Please talk to a lawyer about this. I would not be surprised in the least if your employer didn't try to fire you before the end of your pregnancy. You need someone on your side right now. (In the meantime, it's probably not a bad idea to start looking for other jobs, just in case you do end up fired.) |
I agree - you should contact a lawyer asap and start documenting. There are a lot of lawyers that offer free consultations. There's also the christian legal society that has a 'find a lawyer' link on their page. Sorry that you are going through this! But you're not alone, that is why they have created laws against it. Hang in there mama! Focus on staying healthy for those precious babies.
mommato2lilmonkeys |
You need to send confirming emails for every conversation you have. Since it's all been verbal, send an email to the supervisor detailing your prior conversations and exactly what was done. CC yourself on everything and keep a record.
And hire a lawyer. I don't think I've ever heard of something so egregious. |
They haven't docked your pay or moved your job yet, right? Other than a few unpleasant conversations, you haven't been harmed in any financial way. Having the new employee around is a little uncomfortable, but she hasn't taken your duties from you, right?
Do your best to document everything that happened. Also document in writing that you prefer not to change jobs and would like to keep working at the same salary. Then if they still decide to move you, seek assistance from an attorney. |
Levelheaded advice. this is just the beginning, OP, since clearly they have a lot of expectations that you'll mommy-track or worse once your kids are here. Hang in. begin your lifelong relationship with you rinner mama tiger, and get ready to fight, in a way that defends you and your family without exhausting you or burning bridges. |
Take the other position and see how things pan out, you may want to sah. You're lucky they are committed to keeping you. |
Just wanted to chime in as an HR professional (but not a lawyer) and concur: this sounds like clear pregnancy discrimination. Call the EEOC! they are focused on pregnancy discrimination this year and are likely to take your case. |
Congratulations on your pregnancy! And I'm sorry about the jerks at work.
I'm not sure about the structure of your company, but it seems really odd that they could just hire someone to take your position away without discussing this with you -- whether or not you're pregnant. If you have been appointed to this position, then I think they have a responsibility to keep you in this position, move you to a new but equal position with adequate written warning and a legitimate explanation, or fire you based on legitimate reasons. I would definitely seek legal advice on what to do about this. I don't know where to refer you but am sure there are organizations that can help pro bono or at least advise as a starting place. I would definitely start looking for a new job, though. No matter what, this sounds like an AWFUL place to work and a very un-family-friendly place. I think you're going to be miserable there after you have the kids because they aren't interested in helping you -- just making you feel like a terrible employee for having a personal life. Really, this is astounding and sad. Please seek legal help and get them to pay for what they are doing. If you don't, they'll do this to someone else. |
Please come back in a few months and tell us how things are going! |
This is true. The EEOC is having a major push for pregnancy discrimination protections now. The issue is that she hasn't yet suffered an adverse employment action (just threatened). But, if and when she is moved to a lower paying position, I agree that she should contact the EEOC or a private attorney (which might get her more leverage for a settlement than the EEOC will). |
Call a lawyer, OP.
Signed, A lawyer |
Wow, so thy employer tries to accommodate her and she gets mad |
She hadn't asked for accomodation. assuming someone wants accomodation when they haven't asked for it is discrimination. As an asshole, surely you're familiar with people not treating you as you deserve to be treated? |