Vent: my brother has a lot to say on how I should be raising my 2 little kids

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[Post New]07/08/2015 17:10
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Anonymous
Tell him to shut his piehole because his unsolicited advice is going to negatively affect your relationship.
[Post New]07/08/2015 17:22
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP - you sound like a great parent. I'm worried that I won't be good at keeping a schedule- which as most people with half a brain know- is really helpful in raising well adjusted kids. Most kids thrive of stability and routine. Your bro's being a jackass. He doesn't want to be inconvenienced by the new dynamic. Though shit. Kid comes first.
You really need to stand up here are tell him to stfu.
God, I want to do it for you.


I am guessing you don't have kids already. But if you have a kid who needs a schedule, you will find that the consequences for not sticking to the schedule will motivate you to be very good at keeping a schedule




Hi! I'm expecting! Yeah, hoping the little nugget will straighten me out.
[Post New]07/08/2015 18:36
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Anonymous
I can sympathize. My brother tells me how I should parent my teenage son and lets me know what I am doing wrong. He tells me that I should just tell him what to do and he should automatically obey. Yeah, right. My brother never listened to my parents when he was a teen. I can't wait until his kids are teens. Should be interesting.
[Post New]07/08/2015 19:04
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Anonymous
Why do you care what your brothers opinion of your parenting is? I find it weird that this is even on your radar? Just either shut him down and say your parenting choice are not up for discussion or stop seeing him so much
[Post New]07/09/2015 13:35
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Anonymous
Annoying relatives with child-rearing advice have a lot of 'shoulds' if their sentences. Answer = coulda, woulda, shoulda. Now mix me a margarita, bro!
[Post New]07/10/2015 09:47
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MikeL
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP - you sound like a great parent. I'm worried that I won't be good at keeping a schedule- which as most people with half a brain know- is really helpful in raising well adjusted kids. Most kids thrive of stability and routine. Your bro's being a jackass. He doesn't want to be inconvenienced by the new dynamic. Though shit. Kid comes first.
You really need to stand up here are tell him to stfu.
God, I want to do it for you.


I am guessing you don't have kids already. But if you have a kid who needs a schedule, you will find that the consequences for not sticking to the schedule will motivate you to be very good at keeping a schedule




Hi! I'm expecting! Yeah, hoping the little nugget will straighten me out.

Great advice right there!
[Post New]07/10/2015 10:05
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:He's your brother you can talk to him however you like.

Tell him he has no qualifications to speak on the subject and he can shut the fxxk up


This would be my approach.
[Post New]07/10/2015 10:42
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Anonymous
Agree with filming him and posting on you tube. "Parenting advice from XX year old man with NO kids!"

BTW why are you spending so much time with him that he has all these opinions? He needs to get a life, away from yours.
[Post New]07/10/2015 17:14
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Anonymous
Why are you still listening to him? Next time he starts in tell him you're full up on advice, thanks! If he won't stop, hang up or walk out. He'll get it eventually.
[Post New]07/10/2015 17:15
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Anonymous
PP and i meant to add, he's your brother, not some elder you need to 'respect'. It's really okay to tell him to kick rocks on this subject.
[Post New]07/10/2015 17:29
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Anonymous
If and when you are willing to babysit them for a week so that you can see the full results of those ideas, let me know. We'll take a vacation, you can parent them your way and we'll see from the resulting behavior if you're right. Just let us know when you want to do this so that we have enough time to make our travel plans.
[Post New]07/10/2015 17:38
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Anonymous
Op ~ the specifics of what he thinks are not important.

You are either inviting his opinion, or you aren't.

If you are discussing child raising, making this a part of a discussion, then it's your fault. He has an opinion/observation, and he is giving it.

Don't discuss, don't invite comment.
[Post New]07/10/2015 17:42
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:If and when you are willing to babysit them for a week so that you can see the full results of those ideas, let me know. We'll take a vacation, you can parent them your way and we'll see from the resulting behavior if you're right. Just let us know when you want to do this so that we have enough time to make our travel plans.


Burn!!
[Post New]07/10/2015 18:47
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If and when you are willing to babysit them for a week so that you can see the full results of those ideas, let me know. We'll take a vacation, you can parent them your way and we'll see from the resulting behavior if you're right. Just let us know when you want to do this so that we have enough time to make our travel plans.


Burn!!


I was going to suggest this too but honestly, OP's brother sounds like such an idiot, it's not clear the kids would survive...
[Post New]07/10/2015 20:57
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Anonymous
Just tell him your schedule is not up for discussion. You are available until x time. End of story. If he doesn't like it he doesn't have to hang out.
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