Dog destroying marriage
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OP has your dog been tested for cushing's disease? That's what our older dog had when he began peeing a lot and wasn't incontinent.
On another note, I think your DH is probably responding to your absolute rigid refusal to do anything other than exactly what you are doing. Marriage is a give and take, and a little compromise goes a long way. Can you take the dog out maybe 2x a day and get a dog walker for another 2, so the balcony doesn't get as gross? |
Anonymous
| I suggested that but he said "the dog will never pee on this balcony again". |
Anonymous
| How old are your kids, OP? |
Anonymous
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This has to be fake, right? I mean, the dog is small enough to be carried down to the foyer, out the door and into the tiny green space to pee. This takes, what, two minutes? I get that she likes the balcony, and that's fine, but you should be able to take her out front every two hours or so that you're home with no problem. I assume you can leave your children in a space place for two minutes to pee yourself or take that shower, right?
I think this must be someone trolling. No dog lover is so cavalier about quality of life and ALSO unwilling to take two minutes to help mitigate the random peeing and the mess on the balcony. |
Anonymous
Did you read her PP from right after Christmas? The baby is a couple months old. I actually didn't know that she had an older child. |
Anonymous
| They are 3 and 1. |
Anonymous
What about the one that you were supposed to give birth to in mid-January, per your previous post about how you had to run away to the Marriott in the middle of the night? |
Anonymous
| I really appreciate so much all of the advice. I do. I have to sign off now bc I have stuff to do but also bc if I read too many more posts I will probably euthanize the dog and then blame DCUM! I will talk to DH and the vet. Thanks all. |
Anonymous
This is ridiculous, OP. Many people have two young children and a dog. Dogs need to be walked more than 2 times a day. What do parents of young kids do? Put both kids in a double stroller. Wear one in an Ergo and walk the other while walking the dog. Whatever. You are "entitled" to put yourself above a dog that has served you loyal and is now elderly and helpless. You are entitled to have a neglected dog pee all over your balcony and cause tension in your marriage. But you are not entitled to people approving you or to your husband being okay with that. You are choosing your self-care priorities and causing your dog and your husband to be inconvienced and uncomfortable. |
Anonymous
I can't read this thread. Pregnant with a much loved older dog. 
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Anonymous
If you keep refusing to accommodate her changes needs as she ages, she's going to be ready a lot sooner...so you've got that going for you. Seriously, you simply refuse to take her out more often even though you can. And, yes, you CAN take two kids downstairs with you. The dog isn't ruining your marriage, your steadfast refusal to do anything that inconveniences you is. I suspect this isn't just an issue where the dog is concerned. It's time for some self-reflections. |
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Boom! I KNEW I'd heard this story before! |
Anonymous
I reported it. I think the OP is making things up. |
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Well, clearly your DH thinks differently. Those pee pads must reek by the time you get around to changing them out! I'm with your DH, this sounds absolutely disgusting and I feel bad for your poor pooch |
Anonymous
| When we adopted our 2 dogs, it was for life, and that entails old age. If my DH acted like an ass, especially about what I care about, I'm not sure I'd be happily married. He knows that if I see an animal in harms way, a stray dog or cat, we're pulling the car over, period. Compassion!!! |