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My Son's Grandma Is a BITCH!!!!
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Anonymous
| PP here, I actually let it slide and had nothing much to say. I totally appreciate her help. I know she is feeding him healthy foods but its more every hour than every 3 hours or so. Grandmas always think fatter is healthy! |
Anonymous
| Sounds to me like it's time to get your baby back at home with you. |
Anonymous
I agree with you wholeheartedly. Not OP BTW. What makes me curious is how anyone else could read the above post and think it was anything but rude? Good luck OP, your son's grandma sounds like a piece of work. |
Anonymous
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Its generational. These grandmothers along with fast food gave rise to the obesity generation. If she watches him alot then you need to set a stand and set some reasonable nutrition and eating habits with her. Food battles or constantly giving sweets on a regular basis is not good. If its every now and then don't worry and ignore her or tell her off depending on your mood.
My mother used to believe that you weren't healthy unless you had a little color. She was a constant tanner and always had us outside without sunscreen. Luckily, I have darker skin and don't burn as badly but my sister was fair and would always be beat red. We used a lot of solarcane back then. We can't let her watch the kids in the summer for longer periods because she wont put sunscreen on them. She actually thinks my 4 year old would look healthier with a little more color. She also thinks our kids are too thin and that I must be sick since I lost the baby weight. She has type II diabetes now from dietary and weight habits. Sigh. |
Anonymous
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You are over reacting. Most grandmothers will say things like that. It's not a huge issue. Her comment is more of a reflection about his state of health than it is about your ability to parent. So glean from it something positive if you can and try to see if your child could stand to put on a couple of pounds.
My son was a picky eater too. When I brought him to visit family, I heard the same...and from several relatives. Yes, he was very thin, but the pediatrician wasn't alarmed so I wasn't. It's now 4 years later and when I look back at my son's pictures, I'm shocked at how thin he was. I regret that I just trusted what his pediatrician said because I now recognize they don't know a heck of a lot. If your child looks more thin than other kids, chances are he can stand to put on a couple of pounds. And when my son woke up in the middle of the night at that age, I gave him milk instead of water. He then went back to a more deeper sleep and slept several more hours. He also eventually put on weight. Yes, it broke my sleep and I was extra tired but so what? It was temporary. He stopped waking up within 6 months. I realized that he was waking up because he was actually hungry but couldn't really express that. So don't get so upset. All MIL's say things like that. If I had a dime for every ill-mannered things my MIL said, I'd be a millionaire. Not a big deal. Learn to brush off such things and focus on what is more important - your child's health. |
Anonymous
| Grandma made some bitchy comments for sure. But try not to let it bug you. She's probably going to come up with various zingers over the years, so try to let it roll off your back and not give it any power, like the PP said. Save your firepower for when she is trying to do something you consider really harmful. Good luck! |
Anonymous
| My mom does this sort of thing and it really irritates me but I realize it is going to continue and I really try and ignore it. She just told me that I should get a potty for our son so we can start toilet training - he is not even 18 mos! |
Anonymous
| OP: Stop _uckin complaining & be glad he has a grandmother. |
Anonymous
I agree it is nasty of her to make comments about social services (unless she is saying it in a joking way... ) I am wondering if grandma isn't trying to make a larger statement about parenting in general--maybe she doesn't approve of working moms and maybe she is harboring resentment about caring for your little boy I hope that's not it...but just a thought. What does your husband say?
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Anonymous
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All of these posters telling OP she's overreacting are out of their mind. They seriously must have missed the part where you mention Grandma says you're lucky social services don't get after you.
Some kids are skinny. Some grandmas think kids should be plump. Some of these kids end up being little fatties by the time they reach high school. OP, if your child is healthy and you don't think he's too skinny, don't sweat it. If your child is on the slim side and grandma has made you nervous, then ask your physician. And stop listening to people tell you you're overreacting. My word, what would they do if their MIL's said social services was at the door? |
Anonymous
Huh? Please don't drink and write. |
zumbamama
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| Maybe you can give the grandma some articles to read on overeating and American obesity rates in kids? |
Anonymous
If don't want to hear your MIL's criticism, then don't ask her to watch your son. Other wise, shut up and be thankful that she is doing you a favor. |
Anonymous
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TO 02/18/2009 12:00
You are so insensitive, clearly you don't or can't have kids! |
Anonymous
| The bottom line is that Grandma has every right to express concern about a child she is helpfully watching, but the way she expressed it shows no respect for this child's parents. I almost said "mother," and then I thought, Where the f*ck is dad (her son) in this scenario? Did Grandma dress down--and threaten to call social services on--her son also? Or is she using this babysitting opportunity to tell Mom what she really thinks of her? OP--this disrepect is indicative of how MIL feels about you. She's looking for a reason to give you sh*t. |