Anonymous wrote:"maybe we sahm do see things that you all are not seeing b/c we are there with the kids at the parks with the nannies and in the classes with the nannies. maybe we have some insight that you don't have b/c you are not there. so instead of fighting us maybe stop for a moment and say "maybe they have a point," "maybe i should look into this." i am not a mean person. i am just trying to give some insight into things i see."

I'm the PP and right when I posted I saw this comment.....the working Moms will have a time with this one. It works both ways ya know. Working Moms with children who are separated from them all day see things differently than you too....through a different lens than you. I think we can acknowlege that there are good and bad points for the Moms and the Kids for either situation (assuming the Parents are loving and involved). We can all learn things from each other. That's why we come and post on boards like this. No one is going to read a post like that and have a revelation because we have all thought about it already. Everyone struggles with that decision.....it's just not the right one for everybody.....for more reasons than is justified to write on a message board. Don't feel bad about it. You do not sound mean....it just is coming out in a way you're not intending it to....

Anonymous wrote:OP what I don't get is why your post is titled that the movie really made you rethink your choices. What choices are you now rethinking as you are already a stay at home mom who apparently is doing everything right? It's kind of creepy that you appear to have been "posing" as a working mom who is seeing the light. But then your subsequent posts - again - drive your point home that you think everyone should be and can be a stay at home mom and that your job is to judge and decide what's best for people you've never met. Maybe working moms have never said "gosh, you're right" because you do not know what's best for anyone but you. Maybe you should try the wearenotinterestedinourkids.com board - because I'd venture to say that all of us here love our kids and want the best for them and do what we think is best for them and our families. No need to continue your odd campaign to make sure you feel ok about your choices.

Anonymous wrote:"I don't think the OP is judging or talking about those that have to work. But that said, I have a few questions for those that "must" work. I know there are a lot that do, I have been there. Do you have a cell phone, new car, cable, internet service, eat out lots? There are plenty of ways to stay home for "some". Please don't take this as all could stay home. But I do know plenty of people that could if they really wanted to, but those things listed above are too important in their life. That is shameful. Yes, I am a very proud SAHM. Would not have it any other way. Would eat beans every night if I needed, I just want to be there for my babies in this very short time of their lives."

Now this post was obnoxious. Sorry proud SAHM isn't the right description, try sanctimommy. The whole attitude of self sacrifice is ironically so needy. I do understand how many SAHMs don't get the validation they yearn for but constantly proclaiming all this nonsense to justify their choices can be quite annoying. It seems that some SAHMs, who knows maybe many, absolutely delight in any nanny horror story or fluff pieces like the nanny diaries.

Whether you stay at home or work, it truly is the quality of time not the quantity of time. Some people think quantity can make up for quality, it can't.

Anonymous wrote:quantiy vrs quality. BS. How much quality time can a child get from a parent that works 7-7.

Anonymous wrote:
I thought your movie was silly and not at all reflective of the people who have nannies but entertaining none the less--my only problem would be that there are a lot of dumb people in this world who would take your book as a reality and it just isn't--not even close.