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nanny diaries- i watched this just recently and it really made me rethink my choices
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Anonymous
| i just watched the nanny diaries, as i missed it when it originally came out. it really makes you want to change your life and priorities. i highly recommend it. it is heartbreaking though watching the poor child just wanting to be with his parents and they have no time for him. so sad. it really made me think. just wanted to pass that on and recommend it as a good reminder to parents about our children's years and how precious they are and how fast they go. |
Anonymous
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Hehe. I thought of that movie the other day when I went to a playgroup and I think one of the women there had a nanny with her. She was dressed in very expensive things (not that I begrudge her that! I would probably buy those things too if I could!) and she was eating with another woman and their kids. When she got up to leave, a very young woman showed up, picked up the child of the expensively-dressed woman, and they left together. I could tell by the demeanor that the other woman was apparently a nanny. She seemed to be acting like a nanny would. Anyway, it was so odd to see someone out with their children and their nanny. Why would you need the nanny if you were home all day? Maybe she works only sometimes. I work part-time so I guess she could too and just have the nanny full time so she has her there when she's home too? What I WILL say however, is that the Mother of the child was definitely the one taking care of her during the meetup. I mean, that is how I knew who her child was. So, I think she must have just invited the nanny to join them. I think women can be SAHMs who are invovled with their children and have nannies as well. We're not all equiped to raise children naturally.
That movie is pretty over the top, but I'm sure those women exist! |
Anonymous
| funny-I saw it and got a whole different take on it. I know that the book was written by a bunch of bitter nannies and you can see how they really take an unusual scenario and make it seem like it's normal. I don't anyone who is as cold with their nanny and their kids at Scarlet Johannson's character since most people who have kids are really into them even if work requires that they are away. What I took home from this is that I am glad that I work with a nanny who is not only wonderful with kids but with us as well--I think no I know that we have a great relationship. I don't have to be reminded that the years go by quickly and spending time with your kids is important. |
Anonymous
| I could have been that woman although I am not usually dressed so nice (unless I have a meeting) and my hair is beyond a mess but..I do have a nanny for various reasons including working from home parttime and lots of times I do bring my nanny out with me esp. if work is slow and I think it would be fun to get out. I have asked her if she minded that I am around and give her the choice to stay at home and do some stuff around the house or go out and she says she loves getting out and that this is the best job she has every had and indictated that she would like to finish her career with us so I am thinking we are an okay family. |
Anonymous
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I'm the poster from 13:59.
Sorry to any posters who took offense to what I wrote. I think it came off differently than I had meant. I definitely did not intend to say "people shouldn't have nannies if they stay home". My intent was more to point out that, although there was a nanny there, the woman she worked for was clearly involved with the children, so I don't think the movie was representative of all women with nannies. I don't even think it's anywhere close to the majority! I think that different people have different situations. I get a lot of crap from people for putting my daughter in daycare when I'm at work! I think if you have a Nanny, people will have an opinion, if you have daycare, people will not like that, if you're a SAHM, the other side will hit you with what they think about it! You just can't win so you have to do what you think is best. As long as you love your children and they know it, they will not suffer from your choices on their daycare. |
Anonymous
OP - are you a working Mom? I suspect you are the same person who jumps at any opportunity to play sancti-mommy at those who aren't exclusively SAHM. And again, there's a lot to be said for those who need to constantly justify their own choices. And the fact that you found the NANNY DIARIES movie as an important social commentary is pretty entertaining. It's a fluff movie that dramatizes an extreme scenario. My boss is a woman. Is she just like Meryl Streep in the Devil Wears Prada? Um, no. This post is ridiculous. And no need to send out your patronizing reminder about our children's years and how precious they are and how fast they go. Do you honestly think any one among us is not aware of that? |
Anonymous
| Yikes, working mom, SAHM, who with kids has the time or the energy to watch a DVD! |
Anonymous
| Oh please, I often watch DVDs when the kids go to bed-- have to have a bit of a life don't we? I thought Nanny Diaries was extreme, but you should read White House Nannies and realize that there are many families here in DC that may not share what appears to be the values on this board by many. I used to work and had a FT nanny. She was great and we love her and she is still a part of our family. However, having said that I too, found parts of the film to a hit a bit close to home. I made a lifestyle choice that at times is hard but I am glad I did it! Not a sancti-SAHM thing, but a put my priorities in place and realize that my child needs a fair amount of time with me that at the time I was not providing. These years are short. |
Anonymous
okay you are being a santi mommy--let's the angry mom replies begin
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Anonymous
Is there a stupider word than "lifestyle"? And I agree with poster who said a reminder that these "years are short" is not necessary. Except for those wasting them watching "The Nanny Diaries." |
Anonymous
| sounds like some of you are feeling guilty. What is so wrong with saying the years are short. They are, and maybe some need to be remined. |
Anonymous
thank you. yes, most of us do realize it but many don't. sometimes i need to be reminded as well, which is why that movie touched me. i am home full time but there are times that i too need to be reminded that sometimes all my kid needs is just me! (not a class, not expensive toys, and not the "best" school, etc....) i think there are those that think that if their kids are being taken care of by the most loving nanny that this is a replacement for mom and dad and i am sorry to say, it is not. take time to spend with your kids everyday. |
Anonymous
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I think very few people who actually think a good nanny is a replacement for Mom are actually capable of putting their priorities in place.
Most people have nannies because they need to work. They don't get them because they don't want to be there for their children. Money is an important family asset. Like it or not, we need it to live. How well you live financially is up to you but it is important that people know themselves and give themselves the opportunity to be fulfilled by their life. If you are not a happy person, you will not raise happy people. If being a happy person involves going to work, your children will benefit from it. If going to work means that you're going to feel miserable and guilty, they won't. I think there is a horrible pressure for people to be perfect parents. Perfect parents don't exist. |
Anonymous
Reminded by who? A mom who had a lightbulb moment watching "The Nanny Diaries"? Uh, I think it's going to take a lot more than that for some people. And for the rest of us--like, for example,, those of us who work full time with DHs who work full time and they still can't afford to buy a house or have more than one kid--we don't need to be reminded. We know already, trust me. But thanks for sharing. |
Anonymous
| DVD? |