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Anonymous
| I saw a woman in her 50s the other day that I thought looked hip and age appropriate. She had on well fitting jeans, boots that were not super high heeled under her jeans (which were slightly boot leg); a cream turtleneck sweater (cashmere), simple jewlery, a very nice bag and coat. She had a silver-ish bob and attractive make up. Now, to me, that is a look that you can wear at 30 or 60! Other looks I like on older women. A simple dress with tights and ballet flats or a slight heel. My mom is 76 and looks amazing (no work done), she dresses simply but with flair (a well tied scarf, an interesting shoe). I admire her. Now, I will say, both my mom and this woman mentioned above were slim and could wear many different styles and look great. But, it is encouraging that there are age appropriate clothes that are still flattering and fashionable! |
Anonymous
Oh no, this is one of those "I am too beautiful and should I be?" threads!!!! 
OP, you go girl. Rock your body, be proud and be an inspiration. You are not trendy, you are classic. |
Anonymous
LOL Okay, I never said I was beautiful. I'm thin but so what. I'm asking if the public perception is that I can pull it off - wearing stylish clothing at my age. I never mentioned my face. |
Anonymous
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For those who said you don't bare your arms, wear cap sleeves, etc. .... what the heck do you do during DC summers? the endless, endless, 92 degrees for 4 months summers?
I have no business wearing sleeveless shirts myself at 41, however the thought of running around outdoors much of the day in anything BUT a sleeveless, low-ish cut top in DC makes me shudder. (I don't work in an office; am outdoors a lot). Thoughts? |
Anonymous
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Holy cow people...are you seriously going to box yourself in now because of your age? Just another thing to make older women feel bad about?
Im 30 and I hope that when I get 40 or 50, I will feel okay to wear whatever the frick I want to wear. You only live once...and to box yourself into that whole, "This is the length of skirt someone should wear when they're 16, then 18, then 29+" is really pathetic. |
Anonymous
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To the one PP, what does a "slut" look like anyway? I hate that expression. It is tossed around far too frequently. And, it's offensive.
OP, wear what looks good on you. Doesn't matter the age. If you stick to that principle, you will look great! |
Anonymous
I completely agree |
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| Girl....if you look good....and people think you are ten years younger...go for it. Show your figure and flatter your assets because one day it will be gone. |
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I think you can dress sexy in a classy way without looking trashy. It's all how you pull the outfit together.
I have seen some pretty hot 50 somethings sporting A-line minis with and a nice blouse and cute shoes or fitted business suits with a slight hint of cleave. And then I have seen women wearing 5-inch stilettos with everything spilling out of their too-tight clothes on a cold day. There is a difference between sexy and "slutty." |
Anonymous
| Four years ago, when I was 36, I chose to wear a scottish mini and a short sleeve classy sweater to go to a happy hour. Guess what, I met a nice guy who turned to be my husband three years later. He said he first looked at my well shaped legs, then my face and he decided to come talk to me. |
Anonymous
| I was at a gas station the other day and there was this woman who was pumping gas next to me. From behind all I could see was a very svelte woman with a great blonde hairstyle. She had on a very short dress, came up to her thigh. It looked like black cashmere. And she had great leggings and great boots to match. But when she turned around I was so surprised. She looked like she was 100 years old. So sometimes an older woman can't wear whatever she wants. It looks too odd. |
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Now to all the ladies: do you really want to start dressing like a Top Shop model because you’re 40? And for all you with the body changes and the baby fat, etc., etc., is it really necessary to go all conservative? You do know that there are trendy looks that aren’t short and tight, right? And that you don’t have to have perfectly toned arms to wear a cap sleeve or even no sleeves? I’m not cut like Michelle Obama or skinny as a stick. I’m a size 10 and I wear up-to-date clothes that are neither slutty or teenager-y. The key is trendy accessories, tops, jeans, hairdo, and subtle modern makeup. AND if your face is wrinkled or caving in from volume loss and you have the tell tale wrinkled turkey neck and old crone hands and feet to get those taken care of. It’s a myth that you have to look perfect or super young to wear trendy, fashionable clothes.
Also, you are not competing with anybody! Why do people say that? Dressing nice is about looking good not competing for male attention with 20-year-olds. You can’t compete with them on that score, just like they can’t compete with you when it comes to experience, wisdom and sophistication. So please get that out of your head. You have to understand as an older woman is that 40 and beyond is when we truly come into our power. That’s why the powers that be want you to feel ashamed of yourself and like you’re “competing” to shut you the hell up and push you in the background. The best thing you can do as an older woman is to get in the gym, reclaim your body and your health, and wear what the f* you want. Being strong and beautiful, especially at 40 and beyond is powerful because most women just let themselves go. I never understand this! You are still a woman at 40. Why would you wear drab, hideous clothes and slink into the background at the prime of your life? As for micro minis, I personally think they are for little girls. A fitted pencil skirt that hits at the knee or just slightly above is far more sexy, especially at night with a stiletto heel. If you have taken good care of your décolletage, as you should, a plunging neck line with cleavage – just enough, not spill over, is the sexiest thing ever. This is my belief. Strategic revelation of skin, the tease, is what is sexy. Not the 20-year-old all legs, all boobs, nothing to the imagination. To me, it’s the young girls who need to show it all who look desperate. They often are desperate. They want to find husbands before their looks are gone, not understanding that you cultivate your good looks over a lifetime by respecting your body. So long story longer: follow fashion, don’t be a slave. Do show skin, strategically. Don’t let society force you into conservative, old lady clothes just because you’re a certain age, and don’t try to emulate some teen or twenty-something’s ideal of sexy. There is a sexy for grown woman and you should be all over that until they nail the coffin shut. Fix major signs of ageing. Get you’re a** in the gym. The fact that you’re a mom, are in menopause or “too old” or “nobody cares anymore what I look like” are not excuses for letting yourself go. Only crazy or depressed people don’t care about how they look. Lastly, there are no ugly or invisible women, only lazy ones. I think Yves St. Laurent said that. |
Anonymous
LOL. This is what I’m going to say about that whole “from behind she looked eighteen; from the front she looked eighty.” So what! Sounds like that’s your’s and society’s hang up. Lots of things are odd to me. The stupid way teenagers dress, the fact that when it’s hot only the fat, ugly, hairy men chose to go shirtless and people who are obsessed about what grown women of a certain age should be allowed to wear or not. It isn’t my business to tell people how to dress. If some ancient bag wants to dress in miniskirts, that’s her business. And chances are the woman you saw wasn’t as old as you’re exaggerating if she had an excellent body. She was likely in her 40s or 50s, which for some reason equates to 100 in this stupid world. We seem to think women who look over 25 are old but men are given a wide berth to not only dress much younger than their age, but to have a woman young enough to be his daughter on his arm and not be openly derided for that. |
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Shallow, shallow, shallow. |
Anonymous
| If you are slim, you can dress a lot more trendily, regardless of age. But I would recommend: (1) avoiding big hair and lipliner; (2) the shorter the skirt, the lower the heel; (3) stick to one trendy item per outfit (avoid leopard print bag, shoes, and vest!); (4) make sure clothing fits -- too tight on anyone is awful. |