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Anonymous wrote:For a look at different body types at similar height/weights take a look at

http://www.mybodygallery.com/

Oh my God. The 5' 4" 240-lb photos made me want to cry for this young girl.


http://www.mybodygallery.com/photos-19008-body-shape.htm#img

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Hi it's the op again. I am not trying to refute anything. What more do you want? Yes she had a hormonal condition which we corrected and it took many different approaches to find one that actually worked. How fast do you lose weight pp? I know that dd has a long road ahead but she is on that road. No maybe I didn't always help her make the best food choices. Yes I'm obese as well but not as a result of sitting on my ass eating crap. I'm fat because I can only walk for abt 20 mins a day as a result of a birth defect. It is one thing to tell my dd that she is fat
if she is not doing anything abt it, but she is
So yes I do care about the fact that drs are always saying "oh yeah so I know you lost weight. But you're still fat and you aren't doing anything abt it.... Oh bye the way you know you are fat right? And you have a lot of health risks"

Anonymous wrote:See, moving the thread has just opened OP up to attacks from new people. I feel like she was cast out of the SN section and I'm sorry that happened. I think childhood obesity (plus a hormonal disorder plus a head injury) is a special need.

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please save your tears, OP just posted this in the SN page

"also. as the OP, this pic is almost exactly what my DD looks like

http://www.mybodygallery.com/photos-10109-body-shape.htm#img

of course that isnt my DD but that girl with darker skin, longer hair (dd's hair is bra strap length) and no arm tats is a spitting image of DD. i can even see my daughter wearing that headband "

That's fat.

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Anonymous wrote:See, moving the thread has just opened OP up to attacks from new people. I feel like she was cast out of the SN section and I'm sorry that happened. I think childhood obesity (plus a hormonal disorder plus a head injury) is a special need.

So what distinguishes a special need from a health /medical issue? Should everyone with a health related question about their child be posting in SN? In OPs case she was actually upset that they noticed the obesity - so this was something she wanted ignored not addressed as her reason for the medical visit was the temporary head injury.

Now I am confused. In the past questions related to health/medicine have gone either in health and medicine or in general parenting - you are saying they should all be in special needs?

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Anonymous wrote:See, moving the thread has just opened OP up to attacks from new people. I feel like she was cast out of the SN section and I'm sorry that happened. I think childhood obesity (plus a hormonal disorder plus a head injury) is a special need.

So what distinguishes a special need from a health /medical issue? Should everyone with a health related question about their child be posting in SN? In OPs case she was actually upset that they noticed the obesity - so this was something she wanted ignored not addressed as her reason for the medical visit was the temporary head injury.

Now I am confused. In the past questions related to health/medicine have gone either in health and medicine or in general parenting - you are saying they should all be in special needs?

Acute health problems don't belong on the SN section, but chronic health problems absolutely do. It is not uncommon for parents of children with chronic health problems to post there. A hormonal imbalance and obesity are chronic health problems.

I have never been angry before at the monitoring on this site. My general feeling is that it should be monitored more. But this continues to make me angry. OP was kicked out of the SN section because of fat shaming, pure and simple. If her DD had been struggling with being underweight, she would not have been kicked out. I know because parents have posted about that concern before. Neither would she be attacked over and over again because of her DD's weight. As you can see, the attacks continue. Kicking OP out of the SN section just sends the message that (1) fat is different and somehow negates her DD's other chronic health problem. (2) Fat shaming is OK. Never mind that her DD's weight is largely the result of a chronic disorder and that her DD has made heroic inroads into correcting the problem.

In our culture we love to attack fat people. So all these normal weight people come on and say "look at me, I can keep my weight under control. You are BAD you fat mother and daughter." never mind that OP's DD has lost weight and is continuing to lose weight, that her weight gain is the result of a medical condition, that OP is not in denial about her DD's weight but posted about it in her original post. never mind that her DD is a teenager for God's sake, and has to deal with the emotional fallout of it all (which is really what OP's post was about). Everyone has their knives out. You are the ones who should be ashamed.

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please save your tears, OP just posted this in the SN page

"also. as the OP, this pic is almost exactly what my DD looks like

http://www.mybodygallery.com/photos-10109-body-shape.htm#img

of course that isnt my DD but that girl with darker skin, longer hair (dd's hair is bra strap length) and no arm tats is a spitting image of DD. i can even see my daughter wearing that headband "

That's fat.

and so fucking what? we have established that OP's dd is fat/obese etc. did the op say "oh my DD only weighs 230 but shes skinny, I promise!!" NO! She was posting that because the other poster was acting like the one picture on that website that she saw, was how all 5'2" 230 lb ppl look. and it simply isnt.


my friend weighed 300 lbs and no one knew (i didnt know until she proved it by standing on the scale in front of me!) because she looked like she was a lot smaller. bigger than the above pic link, but def not 300 lbs. not everyone who weighs the same looks the same, even if they are the same height.

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP, that people are attacking you and that this thread took such a turn for the worse.

I absolutely, 100% am appalled by the way the doctors have treated your daughter and I think their actions and some of the criticisms here illuminate just how horribly obese/overweight people are treated. Nobody should be made to feel embarrassed or shameful by going to the doctor. Do people really think that shaming a poor 16 yo girl (or her mother) is going to help them out?

Especially when OP's daughter has LOST 35lbs in 4 months? Let's stop admonishing OP for what happened in the past and offer support for a better future.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP, that people are attacking you and that this thread took such a turn for the worse.

I absolutely, 100% am appalled by the way the doctors have treated your daughter and I think their actions and some of the criticisms here illuminate just how horribly obese/overweight people are treated. Nobody should be made to feel embarrassed or shameful by going to the doctor. Do people really think that shaming a poor 16 yo girl (or her mother) is going to help them out?

Especially when OP's daughter has LOST 35lbs in 4 months? Let's stop admonishing OP for what happened in the past and offer support for a better future.

I am not the nurse that responded directly above this but I am also a nurse and I too feel the same way about the vents as she does. I guess it is hard for me to see standard medical practice (referrals, clinical language on assessment and checking for fit with equipment) as appalling and treating someone horribly. I don't see their intent being to shame.

If a 16 yr old walked in for a head injury and she was 100 pounds underweight, there would also be a medical process. Referrals would be offered, clinical language specific to size would be written and equipment would be adjusted. Even if the mother said, oh there is no need,she has gained 10 pounds in the last 3 months, the fact that she weighed 55 pounds at 5'4 would still be concerning.

I am not sure how the doctor would know about the recent weight loss. Unless it was with a hospital based program then it wouldn't be known. They would be dealing with the patient as they present.

I know people are very very sensitive about obesity and the doctor could have been more careful to be sensitive to that sensitivity but the fat they weren't has nothing to do with fear or hatred of obesity. Doctors are busy and get to the point about most things.

Anonymous wrote:I understand the hormonal condition part---but honestly, 260? How did you not notice way sooner? Also, the food still has to go in to the kid to create the weight.

That said, most places are required to mention weight. They would do the same if your daughter was seriously underweight. Most obesity-defending people don't understand just how much that excess weight affects every system in their body.