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[Post New]03/07/2012 17:33
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Anonymous wrote:I find it very interesting that many AA women prioritize their hair over physical fitness. Is it really worth it to have straight hair if you can't exercise?


But many of those women have careers that find dreadlocks, cornrows, and natural hair unacceptable.


That is more reception that reality. I worked in a major new york law firm for 7 years with shoulder length braids and never had any issues. I interviewed with an got a job offer from Goldman Sachs with said braids. Natural black hair can be styled professionally.


I agree. While I can't think of an instance where a bush would scream anything other than Black Panther or hippie, dreads and braids look beautiful when styled in a bun. Like with all hair, styling is key.


Keep calling it a bush and disparaging the kind of hair you naturally have (assuming you're the PP who called natural hair a "bush" earlier).

Why don't you throw in some disparaging words for black skin for good measure?
[Post New]03/07/2012 17:34
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Anonymous wrote:Once, just to make conversation with a co-worker while waiting for the microwave at lunch, I asked a AA women my age early 20's what she was eating for lunch. She told me to never ask a black person what they are eating. What was that all about?


No clue. She sounds weird.
[Post New]03/07/2012 17:35
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Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:I find it very interesting that many AA women prioritize their hair over physical fitness. Is it really worth it to have straight hair if you can't exercise?


But many of those women have careers that find dreadlocks, cornrows, and natural hair unacceptable.


That is more reception that reality. I worked in a major new york law firm for 7 years with shoulder length braids and never had any issues. I interviewed with an got a job offer from Goldman Sachs with said braids. Natural black hair can be styled professionally.


You're using anecdotes to declare that it's more perception than reality.

Your experiences don't make the rule for what's generally true.


But this whole thread is really anecdotes. I am not the person you are quoting, but I don't think any of us can really speak for all black people.
[Post New]03/07/2012 17:38
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Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:I find it very interesting that many AA women prioritize their hair over physical fitness. Is it really worth it to have straight hair if you can't exercise?


But many of those women have careers that find dreadlocks, cornrows, and natural hair unacceptable.


That is more reception that reality. I worked in a major new york law firm for 7 years with shoulder length braids and never had any issues. I interviewed with an got a job offer from Goldman Sachs with said braids. Natural black hair can be styled professionally.


You're using anecdotes to declare that it's more perception than reality.

Your experiences don't make the rule for what's generally true.


But this whole thread is really anecdotes. I am not the person you are quoting, but I don't think any of us can really speak for all black people.


I know the entire thread is anecdotal, but the PP responded to another saying "that is more reception [I think she meant perception] than reality."

That goes beyond simply stating your opinion.
[Post New]03/07/2012 17:41
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Why does it seem like AA's are generally monolithic about what it is to be black?
[Post New]03/07/2012 17:49
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Anonymous wrote:Why do some AA's dress bundle their kids up so much on pretty mild days?
Why are some AA's so loud in the movie theaters?



"mild" is subjective. My 6 yo will go outside in short sleeves in 60 degree weather and claim that she is hot. My 2 yo will cry if I take he outside in the same weather w/o a coat. Maybe the kids are cold.
[Post New]03/07/2012 17:49
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Talk to me about shaving leg hair and underarm hair -- do AA women do/not do this? What do AA men think about that?
[Post New]03/07/2012 17:52
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Anonymous wrote:Talk to me about shaving leg hair and underarm hair -- do AA women do/not do this? What do AA men think about that?


I have yet to meet any man (including black men) who like excess body hair. Yes, I shave, and my DH loves it. I also go bare "down there" every once in a while just to give him a special treat.
[Post New]03/07/2012 17:53
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Anonymous wrote:Why does it seem like AA's are generally monolithic about what it is to be black?


Can you clarify what you mean by "more?" Do you mean by more than all other ethnic groups, or more than white people?

If you mean by more than white people, it's because whites are the dominant race in the US.

If you mean by more than all other races, I don't think that's true. Family members have been teased for "not being Hispanic enough." Asians are teased for not fitting in to what's stereotypically Asian and other minority ethnicities are teased for the same thing within their own culture. Sometimes, it's people of another culture teasing someone for not being "enough" of whatever they are (for example, a white person who teases a black person who speaks with standard English grammar or a non-Asian teasing an Asian who doesn't fit into the "all Asians are smart" stereotype).
[Post New]03/07/2012 18:02
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17:53 here- disregard me talking about "more" in my PP. Was reading quickly and somehow added a word that wasn't in 17:41's question.
[Post New]03/07/2012 18:08
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I'll just throw in my $.02 on the hair question-- I think natural is often much more classy than weaves/ wigs. And the same with white folks: I think you look much better with a hair color/ style that is at least potentially your own. The elaborate braids that incorporate strange colors look as tacky as a white woman with blond hair and black eyebrows and roots.

I know a VERY high-powered black woman who wears a short afro. Not a "bush" or anything "giant"... just an inch long all over, and she looks phenomenal and very, very professional.
[Post New]03/07/2012 19:02
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Anonymous
Gallery of famous people with natural hair:
http://photos.essence.com/galleries/hot_hair__celebs_with_natural_hair
[Post New]03/07/2012 19:41
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Anonymous wrote:Do black people always say hi (or another greeting, even a nod) to every black person they pass by? It seems like whenever I'm walking with an AA friend or colleague they do this.


OP here, pretty much yes. Don't be "that guy" who doesn't speak.


I'm Indian (and I would not be confused for black), and black people always say hi to me. It's kind of nice, like I'm part of the community. I say hi now to black people. I do to Indian people now too, but it's only 50/50 as to whether they will say hi back. Not sure why that is.
[Post New]03/07/2012 19:42
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Why do black people hate dogs so much?
[Post New]03/07/2012 19:46
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Anonymous wrote:Why do black people hate dogs so much?

OP here. Where did you hear that?
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