Child Had Dog Allergy & Husband Refuses To Give Dog Away
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The dog is 10. He's fairly active & healthy, but he's a horrible shedder. He sheds 12 months a year even though he is groomed every 6 weeks. We keep her kenneled most of the time because she sheds so much. Our DD is allergic, has skin issues, nasal drainage. I'm at the point I want to give the dog away myself to help my child, telling DH the dog ran away. Please walk me through this.
To me our child comes first, if it wasn't an issue of constant illness and my child being uncomfortable I wouldn't even think of removing our family pet, but I want a healthy child. DH refuses to even consider this option, he says the dog is a member of the family and was here first, how dumb is that. It's a dog, not a child with open sores from scratching eczema. Please walk me through this, what so I do? |
Anonymous
| Can you keep the dog confined to one area of the house where DD doesn't have to go? |
Anonymous
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Is your child really allergic to the dog? Many times it turns out they are allergic to something else.
I am pretty seriously allergic to cats; however, when I go to someone's home with wood floors as opposed to carpet I fair much better and can tolerate their house much longer. |
Anonymous
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OK, OP. Here's a little story....
DH and I got a dog, the type HE wanted when we got married. He loved this dog, but spent little time. All responsibilities ended up being mine. I get pregnant with first, dog is a problem, shedding, out of control, constant medical, grooming appointments I couldn't handle it. We ended up crating her all the time as I was stressed out by her and constant shedding (mouthful of hair in DD mouth, despite daily vacuuming) I begged and pleaded with my DH to give her to a better home where she is not crated all the time, they have more time to take better care of her. He refused despite it seriously affecting our relationship. I would get so frustrated with this dog, shedding being out of control and DH helped NONE. Imagine daily fights over it. But DH would insist the dog is everything to him. What BS. One day I put her on Craigslist. I eliminated a ton of emails and found this amazing couple who have a sfh, many acres. I visited her and interviewed her and they adopted the dog. She is now blessed with a great home and couple that adores her. After 5 years we still send emails and I get updates on her. Why I wrote is because I know how you feel. It is so frustrating that my husband fought for our dog as if it were more important to him than a peaceful home and relationship, in your case a health issue. Particularly because all he did was pat the dog on the head at night when he got home. Find a great home for your dog and good-bye. |
Anonymous
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How old is DD?
Also, what did your allergist say to do? |
Anonymous
| I agree with the PP who found the dog a new home. Dogs can be rehomed, children can't. And while husbands can, too, in a best case scenario it won't come to that. |
Anonymous
This reminds me of the Brady Bunch episode where it turns out Jan isn't allergic to Tiger, but to his flea powder! 
Would your Dh consider letting a family member or close friend/neighbor adopting the dog, so he could still visit? |
Anonymous
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Drag DH to the allergist and let allergist explain the options.
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Anonymous
DD is 3, a skin allergy test in the office showed her to be allergic to dog. More so than anything else so I do believe she is really allergic. |
Anonymous
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I'd get rid of DH.
I would never stand by a man who prefers the dog. |
Anonymous
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This is crazy ridiculous. Both the dog and the child are apparently suffering -- the dog from being kenneled and the child from OPEN SORES?
There is something wrong with your DH. I would say your choices are (a) put the dog up for adoption or (b) put DH out of the house. OP, this is your child. If your DH can't or won't put the child first, you need to do so. Just reading about this makes me angry. |
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agree Rehome your husband and his dog to an allergy-free household. |
Anonymous
| not to mention that OP fostered the whole problem from the beginning not making DH responsible for taking care of the dog and its messes. |
Anonymous
Huh? |
Anonymous
DH got the dog but never took care of it. Now OP is complaining about it when it's her fault. She let him get away with this behavior. it's just natural to get worse with time. |