Anonymous wrote:I agree with PP, no non-special education school is going to take your son with these current challenges. Nor do you want to set the school or child up for failure like this. I disagree with PP that a parochial school may be appropriate here in light of the fact that a one on one aid isn't helping.

This leaves you with public and special ed schools. Typically, public schools are best for special education. It has only been three months and it's kindergarten. I highly encourage you to engage with your son's current school. The wheels of special education move slowly and the teacher is responsible for 20+ students plus your child.

I am curious about how preschool worked for your child and his diagnosis.

Signed former teacher and special needs mom

Anonymous wrote:Baltimore Lab school could be a good fit in terms of dealing with his challenges. What is currently in his IEP? If there are documented incidents of him kicking staff and eloping, no matter how great a kid he is when he’s better regulated, no mainstream private school is going to touch that unfortunately. That’s just facts. You might have luck with a parochial school that needs more students , but they aren’t going to provide OT or outdoor/ hands on learning

theflash1985 wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Baltimore Lab school could be a good fit in terms of dealing with his challenges. What is currently in his IEP? If there are documented incidents of him kicking staff and eloping, no matter how great a kid he is when he’s better regulated, no mainstream private school is going to touch that unfortunately. That’s just facts. You might have luck with a parochial school that needs more students , but they aren’t going to provide OT or outdoor/ hands on learning

So McLean, Diener and other ADHD schools only want perfect little "emotionally mature" 5 year olds? That is so not fair. My son will be denied from all private and have to suffer from incompetent public school IEP teams.

They kept him in the principal’s office for six hours last week instead of helping him. (My advocate is coming to IEP meeting this coming Friday to discuss this disgusting event) The behaviors come from that lack of support, not who he is. I just want him somewhere that actually implements accommodations instead of punishing him for needing them.

Anonymous wrote:I agree with PP, no non-special education school is going to take your son with these current challenges. Nor do you want to set the school or child up for failure like this. I disagree with PP that a parochial school may be appropriate here in light of the fact that a one on one aid isn't helping.

This leaves you with public and special ed schools. Typically, public schools are best for special education. It has only been three months and it's kindergarten. I highly encourage you to engage with your son's current school. The wheels of special education move slowly and the teacher is responsible for 20+ students plus your child.

I am curious about how preschool worked for your child and his diagnosis.

Signed former teacher and special needs mom

theflash1985 wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with PP, no non-special education school is going to take your son with these current challenges. Nor do you want to set the school or child up for failure like this. I disagree with PP that a parochial school may be appropriate here in light of the fact that a one on one aid isn't helping.

This leaves you with public and special ed schools. Typically, public schools are best for special education. It has only been three months and it's kindergarten. I highly encourage you to engage with your son's current school. The wheels of special education move slowly and the teacher is responsible for 20+ students plus your child.

I am curious about how preschool worked for your child and his diagnosis.

Signed former teacher and special needs mom

Thanks for your quick reply. But Why do people always assume parents aren't engaged with the school?

I've talked to the evil Case Manager everyday since school started. probably over 100 emails and ClassDojo messages. My wife and I have had already 3 IEP meetings since school started, they refuse to do his services, refuse to talk to our advocate, denied all our parent requests at all IEP meetings, prinicpal has ignored all our emails, refused to modify incorrect PWN, denied him FAPE multiple times, grabbed his wrist and he says it hurts during elopement, and in retaliation of us asking too many questions and requesting data added unauthorized IEP amendment change saying he can only use his fidget toys to 5 minutes. Public school ain't it.

Anonymous wrote:

theflash1985 wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Baltimore Lab school could be a good fit in terms of dealing with his challenges. What is currently in his IEP? If there are documented incidents of him kicking staff and eloping, no matter how great a kid he is when he’s better regulated, no mainstream private school is going to touch that unfortunately. That’s just facts. You might have luck with a parochial school that needs more students , but they aren’t going to provide OT or outdoor/ hands on learning

So McLean, Diener and other ADHD schools only want perfect little "emotionally mature" 5 year olds? That is so not fair. My son will be denied from all private and have to suffer from incompetent public school IEP teams.

They kept him in the principal’s office for six hours last week instead of helping him. (My advocate is coming to IEP meeting this coming Friday to discuss this disgusting event) The behaviors come from that lack of support, not who he is. I just want him somewhere that actually implements accommodations instead of punishing him for needing them.

I said mainstream privates , not privates that focus specifically on ADHd kids. I’m not familiar with those schools because I’m in Baltimore. And declining to admit a child who has documented episodes of physically assaulting staff- which is unfortunately what kicking the staff is- is not unreasonable and does not mean a school “only wants perfect emotionally mature 5 year olds”. You’d do your son a favor to drop the argumentative tone with people who are trying to be friendly and help you.

Anonymous wrote:I think you’re going to have a hard road finding a school. You should probably talk to your advocate about options.

I also think you’re going to have to get better at working with the school, wherever your child ends up. This is your child’s first year at the school. They barely know him and how he acts at home probably is quite different than what they see in the school environment. Similarly, what works at home isn’t likely to work at school. They need time to figure out what works. You’ve had years to figure him out and you only have one or a few kids.