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| How old was your baby when you first left him or her? How long did you leave for? Also what was the longest you've ever left? I'm leaving my 9 month old for a week so my husband and I can celebrate our anniversary and I feel like the worst mother ever. |
Anonymous
| Leaving my daughter for a week (12 months) for the first time with my husband (it's usually one or the other leaving) and I'm totally freaking out and he's completely not. All I keep thinking is that it's really important for the parents to not be parents for just a little while, and be with each other only. I know you can't just turn off being parents, and I'll be thinking of her constantly, but I think it's also beneficial to have time to yourself. No help here I know, but I know how you feel. |
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| wow my little girl's almost two and just a couple of weeks ago we left her overnight for the first time to celebrate our anniversary. |
Anonymous
| hey there, i left my ds when he was 7 months for 5 nights for a wonderful and romantic reconnecting vacation with my husband. yes, i did miss my child, but i do not regret it for a minute. i made the decision on the way to the airport not to worry about missing my son too much and i focused on my husband. i left my son with my parents whom i trusted. one of the greatest gifts you could give your child is a strong, loving marriage with your spouse. i hope you truly enjoy your vacation. and just on a side note, i think my dogs missed me more than my baby (who when i got back briefly looked up, smiled, and then went back to playing)! |
Anonymous
| First time was just shy of 4 months for 4.5 days. Husband and I left him with my mom so we could go to a music festival. second time a month later so we could go to a wedding. don't feel bad at all. as long as your child is with a responsible and loving adult, he'll do great and might even enjoy the time getting to know a new person. plus, you and your husband will have a great time...imagine how nice it will be to sleep in and eat after 7! |
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I say go and have fun. I have a 7 month old and don't plan to leave him overnight until after I'm done breastfeeding - mainly because I'd really hate pumping that much! But every other year or so I have to be on the road for a 4 week stretch. The first time I go he'll be 21 months. Not going to be fun, but my DH's job lets him be home a lot plus we'll always have a grandma here with him.
Anyway, have a fun time on your trip - your child will be fine without you (assuming you're leaving him with a trusted, loving adult!). |
Anonymous
| Wow you must really think I'm the worst mother ever. I left my DS at 3 months but he was with my DH. DH and I left him at 5 months for a long weekend away--best thing EVER. We try to do it every few months since then. We've got my mom to watch him and she is totally familiar with his routines and loves to do it, so I have no worries. We miss DS but we always come back recharged and happy, which is great for us and great for him. |
Anonymous
| Not OP, 19:53 actually. I love this! I didn't ask the question but I love the answers! And yup, we are fantasizing about sleeping in and having late dinners. And I'm actually surprising him with a vow renewal ceremony. Should be fun! |
Anonymous
| Mine were 4yo and 2yo when we left for a weekend. |
Anonymous
We left DS for 5 nights when he was 9 months old. It was fun for all - DS didn't even seem to notice we were gone, we had a great time, and it was good for the grandparents, too (though they were exhausted  ). It was hard saying bye when we left, and I was so excited to go back home, but I certainly didn't feel bad for recognizing that DH and I are still us, not just parents. Have a good time!
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I think #1 was 4 months old when we went to an out of town wedding for the weekend? I remember pumping in the car and having a blast. I also remember my first business trip (2 nights) to Alberta, Canada...he was probably about 7 months I think? Lugging the breast pump on the plane, getting it through TSA...luckily both my kids could care less who's playing with them, as long as they get attention...whether it is me, DH, a friend, a grandparent...
Had we lived closer to family we would have gotten away sooner, but hey We got out whenever we could and never felt bad - DH and I need time to reconnect and recharge. I'm jealous of your vaca! Don't feel bad at all, and have a blast!
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Anonymous
| DC # is 22 months, DC #2 is 4 months-I have never left them overnight but that's primarily because my mom has a difficult time watching both of them at the same time. Boy, would I love a break. |
Anonymous
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DH was away from my DS when he was 2 months old for one week -- while I was visiting the in laws and staying with them out of state. Then, DS spent multiple over nights away from DS between 3-4 months for work. But they were only over nights.
When DS was 6 months old, I was away for one week for work. DS was with DH. At 7 months, we went away for one night and left DS with the grandparents to celebrate DH's birthday (it was a BIG birthday). We were gone for less than 24 hours. Now, at 14 months, DS is spending four nights at his grandparents' in the country. Aside from our overnight, this is the longest DS has been away from BOTH of us and it is hard. We are loving the break, but we miss him terribly. He seems to be doing fine, however, so rest assured, your DC will be okay. |
Anonymous
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DH and I did an overnight for a wedding when DD was 4 months. I had a business trip for 7 days at 6 months. DH went away together for a 4-day wedding trip when DD was 10 months. And I breastfed exclusively for a year, so I pumped all the times I was gone.
It CAN be done! DD is now a well-adjusted 2.5 y.o. who has no problems when we leave her with her grandparents or I go on a business trip. |
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With #1 our first overnight away was at 10.5 months for our anniversary, and I only waited that long because she was a HORRIBLE sleeper and it needed to be a pretty special occasion for me to ask someone else, even my Mom, to deal with that. Can't remember exactly, but think the next time I left was 4 days for work at 20 months and 6 days with DH at 21 months. (DH on the other hand has had lots of business travel in there and has spent a lot of time away.)
With #2 (now 3 months) I am sure I will leave her much sooner just depending on when it works out. |