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What does your nursing toddler call your boobs?
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Anonymous
A 4 year old isn't a toddler first off. You can try to justify this parents actions any way you want to but the bottom line is that she lived 5 minutes away and she could have waited until then and if she just couldn't wait, then she could have used an empty room. |
Anonymous
| I don't know why people are being so mean to the daycare worker. It sounds like she was in a difficult situation where she was trying to accomodate the parents who did not want the woman to nurse there and the woman who wanted to nurse there. I imagine that in general, working at a daycare is a difficult job for low pay. |
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I think i do understand you. i understand you were in a difficult position however in your posts you have come across as extremely judgmental of this mother. And in my view, you expecting her to nurse privately is part of the problem. If your daycare has a policy that people aren't allowed in a high traffic area, then fine. But what if another mother sat down for five minutes to comfort her child or greet her child in that area? If you wouldn't tell that mother to move, then you shouldn't be telling the nursing mother to move either. If no one is allowed in that area, then fine, ask everyone to leave or have a policy that says no one can be in that area.
I think it's kind of ironic that you told her she might be more comfortable somewhere else when in fact you were the one who was uncomfortable. i imagine that having nursed for four years she was well aware of the different places she could nurse and decided for whatever reason to sit where she sat. if someone told me while i was nursing that they thought i'd be more comfortable somewhere else, i'd be very annoyed and insulted and would stay put, because it's clear from a comment like that that you're just pretending to be looking out for her "comfort" and that you're not being straightforward about your motivations. So I can understand why she wouldn't want to comply.
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Anonymous
| Sorry, but if I saw a four year old with a bottle in their mouth, I would also think, yikes, what is going on with that kid? It isn't just an issue of people not liking nursing, or being grossed out by boobs or whatever. There are certain societal expectations about how children will consume their food and drink at certain ages. If you don't like those expectations, feel free not to comply. However, people are going to notice that you are doing something different from the societal norm, and have opinions about it. |
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There are few things less attractive than a person eating. People who do so in public should be charged with indecent exposure. At the very least, they should apologize to all the other folk in the vicinity. If
they can't cover their naked mouths then they should stay at home! I don't see why people can't either eat before leaving the house, or just take an IV with them. It is a simple matter to carry the necessary equipment and liquid nutrients in a small cooler. For goodness sakes, companies give away the coolers for free! And did you know that the growing trend is to wear a permanent hep-lock in your arm? Who wants to see people put food in their facial orifice in public? Come on, we all know what mouths are for, and THAT is most appropriately done in private! If people insist on eating in public, the least they can do is to use a head cover. There are so many attractive covers now available that you can even match one to your outfit as a fashion statement. It is easy to make your own from a yard of knit fabric, and you don't even need to hem it. As for this law I keep hearing about, prohibiting the harassment of those who feed in public, well, that is just ridiculous! We need to return to the good old days when public decency was more common. --Norma Ritter, IBCLC, RLC Breastfeeding Matters in the Capital Region Posted today on http://www.blacktating.com/2010/09/quote-of-day-anti-nursing-in-public.html |
Anonymous
| At one point I thought I had an opinion on this issue, but the endless discussion of it has sapped every ounce of caring that I ever had about the topic from me. |
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since we speak spanish my daughter calls it "leche" and the regular milk from a cow, "milk"...pretty funny
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it's easy to go off here like a lunatic.....I'm sure if you saw me in public I dare you say it to my face.....it's not my fault that your mind is dirty.... |
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america is made up of 2 kinds of people,
1 . the ones who think they know everything and want to tell others how to live and 2. the ones who think they know what is best for them and trust others to chose their best way too. to have such string feelings about this issue is just plain abnormal. Get a life and go create your own path.... |
Anonymous
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"Not wanting to witness toddler nursing is not a need. "
No, it's a choice to avoid being a witness to something pretty gross (the 4 year old part). |
Anonymous
It's been 10 days since the last post on this subject. How much time do you have on your hands that your reading back 10 days worth of postings on General Parenting? Get a life. |
Anonymous
| I have to throw in my two cents, here. Before we had DC's.....about 17 years ago, my DH and I went to a relatively nice restaurant with one of his colleagues and his wife and two kids. The youngest kid was 3 or 4 yrs old. As soon as they kids were finished eating they proceeded to jump out of their seats and run around the restaurant. I was a wreck worrying about one of the wait staff tripping over them and dropping something hot or heavy on them. The parents did nothing to stop this behavior. Then after about 15 min. the 3 or 4 yr old runs over to his mother, lifts up her shirt, digs her boob out of her bra and starts to suck. He's sucking, talking and looking around all the while. Then he would run off for a spin around the restaurant and come back for more. I was pretty mortified by all this. But wait, there is more! After awhile, when the son would run over to mom to suckle, she would start picking through his hair looking for lice! I was grossed out and swore that if I ever had kids I would never be like that......I have other faults but not those. Ick! |
Anonymous
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^ What the hell is the point of your story?
You're absolutely right. All moms who continue to nurse their preschoolers are rude and thoughtless disgusting boobs. Brava for your illustrative post. |
Anonymous
| ^. agreed. i guess it's nice to ridicule and judge other mothers at 12:04 am before going to bed for the night. i'm more "mortified" by people like you than by someone who would nurse their kids in public or let them run around a restaurant. i guess you assumed everyone reading your story would sympathize with you, however none of the things you mention would have bothered me, and your judgmental tone is obnoxious. |
Anonymous
The lice thing would have grossed me out, and the running around sounds annoying, but I am not sure what any of that has to do with nursing. |