Anonymous wrote:Daycare needs to be handling this issue much better than they are. They shouldn’t be disclosing any information about the kid, for starters. Moreover, they need to be the ones to keep the two of them apart. Ask the director and teachers what the plan is for keeping the kids separate.

Four year olds are not developmentally capable of being bullies, not in the true sense of the words. Some young kids are more aggressive than others and need to learn not to do that - but very few four year olds have outstanding emotion regulation. They’re four.

Anonymous wrote:First, as a mom of 4 girls, you will always have problems with the #boymoms in the class. They’ll laugh and say “ohh boys are so rough and tumble.” No, they are allowing their sons to learn how to take advantage of girls. Lack of consent starts NOW with boys. You cannot trust the daycare here.

Document with pictures the injuries and have your attorney write a letter to the other family and daycare. Put them on notice. If the child isn’t removed from the daycare, keeps putting legal pressure on them.

Thank god for all girls schools.

Anonymous wrote:If it's the same child then he is a bully. No child should be allowed to choose a child to pick on every day and it sounds as though this kid what the other child has done. I would question why the teacher is putting the blame if the child that is being hurt.

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Anonymous wrote:If it's the same child then he is a bully. No child should be allowed to choose a child to pick on every day and it sounds as though this kid what the other child has done. I would question why the teacher is putting the blame if the child that is being hurt.

Oh my lord. The 4 year old is not a bully. For heaven’s sake.

Anonymous wrote:Ask the administration / teachers to encourage the children to play separately if they come into contact with one another. Say that you are concerned that things seem to be escalating and that you're worried that she could come home with even bigger injuries.

Have compassion for the other child. It's possible that the child is autistic (even if the parents or teachers don't know it) and that it's difficult for the kid to deal with big emotions.

We were in a similar situation and it's tough. Kids who can't control their emotions don't totally respond to the logical talking to that parents / teachers give them. Administrators won't kick a child out (unless it's just ridiculously bad). We ended up pulling our kid out with a month left in the year to go to another school. We just ate the cost and moved on.

Anonymous wrote:She may be exploring what it is like to poke the bear. See how far she can push his buttons before he snaps. They are finger pointing at her, but they know that repeat incident reports especially back to back fall on them. They need to step up the supervision and step in earlier.

Anonymous wrote:We have received incident reports 3 days in a roll from daycare related to my DD4 having conflict with a 4 year old boy in class. Day 1, one side of her face was red because he slapped her on the face. Day 2, her arm was scratched and she has a bumpy red patch that we have to apply anti-bacterial ointment to control itchy. Day 3 today, she gets pulled on long hair, and she fell on the floor with a bruise on leg. It is the same boy, and I saw my DD crying 3 days in a roll when I pick her up.

I know they are little kids. But, what could I do to avoid my DD getting hurt by that same boy. Teacher tells me that my DD either did not take her turn, or got in fight or conflict over toy with thay boy. And, she told DD should not take other kid's turn, play with other kids something like that. I try not to be a snowflake mom, but how come I feel like teaching hinting me that it was my DD fault for all incidents. The other boy is not hurt, scratched by my DD in all 3 incidents. And, my DD is the only one getting hurt and crying.

I tell DD do not play with that boy. One mom tells me to report to administration because that boy hurt her son before in the class. What would you do in my shoes?