Incident report with same kid for 3 days

[Anonymous]

Usually is both the bullies.

Teacher is telling you your daughter doesn't want to take turns.

Teach your child to be patient and share. Teach your child she can't have everything whenever she wants

[Anonymous]

Usually girls are biters and mean. Spoiled princesses

[Anonymous]

Before taking any other steps, I suggest going in to observe and get a sense of what's going on. Is your child instigating it (as the teacher suggested)? If your child often takes toys out of this boy's hands or cuts him in line and he reacts aggressively, then both children have things to work on. And none if this is necessarily outside the norm of preschool children learning to share and interact appropriately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The post is a year old. Hopefully everyone has moved on.

Its barely a month old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have received incident reports 3 days in a roll from daycare related to my DD4 having conflict with a 4 year old boy in class. Day 1, one side of her face was red because he slapped her on the face. Day 2, her arm was scratched and she has a bumpy red patch that we have to apply anti-bacterial ointment to control itchy. Day 3 today, she gets pulled on long hair, and she fell on the floor with a bruise on leg. It is the same boy, and I saw my DD crying 3 days in a roll when I pick her up.

I know they are little kids. But, what could I do to avoid my DD getting hurt by that same boy. Teacher tells me that my DD either did not take her turn, or got in fight or conflict over toy with thay boy. And, she told DD should not take other kid's turn, play with other kids something like that. I try not to be a snowflake mom, but how come I feel like teaching hinting me that it was my DD fault for all incidents. The other boy is not hurt, scratched by my DD in all 3 incidents. And, my DD is the only one getting hurt and crying.

I tell DD do not play with that boy. One mom tells me to report to administration because that boy hurt her son before in the class. What would you do in my shoes?

Take a broader view of your life and ask yourself if paying for your daughter to get beat up every day is really something you are forced to do.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry that's happening.

Unfortunately it sounds like the center is poorly managed.

On the 2nd time, the director should have informed you. There should have been a plan in place to prevent further issues.

Ask if you can meet with the director and the teacher maybe like 30mins before or after her time there. They should be the ones instigating this but alas...

What was happening in all those incidents? What was the pattern? Was it always a certain time of day (like during free play or after lunch). How can we redirect the children to engage them separately for the time being (so that everyone stays safe). How can the teachers nurture the class to overcome issues (reading books on sharing/ managing emotions / friends, teachers repeating these themes).

Hope it helps!

-- preschool teacher

[Anonymous]

These responses are horrible.

It’s absolutely true that some kids struggle with regulation and will lash out. So maybe your kid took his toy away; a retaliatory swat or shove happens. I wouldn’t worry about something like that. But you’re talking about a completely different magnitude of injury. It would make me concerned that the room is badly managed and that your child isn’t safe. She doesn’t deserve to be attacked even if she did take a toy. I’m also concerned that they aren’t trying to address this issue with you proactively. What you’re describing really does seem like beyond what is acceptable.

[Anonymous]

How do u know its the same kid op?

The incident reports shoukd not be naming names.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do u know its the same kid op?

The incident reports shoukd not be naming names.

Her daughter probably said "Larlo bit me today"

[Anonymous]

OP, boys are always (always) more work than girls in PS. That said, the boy should know how to express himself without violence! Email the admin dates, times, and parties involved ASAP.

You will also need to be on top of things until 12th grade, no exaggeration, because there is always (always) one in every class who never learned how to deal with their emotions. I am not saying that you need to expect trouble, but if you suspect anything, follow up, because the troublemaker parents of troublemaker kids know the system and use it to their advantage.

[Anonymous]

Nah, girls can be nasty as hell

This girl was super spoiled and was the biter of the class

[Anonymous]

Your girl sounds like a bully OP

Dicipline her