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Thanks for your unsolicited opinion. I wasn't asking for sympathy or an opinion. I was asking for a referral.
My husband and I live in Olney, and we use the practice of Drs. Miller and Lee. Elaine Lee is Matthew's primary pediatrician, and since we began with her, she's given us no trouble or pushback re. unbundling his vaccines (which we are strong proponents of doing, and we don't back down on that). She's never questioned us, has always agreed, reminding us that we simply have to come in for more appts (which we're fine with; this is not about convenience, it's about safety).
Well, today, Jeff brought Matthew in for his 15-month visit, and lo and behold, we had Dr. Miller, who is basically an old grump who gave Jeff a VERY hard time about this. Jeff finally got him to break up the vaccine, but in the process, Dr. Miller made Jeff feel like a bad parent for wanting to protect his son from too many shots at one time. I'm glad I wasn't there. My Irish temper would have been unleashed for sure!
So, I am in the process of writing a letter to the practice, explaining to them that they need to get on the same page about this, as it's very confusing for parents, and we don't know what to expect from one visit to the other (in this case, Jeff expected no pushback and was quite taken aback when he got it). They need to be consistent, for everyone's sake. I do plan on using only Dr. Lee anymore (at least, until we change practices, which we are likely going to do b/c of this debacle).
Long and short of it is, I am considering leaving this practice and would like some referrals to doctors in Montgomery County who DO willingly (with no questions asked) unbundle the shots. I remember hearing the name of a female doc in Kensington (name, anyone?) but can't seem to find it in my old emails or in my bogged-down brain! It's not like I'm resisting the shots altogether; I simply want us to take a careful, cautious approach. Is this too much to ask of a doctor? I don't think so. I do think it's generational. Dr. Lee seems to be in her mid-forties, whereas Dr. Miller is the founder of the practice and (I would guess; never met him) in his sixties or maybe even seventies. Speaks volumes, probably. He comes from a time when a doctor's advice was the letter of the law and never questioned. We all know better now. We must be our own advocates, and the younger doctors know this. The older ones, not so much.
Thanks for any guidance you can provide. Sorry to have dragged you into my rant. I just needed to vent, and I feel better now.
Well, today, Jeff brought Matthew in for his 15-month visit, and lo and behold, we had Dr. Miller, who is basically an old grump who gave Jeff a VERY hard time about this. Jeff finally got him to break up the vaccine, but in the process, Dr. Miller made Jeff feel like a bad parent for wanting to protect his son from too many shots at one time. I'm glad I wasn't there. My Irish temper would have been unleashed for sure!
So, I am in the process of writing a letter to the practice, explaining to them that they need to get on the same page about this, as it's very confusing for parents, and we don't know what to expect from one visit to the other (in this case, Jeff expected no pushback and was quite taken aback when he got it). They need to be consistent, for everyone's sake. I do plan on using only Dr. Lee anymore (at least, until we change practices, which we are likely going to do b/c of this debacle).
Long and short of it is, I am considering leaving this practice and would like some referrals to doctors in Montgomery County who DO willingly (with no questions asked) unbundle the shots. I remember hearing the name of a female doc in Kensington (name, anyone?) but can't seem to find it in my old emails or in my bogged-down brain! It's not like I'm resisting the shots altogether; I simply want us to take a careful, cautious approach. Is this too much to ask of a doctor? I don't think so. I do think it's generational. Dr. Lee seems to be in her mid-forties, whereas Dr. Miller is the founder of the practice and (I would guess; never met him) in his sixties or maybe even seventies. Speaks volumes, probably. He comes from a time when a doctor's advice was the letter of the law and never questioned. We all know better now. We must be our own advocates, and the younger doctors know this. The older ones, not so much.
Thanks for any guidance you can provide. Sorry to have dragged you into my rant. I just needed to vent, and I feel better now.
I'm 40, and my husband is 42. We're in the process of adopting from Korea. We've been waiting for about a year now (our paperwork was in Korea in June 2008), and we expect a referral sometime this fall and then we will be united as a family 4-5 mos later.
Our caseworker did tell us that we need to get cracking right after we adopt our first, if we want to adopt from Korea again, b/c their cutoff age for the father is 44 (your paperwork must be in country before he turns 44--as long as that happens, you're good; my husband will turn 43 this fall). I'm pretty sure you won't be able to adopt from China (but look into their requirements). Russia. I think, allows your ages. Possibly Guatemala, although they are still closed right now. What about Ethiopia? That's a popular country these days and one that we are considering. In terms of "can you handle it" with your ages, yes, you can! Don't let your age stop you from adopting if you think it's the right thing to do for you and your family! I love being 40 and feel younger than ever (although I wish my metabolism would reflect that!).
FYI: We are with Catholic Charities of Baltimore, and our international agency is Holt Korea:
http://www.holtinternational.org/korea/choose.shtml
Our caseworker did tell us that we need to get cracking right after we adopt our first, if we want to adopt from Korea again, b/c their cutoff age for the father is 44 (your paperwork must be in country before he turns 44--as long as that happens, you're good; my husband will turn 43 this fall). I'm pretty sure you won't be able to adopt from China (but look into their requirements). Russia. I think, allows your ages. Possibly Guatemala, although they are still closed right now. What about Ethiopia? That's a popular country these days and one that we are considering. In terms of "can you handle it" with your ages, yes, you can! Don't let your age stop you from adopting if you think it's the right thing to do for you and your family! I love being 40 and feel younger than ever (although I wish my metabolism would reflect that!).
FYI: We are with Catholic Charities of Baltimore, and our international agency is Holt Korea:
http://www.holtinternational.org/korea/choose.shtml