Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm so sorry you had to deal with this jerk. And he IS a jerk. He may seem to be confident but no one who has a lot of self worth and/or confidence feels the need to intentionally hurt another person.

Please be kind to yourself.

thank you so much <3

Anonymous wrote:Focus on the friends you have. Enjoy your time with them.

He is not confident. Confident people don't make comments like he did.

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Anonymous wrote:I am sorry he was such a jerk. People are randomly cruel sometimes and I hope it doesn’t happen to you often.
You have a full right to look and dress anyway you choose! If you want to change something - do, if you don’t - that’s totally fine too! Nobody knows what everyone else is going through.

thAnk you so much <3

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Anonymous wrote:Insulting a woman’s appearance is the easiest and laziest insult. It is what weak men/boys do when they’ve got nothing else they can think of. Kind of like when a girl makes a small penis joke. It says nothing about you and everything about him. Not only is he awful and insecure. He is also not creative or very smart. He wanted to feel big by making you feel small. Don’t give him that. Don’t let him or his words live in your head. Your value isn’t even in your appearance. Your value is who you are, what you do and how you treat people. You are worthy. Look for ways to be kind to others this weekend. Do something nice for someone - that will make you feel better and it will also make the person you help feel better. I’m sorry this happened and I know it hurts. I’m 51 and I still remember the names I was called in high school. Be better than him. ❤️

+1 to this. I came here to say that him saying this to you reflects volumes about him and nothing about you.

You are not a waste of space. You are loved and you are important. Don't let the ba$tard$ get you down.

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Anonymous wrote:You are NOT a waste of space.

I am sorry this happened. People are a-holes. First, do something kind for yourself - take a beautiful hike, a bubble bath, schedule time with someone who makes you happy, a dance party in your room with a hairbrush microphone.

And NOT because he said this, but because you mention struggling with self esteem, and that you aren't in good shape - is there something YOU would like to improve for yourself? Would YOU like to dress differently, feel healthier, play a sport etc? If so, how can you get that done? Do you have family support to help you join a team or class, a personal shopper for some new clothes, a nutritionist or trainer? Think about what you want to change and what some steps are that you can take. Baby steps, small changes. Maybe even before that, some therapy to help you figure that out, or figure out what's holding you back.

I wish you luck. He's the problem for acting that way, not you.

thank you so much <3

Anonymous wrote:Insulting a woman’s appearance is the easiest and laziest insult. It is what weak men/boys do when they’ve got nothing else they can think of. Kind of like when a girl makes a small penis joke. It says nothing about you and everything about him. Not only is he awful and insecure. He is also not creative or very smart. He wanted to feel big by making you feel small. Don’t give him that. Don’t let him or his words live in your head. Your value isn’t even in your appearance. Your value is who you are, what you do and how you treat people. You are worthy. Look for ways to be kind to others this weekend. Do something nice for someone - that will make you feel better and it will also make the person you help feel better. I’m sorry this happened and I know it hurts. I’m 51 and I still remember the names I was called in high school. Be better than him. ❤️

thank you so much <3

Anonymous wrote:Hugs to you. Know that high school is not life, and some high schoolers are the absolute worst. You may not find your people in this high school, but they’re out there in college or the real world.

Meanwhile, treat yourself well, because you deserve it. I’m sure you’re not ugly, but can you get yourself a new outfit, or haircut, or a pedicure that only you know about? More in the spirit of valuing yourself than trying to measure up to childish high school standards. Therapy might help, if you can talk to your parents about this.

Thank you so much <3

Anonymous wrote:People are a-holes, op. That’s just a fact. There are some great ones, but many suck. He’s letting you know he’s one of the sucky ones.

Here’s the wisest thing I ever heard about self-esteem. Self-esteem comes from doing. It’s about how you value yourself, and doing things gives you something to value about yourself. Don’t sit around mulling over bad things. Find positive things to focus on. School, sports, a hobby, a volunteer opportunity, something outside yourself that you can do.

Another bit of advice, that might sound weird. Many years ago I listened to this program on self-esteem, and it really helped lift me up. It’s old now, but I think it could help you. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/239610.Self_Esteem_Peak_Performance

Wishing you well, op.

Thank you so much <3

I can’t believe how kind you people are, and that so many people took the time to reply. Thank you so much. I can not believe this, you guys are too nice. I read every single reply and I love that there are people like you in the world. Again, thank you I will take all of your advice and recommendations.

Hi

Im in high school (17, girl) and this happened to me and I have noone to talk to about this. This has made me so sad because my self esteem doesn’t exist and that comment really made me feel horrible.

There is a guy in my class who came up to me from nowhere and said ”wow, you really look like shrek”. And I didn’t reply and he went away.
I am always quiet, and I have never done/said anything mean to him or anyone else. I really just mind my own business everyday and show to school for class, that’s it. I have a few friends but I am not popular at all.

We have been in the same class now for 2 years and I swear I did not have this coming.
He has alot of confidence and walks with so much esteem and is talkative. I guess you could say he’s popular but not the QB, homecoming king or anything like that.

Please help me, I don’t want to post pictures but I feel like the most hideous waste of space now.

I am unkempt and in terrible shape btw. But still he said it to me from nowhere.

How do i feel better now?