to the 16:04 poster. I honestly don't know why you have such an issue with someone willing to work with their parents with keeping daycare costs at a minimum. I don't feel that I am working fulltime for charity. What I am doing is far from charity, it is helping parents out. I would say in 27 years of providing childcare, the majority of my clients are single parent homes. If I can save them a little money by providing the same care to them as someone who is charging much higher and it is helping them out, then why not? As I said, I am not out to be greedy in seeing how much I can suck a parent dry moneywise. Just happy to be there for families who need the help.
And just a quick FYI without going into the personal lives of past and present families. I have had many a parent, single, who struggled to make ends meet. Several who made well below $20,000 income. Fairfax county is one of the richest counties in our area, yet we have some of the poorest families struggling to make ends meet. I have helped several moms in the past continue their education in order to better themselves in the future. Sure I worked long hours, but I have a heart and dont mind helping those...who help themselves.
Believe me, I have been to the homes of some of the families I have had as clients, and a good many of them are not living better than I am. Many a family I helped foodwise as well when I used to belong to a food bank. As a daycare, I was able to participate as long as I distributed the food to others in need. Well I had that right here in my daycare and would send parents home with bags or boxes of food. Just the other night I have a mom I did care for in the past stop in to see me. We started talking about the economy and all, child support issues, etc, and she told me herself, if it werent for the food I was sending home for her during those times, she doesnt know what she would have done. Many families fall through cracks where they teeter on the fine line of making just a bit over the maximum they can be making to get the help they need.
I accept your blessings, however I dont agree with what I am doing is charity.
Edited to add:
My help doesnt always end when my clients leave. One mom in particular, while her child was in my care, went through several scares of cancer. I held her hand through chemo, assured her if anything happened to her, I would take care of her child (she had no family, the father a deadbeat, and she gave me a HAND written letter stating if anything were to happen, she wanted her child to be with me!). She pulled through, went through many ups and downs and long after her child was out of my care (he aged out), it took months before she finally confided in me that she had been laid off several months prior and they didnt have food in the house. I jumped into action, posted a message on freecycle, and thanks to the generosity of others, I ended up with the back of my SUV filled with bags and boxes filled with food items, frozen things, a turkey as it was christmas, paper goods, etc. A friend of mine, who was struggling herself, helped me buy the rest of the things she needed, and I brought everything to her. Her son was so happy to see food HE was the one who jumped in and cooked the turkey!! Not long ago, her son answered this survey thing they pass around on myspace. The question asked, where were you raised? And his answer? Virginia and Michelles House.
To me, that is the best reward to come back to me, years later after providing the care. I keep in touch with a particular group of kids, the ones i had THE longest in care, who all went to school together. And I keep in touch with almost every single one. Cant find the last one. They come to see me, call me, etc. One of them was with my family the day my granddaughter was born. So to me, this is my benefit, rewards, whatever. If you want to call that charity, so be it.
