Anonymous wrote:I am so sorry for you. Like the PP, I can't help with your questions. If you can provide a general location, though, I might be able to recommend a good therapist. So, so sorry. . . .

I live in NW Washington DC. Thanks so much.

Thanks very much to all for your support and recommendations~

Hello all-

I found out today that my pregnancy isn't viable (I was at 10 weeks). There wasn't any heartbeat on the ultrasound this morning. We had been monitoring the embryo for the last 2 weeks. I started having extreme abdominal pains and fainting spells 2 weeks ago.

My OB at the GW MFA is recommending Cytotec for the elimination process. I've read on the forum that some have used Cervidil for live inductions, but not non-viable ones.

I have severe reactions to anesthesia so I'm trying to avoid a D+C, but if it's absolutely necessary, I'll undergo it.

Does anyone have any insights on these medications for an elimination? My OB said that the process is not pain-free and gave me prescription strength Advil as well as anti-nausea medicine.

Aside from deciding about the process, I don't think that I've ever been so sad in my entire life. I'm crying one moment and feeling robotic the next.

Fortunately, I had scheduled to take this week as vacation, so I haven't had to go to work, but in some ways, the being at home alone isn't great either.

I'm not exactly sure how I'm going to get through the next few weeks. Does anyone have a recommendation for a counselor or psychologist who specializes in these issues?

Thanks so much-

Thanks to all for your great advice...this has been extremely helpful.

I just started receiving job offers during a job search. We only started to try a family in April and did not think I was going to get pregnant so quickly so I'm a bit taken off guard. Anyone have experience with this? I'm not showing (I'm only at 6 weeks).

Once I get the official offer letters, is that when you put the pregnancy topic on the table? Do you roll it into a benefits discussion?

I'm a bit concerned about changing jobs during pregnancy because some companies require that you be at a for 12 months before you can take ML, but there is a scarcity of people with my experience level in my profession and these are great job opportunies. Can they retract a job offer if I fully disclose my pregnancy? I could negotiate ML as part of my package, couldn't I?

Thanks so much for your input.

"Not to be a bummer, but I had a miscarriage myself last Dec. Do you know what blood type you are? If you are a - (I'm B-), you'll probably need a shot in the case of miscarriage--or even an intervention like CVS--because failure to get that shot can cause your immune system to attack the baby or prevent a future pregnancy."

Thanks so much for the above advice. I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage.

I am actually a B- as well and haven't even thought about that as a factor although I have read about it happening.

Sounds like I have a ton of reading to do beyond "From the Hips" and "Organic Pregnancy" !

Thanks to all for your wonderful guidance.

Thanks for your advice-these are all great questions. I'm just starting to determine natural birth v medical birth; organic vs. non-organic pregnancy,etc...

It's almost like you are "dating" your doctor-you want to have the same values since you are going to be having a 9 month relationship with them~

Thanks again!

It seems like there is a great community here~

Background: So I've taken 3 home pregnancy tests (1 digital and 2 "regular") and they all came up positive (2 bright blue plus signs and 1 "pregnant" ). I'm about 5 days past my period due date.

I guess I'm technically high risk because I'll be 36 when I deliver. We only tried for 2 months and it seemed to work, so I don't think I'm looking at infertility issues at this point.

I assume I should just go straight to an ob-gyn rather than go to my GP for a "real" test. Does that sound right?

This might sound odd, but has anyone else ever "interviewed" ob-gyns? I had a bad experience with an orthopaedist after an ACL reconstruction, so I'm wary of taking anything that medical professionals say at face value. I've read some of the posts on this forum about different practices which have been helpful.

Do you have any recommendations on questions you should ask a prospective? How many doctors should I talk to? All of the pregnancy books I've read so far are so "it's so wonderful and special" about pregnancy and seem to be more concerned with the "what happens to your body" stuff.

Of course, I'm excited about possibly being pregnant, but I also want to make sure that I start this experience with a realistic rather than romanticized view.

Thanks so much for your help and advice.