
Hello all-
I found out today that my pregnancy isn't viable (I was at 10 weeks). There wasn't any heartbeat on the ultrasound this morning. We had been monitoring the embryo for the last 2 weeks. I started having extreme abdominal pains and fainting spells 2 weeks ago. My OB at the GW MFA is recommending Cytotec for the elimination process. I've read on the forum that some have used Cervidil for live inductions, but not non-viable ones. I have severe reactions to anesthesia so I'm trying to avoid a D+C, but if it's absolutely necessary, I'll undergo it. Does anyone have any insights on these medications for an elimination? My OB said that the process is not pain-free and gave me prescription strength Advil as well as anti-nausea medicine. Aside from deciding about the process, I don't think that I've ever been so sad in my entire life. I'm crying one moment and feeling robotic the next. Fortunately, I had scheduled to take this week as vacation, so I haven't had to go to work, but in some ways, the being at home alone isn't great either. I'm not exactly sure how I'm going to get through the next few weeks. Does anyone have a recommendation for a counselor or psychologist who specializes in these issues? Thanks so much- |
I don't know the answers to any of your questions, unfortunately, but I am very sorry for your loss and I will be thinking about you. |
I am so sorry for you. Like the PP, I can't help with your questions. If you can provide a general location, though, I might be able to recommend a good therapist. So, so sorry. . . . |
I am very sorry for your loss. At 10 weeks, I would encourage you to meet with the anesthesiologist who would be working with the doctor performing the D&E about your previous experiences and see what the options are - rather than try to tough it out without anesthesia. Best wishes to you. |
I've only heard BAD things about Cytotec. Here's a website I recently came across:
http://www.cytotecadverseevents.com/ |
we had to terminate at 13 weeks due to a chromosonal abnormality -- it was almost three years ago and i still remember it. so sorry for your loss.
we went to dr. fox at u of md for a d&e. i did not have general anesthesia -- it was something that made it pain free and where i was basically out of it for the procedure. i do remember them offering counseling, etc. as well (even asked if we wanted any funeral type arrangements). best of luck to you. |
When I had a D&C for a missed m/c (loss of hb at 11 weeks) at Sibley-the dr. offered me an epidural if I didn't want anesthesia. I chose anesthesia-but you could ask if an epidural could be an option. I didn't want to wait and see if I m/c naturally-I was too sad and wanted it to be over.
I'm very sorry for your loss. |
Thanks very much to all for your support and recommendations~ |
I live in NW Washington DC. Thanks so much. |
OP ... So sorry for your loss.
I have had 2 missed miscarriages...both of which I utilized cytotec and the elimination occured at home (midwife inserted the cytotec in the office...i went home with a tampon...which i later removed) My last missed miscarriage (2 years ago) was also at 10 weeks (fetus stopped growing at 8)...and for that i do wish i had had a D & C 'for 2 reasons 1) at that number of weeks the 'product of conception' as the doctors called it was large enough for you to really feel it during elimination (sorry for being graphic) which intensified the emotional trauma 2) in a D & C they can get a sample on which to do chromosonal testing to at least try to determine the probable cause of the miscarriage by the way...in both events i just took prescription motrin so the physical pain was really no worse than a bad period...if that much (and as any good nurse will tell you...u start taking the medication BEFORE the pain starts) it was the emotional toll that you really want to primarily consider, tho in this case you must factor in your reaction to anesthesia. Good luck and once again...so sorry... |
this is the previous poster...don't know why that smiley faced showed up in the middle of my response...it was supposed to be a number 8
i was saying the pregnancy ended at 8 weeks...but this was not detected until 10 weeks |
I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a "natural" miscarriage at 13 weeks - my water broke and I basically had to labor. The pain was tremendous. If there is any way to try a d & c I would recommend it.
Also, I would consider asking your OB for therapist recommendations. I think that they should offer it as a matter of course, but s/he surely has references. |
I don't know if you're still looking for a counselor, but I saw Ellen Eule for months after my 2nd miscarriage, and it was really helpful. She works through Shady Grove, but I only ever saw her out of her house. |