soccerx3kidsss wrote:Favoritism is a form of abuse. Do coaches have favorites? Absolutely. It's natural. Should they make it obvious and make everyone else feel less than, absolutely not. Coaches aren't trained psychologists. They are regular people with little to no education on developmental needs of young people. They just claim they are soccer professionals which we know is also a low bar to be met in this country. It's not about tough love it's about how to treat people and ensure growth is happening and you can't paint every single person with the same brush. Coaches needs to be intentional with their words and actions and at the very least communicate effectively. We need to start holding youth coaches accountable in this country and if you can't see that then you are part of the problem.

Agree with this statement 100% Almost feel like you're talking about our club with a horrible comment made from our coach to a select group of girls! If it was the coaches way to motivate the girls to step up she sure did the opposite and made the entire team camaraderie worsen!

We did what research we could when selecting which club/coach our daughter wanted to commit too but no matter what you find out you never really know how that coach will be with your daughter and team until after you've accepted and season begins. You'll see what you want to see you'll hear what you want to hear and then season begins. We are trying to "trust the process" as we are often told but it's hard to do that when you've been trying to give this club the benefit of the doubt lacking in direction, leadership, COMMUNICATION. The biggest disappointment has been in the lack of support, experience, leadership and communication from her coach. We don't know if in-experience blindsides leadership decisions or what? We want our daughter to develop, be pushed if that takes stern/harsh coaching tactics/tell it like it is direction and leadership. At least then she'll know what strengths she excels at and what weaknesses to work harder on rather than playing the guessing game with her coach wondering/questioning her own development, confidence, being an asset to the team. We are currently attending other club practices to see their coaches in action. The hard thing about that is you don't know if coaching slate will change.