Anonymous wrote:Has husband comment on any "difference"?

It was so bad previously that it wasn’t enjoyable for either of us. He is also much more satisfied now.

Holy Cross SS, I was with Kaiser.

Hey all, OP here. Thanks for the feedback and the concern. It was a frustrating ordeal. I talked with the OB who did my repair quite a bit about it. She had no connection to the doctor who performed the original stitch. She did imply that she believed carelessness or poor education was involved for something to the extent of my stitch to occur, but also explained how swollen a woman is after birth. She said it is not always obvious how to restitch some of those tears when the patient is so swollen, and without having been in the room, there is no way to know for sure what happened.. The truth is, we LOVED the OB who delivered our baby. He was A young guy, very personable, very careful about making sure I felt I was in control and understood every step of the labor. I’m not interested in attempting to prove in court that what he did was intentional or even malpractice, as I myself am far from convinced that was the case.

I think my big takeaway here was that you have to advocate for yourself. The fact that it was 14 months before someone told me what might actually be wrong is infuriating, and caused something that could have been a quick fix to affect my life dramatically for a year and a half. You know your body, and if something doesn’t feel right, don’t take no for an answer. I wish I had pushed harder earlier for an answer.

Thought I’d share this experience here, in case anyone else out there is seriously struggling. After 14 months, I was still having a horrendously horrible time with sex. It was extremely painful at entry. 99% of the time we weren’t able to finish it was so bad. I had talked to multiple OBs and been checked two separate times for something wrong, and got half-answers each time. They blamed my breastfeeding, said PP Pain up to A year after birth was normal, and told me to try extra lube. FTM, so I had no idea what kind of pain was normal. Was I being a complete wimp?

Long story short, I finally met with an OB who immediately identified too much stitching near the opening.. She said she could get me in for in in-office repair ASAP. Two weeks later I was in the office for a fairy painless 30-minute procedure that involved an episiotomy, and restitching. Recovery was very reminiscent of those first weeks after labor. After 6 weeks, we got the green light, and our sex life is back pain free. Seriously the biggest relief.

Happy to talk this through with anyone facing a similar circumstance. Making the decision to do the repair was not easy, but I am extremely happy that I did.

Ugg the waiting weeks are killer!! Come on, baby!

Hope you got it! As I understand it (from my google internet education 😆) you can fertilize an egg up to 48 hrs post-ovulation as the egg drops, for most women the egg dies by abt 24-hrs. When you see clear mucus, anytime that day is the peak perfect time to go for it.

Holy cross Silver spring allows you to send babe to nursery and has Kaiser doctors. Not sure with covid if nurseries arenopen though :/

Can anyone recommend a specific brand of pikler triangle? Do you feel it was worth your $$?

I’m the market and a lot to choose from! Our babe is 1.5 months with another on the way.

Looking for a pikler triangle for our kiddo. There are so many makers out there, I am overwhelmed. Can anyone recommend (or not recommend) a maker that you’ve had experience with?

Separately, if anyone has a used one to sell - interested! OR if you are a maker, send me your site. We are in MD.