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Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, are you one of those sorry ass stay at home husbands who doesn't think he needs to work, with no kids? If so, then I don't feel bad about you being cheated on.
Men are finally joining the same gravy train women have been on for thousands of years.
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Gravy train...people like you should be culled from the herd.
Woman who do these types of things are strongly indicating that they have some form of personality disorder. You would be best advised to examine this situation with focused intent. For example, how does she respond when you tell her about your concerns? What does she do in order to bring resolution to any fear or concern you may have? How considerate is she of your feelings, thoughts and beliefs in regards to the impact of any actual behavior (on her part) or perceived behavior (on your part).
When women engage in behavior that is often fatal to a good, loving, working relationship you need to be seeing BIG RED FLAGS. Especially true, when you are starting a family and bringing children into this world. Something is wrong when a woman engages in behavior that risk causing negative impact to their children's well-being. Why would a woman/soon-to-be or already a mother engage in self-centered and thoughtless behavior that could/would clearly impact all of the lives of your impending family? By this I mean to say, that your child is born into a loving home with two actively engaged loving parents -- which is always the best case scenario, especially, during the critical tender years of a child's life.
At the very least you need to be aware that she does not have the maturity most conducive to positive motherhood. For that matter, she probably currently lacks the ability to be a good partner to you or any other human being. If she is in fact cheating on you, it's quite possible, that your wife/fiance has a narcissistic personality disorder. Given the timing of her alleged infidelity she may even have narcissistic tendencies of a malignant or sadistic nature. None of these situations bode well for you in terms of having positive relationship d cause r already a mother possibility that your child is born into a loving home with two loving parents -- which is always the best case scenario, especially, during the critical tender years of a child's life.
For yours and your child's sake seek clarity and be thoughtful about what all of this may mean to your new family's future.
When women engage in behavior that is often fatal to a good, loving, working relationship you need to be seeing BIG RED FLAGS. Especially true, when you are starting a family and bringing children into this world. Something is wrong when a woman engages in behavior that risk causing negative impact to their children's well-being. Why would a woman/soon-to-be or already a mother engage in self-centered and thoughtless behavior that could/would clearly impact all of the lives of your impending family? By this I mean to say, that your child is born into a loving home with two actively engaged loving parents -- which is always the best case scenario, especially, during the critical tender years of a child's life.
At the very least you need to be aware that she does not have the maturity most conducive to positive motherhood. For that matter, she probably currently lacks the ability to be a good partner to you or any other human being. If she is in fact cheating on you, it's quite possible, that your wife/fiance has a narcissistic personality disorder. Given the timing of her alleged infidelity she may even have narcissistic tendencies of a malignant or sadistic nature. None of these situations bode well for you in terms of having positive relationship d cause r already a mother possibility that your child is born into a loving home with two loving parents -- which is always the best case scenario, especially, during the critical tender years of a child's life.
For yours and your child's sake seek clarity and be thoughtful about what all of this may mean to your new family's future.