Man talking here- What made you so sure that he wanted sex? And how, or why, were you so arrogant to presume that unless you broached the topic beforehand that it would have gone that far? It's insulting to assume that a man would just hop into bed with you. You have to work to get inside my pants. It's never assumed that we will be sleeping together. Dates are NOT the man spending money and time to get laid. It's two adults spending time together to appeal to each other and exploring the possibility of further romance. The minute you view dating as a transactional process whereby you think I'm out for only one thing...you've lost focus on what this is all about. Honestly, if you had approached me about this topic there wouldn't have been a date.