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Anyone know anything about Potomac tennis and swim ?
Good questions.
1. Do Golf clubs usually have good tennis programs also? Seems like one is always much stronger than the other.
2. I'm not worried about a wait. Hoping to get a few names so I can check them out and maybe play as a guest initially.
3. I play at Georgetown prep already but limited options and no pool.
4. I will mostly go by myself so not looking for lifelong memberships or huge fees but I would spend a few thousand for a decent club. Nothing like kenwood. Thanks!
1. Do Golf clubs usually have good tennis programs also? Seems like one is always much stronger than the other.
2. I'm not worried about a wait. Hoping to get a few names so I can check them out and maybe play as a guest initially.
3. I play at Georgetown prep already but limited options and no pool.
4. I will mostly go by myself so not looking for lifelong memberships or huge fees but I would spend a few thousand for a decent club. Nothing like kenwood. Thanks!
I am 50+ and advanced beginner. Looking for a tennis club that has classes, clinics and leagues. Even a social atmosphere for the 40-55 age group. Midweek is hard for me so weekend options are key.
Even better if it has a pool for my teenagers. Any recommendations are appreciated. Thank you.
Even better if it has a pool for my teenagers. Any recommendations are appreciated. Thank you.
Someone once told me that the secret to a happy marriage is real compromise. Do you want to win every argument or stay married. OP wants to move into city and DH doesn't. The disagreement is unresolved so every time something arises that relates to the original disagreement then the OP is resentful. Resolve the original disagreement (city or suburbs) and move on. Those types of issues will ruin a marriage if you can't get passed them. They will eat away at the good parts.
OP: Thanks to everyone for the feedback. Keep it coming!!
I agree that losing her dad was big. He was a SAHD and very good father (husband too). She had these tendencies before he passed but that event made them even stronger.
Here's the difference in applying herself versus not
Applying: does homework, proactively gets help when she doesn't understand, more studying (in study halls not so much at home), even extra credit
Not: doesn't do all her homework, claims lack of understanding as reason she didn't do it, gets help after due dates or not at all, thinks she can read the assigned books during class time, a mad rush at the end of the marking period to turn in missing homework which completely overwhelms her, lost credit for late timing, blames teachers for missed grades. UGh!
And teachers are not always flexible (which is fine, i don't necessarily want special treatment). Some teachers are even harder on her because she acts like she doesn't care. She's a real personable kid too so teachers love her.
I have tried everything from sitting on top of her and hiring tutors to work with her 2x/week to giving her freedom to make the choices and holding her accountable for the results. I am not a helicopter parent so the second option at least allows more peace at home versus always arguing about it. When i pushed the structure she felt unloved and isolated so i decided that was the wrong outcome. I eased up and we're happier even if the grades aren't any better (or worse)
I agree that losing her dad was big. He was a SAHD and very good father (husband too). She had these tendencies before he passed but that event made them even stronger.
Here's the difference in applying herself versus not
Applying: does homework, proactively gets help when she doesn't understand, more studying (in study halls not so much at home), even extra credit
Not: doesn't do all her homework, claims lack of understanding as reason she didn't do it, gets help after due dates or not at all, thinks she can read the assigned books during class time, a mad rush at the end of the marking period to turn in missing homework which completely overwhelms her, lost credit for late timing, blames teachers for missed grades. UGh!
And teachers are not always flexible (which is fine, i don't necessarily want special treatment). Some teachers are even harder on her because she acts like she doesn't care. She's a real personable kid too so teachers love her.
I have tried everything from sitting on top of her and hiring tutors to work with her 2x/week to giving her freedom to make the choices and holding her accountable for the results. I am not a helicopter parent so the second option at least allows more peace at home versus always arguing about it. When i pushed the structure she felt unloved and isolated so i decided that was the wrong outcome. I eased up and we're happier even if the grades aren't any better (or worse)
OP: Yes. She has been in therapy for several years. We just started dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) and they are leaning towards a borderline personality disorder diagnosis. She lost her dad 4 years ago and it's been a struggle.
OP here.
Yes she is on medication for adhd, depression and anxiety. She is in counseling and has a psychiatrist for Med Mgmt.
She recently started DBT therapy but frankly doesn't see a reason to change her behavior.
Truthfully she doesn't get the consequences concept. We have a deal right now where she has to get all As and Bs and no more than 2 Cs on her 1st semester report card to get her learners permit. In Q1 she got 2 Ds. She has already tried to renegotiate it. I have actually told her that I am less worried about the grades but don't want to see missing or late assignments.
She consistently compares herself to her older sibling who was a 3.8 gpa kid at a tough private school while being an athlete. And she expects the same treatment as him. Yes she thinks she's entitled. That's part of the problem.
I made her get a job and work every week to try to give her a sense of responsibility and learn from an employer that you have to work to earn things. It helps a little but begrudges me because I didn't make her older brother have a job during the school year. (He always had a summer job).
Part of me agrees with the PP who said she has to figure it out herself. I have also thought that if she is too immature then she'll get there eventually. It is hard when her friends are all talking about college visits.
Yes she is on medication for adhd, depression and anxiety. She is in counseling and has a psychiatrist for Med Mgmt.
She recently started DBT therapy but frankly doesn't see a reason to change her behavior.
Truthfully she doesn't get the consequences concept. We have a deal right now where she has to get all As and Bs and no more than 2 Cs on her 1st semester report card to get her learners permit. In Q1 she got 2 Ds. She has already tried to renegotiate it. I have actually told her that I am less worried about the grades but don't want to see missing or late assignments.
She consistently compares herself to her older sibling who was a 3.8 gpa kid at a tough private school while being an athlete. And she expects the same treatment as him. Yes she thinks she's entitled. That's part of the problem.
I made her get a job and work every week to try to give her a sense of responsibility and learn from an employer that you have to work to earn things. It helps a little but begrudges me because I didn't make her older brother have a job during the school year. (He always had a summer job).
Part of me agrees with the PP who said she has to figure it out herself. I have also thought that if she is too immature then she'll get there eventually. It is hard when her friends are all talking about college visits.
I have always assumed my kids would go to college. My oldest is a junior in college now.
I also have a junior in high school who shows very little interest in doing well in school. She's damn smart too.
She doesn't do homework and doesn't study for tests. She does well when she likes the teacher or it's a subject she likes. She gets As and Bs when she applies herself. Cs and Ds when she doesn't. Even the occasional F.
She is in a private school now. She's been diagnosed with adhd and executive functioning disorder but in reality her teachers and tutors have told me that she knows what to do but she is just not doing it. She prioritized her social life above all else.
I am at a loss about how to approach college with her. If she does this while under my roof I can't image what she will be like in a dorm room with no parental supervision. I don't want to deprive her of a college experience or the advantages that college will give her in life. I feel like she is not mature enough for that step yet.
Has anyone had something similar happen? Need advice.
I also have a junior in high school who shows very little interest in doing well in school. She's damn smart too.
She doesn't do homework and doesn't study for tests. She does well when she likes the teacher or it's a subject she likes. She gets As and Bs when she applies herself. Cs and Ds when she doesn't. Even the occasional F.
She is in a private school now. She's been diagnosed with adhd and executive functioning disorder but in reality her teachers and tutors have told me that she knows what to do but she is just not doing it. She prioritized her social life above all else.
I am at a loss about how to approach college with her. If she does this while under my roof I can't image what she will be like in a dorm room with no parental supervision. I don't want to deprive her of a college experience or the advantages that college will give her in life. I feel like she is not mature enough for that step yet.
Has anyone had something similar happen? Need advice.