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Anonymous wrote:I’ve had it with Marylanders. They seem to act as if they own the city. Illegal parking, speeding through our neighborhoods during rush hours (HELLO there are kids in these neighborhoods), just generally being rude etc. I wish we could force just Marylanders to pay a commuter tax (even though I’m opposed to the idea of a commuter tax), or have them pay higher parking tolls. I’ve never had any problems with our neighbors to the South; if I can’t find something in DC I’m heading to VA, never MD.
Happy hunting, OP!
Although Maryland is for crabs, we're not crabby.
I grew up eating "continental breakfasts," which normally consisted of warm milk (in a large cup or bowl), sweetened with regular sugar and flavored with a shot of espresso. I'd dunk a homemade biscotti into it -or, for fellow Italians out there, an "S" cookie!
Of course, by "Amerian" standards, I was an oddball b/c I wasn't eating Trix or Coco Krispies each morning, but I survived.
Of course, by "Amerian" standards, I was an oddball b/c I wasn't eating Trix or Coco Krispies each morning, but I survived.
Anonymous wrote:I feel really sad today, not really because it is Valentine's Day, but because for some time I think I have known that my husband is not in love with me. I think he cares for me, loves our children, needs me (I am a SAHM, he has a great job but travels a lot). He says really hurtful things on a routine basis. When I tell him that that hurt my feelings, and it wasn't funny (calmly) he says I don't have any sense of humor or I am too sensitive.
Here is a pretty minor example, but just happened so is fresh. We were going out, I have been sick and not looking my greatest, I was looking at catalog before leaving, and I said "Now, why can't I look like that woman?" -- one of the models, who had a really nice, fresh look to her. I don't go around saying things like this often. I know I am attractive, albeit getting older, and I am a pretty self confident person. He says "because you come from butter churners and you like butter" (context: I am Scandinavian with the larger leg build, he often calls me a butter churner, which he things is funny-- meaning "hearty stock") I say I don't think that's very funny or nice and and of course it leads to the your too sensitive comment. And truth be told, I am a sensitive person. I like that about myself. It makes me a better person, mother, and friend. I have told him before, that "yes I am sensitive, which is why when you say things like that knowing that I am sensitive it hurts even more"
I realize this is not abuse, but it just plain feels lousy. I love my kids, I love my husband, but he makes me feel bad. When we are with other couples, almost all "humor" is at my expense. He doesn't see it, even when I point it out. My friends, of course, don't say anything, but my family has (to me).
He won't do counseling, as he doesn't think he has a problem and it's all me. Trust me, I have tried under these issues and larger ones in the past.
I guess I am both venting and looking for some advice. Please be kind, as I said, I am sensitive
Sorry, OP, but that is definitely verbal/emotional abuse.
I'll be harsh, but I think it's the only option at this point:
- Exercise for yourself - not for his pleasure. If you want to remain strong for your kids, start working on yourself. And if that means being a bit selfish, so be it!
- If he refuses to attend counseling, then go yourself. (You can't save him, but you can save yourself and your children.) Counseling will help you identify patterns to his behavior and will allow you to explore why you allow his behavior to continue. And obviously since your family has said things, they, too, see his destructive patterns.
- Think about your kids and their mental health. Controlling relationships are harmful to children. Staying at home is wonderful if you're in a 50-50 relationship, but when a partner is domineering and abusive, you're trapped. I'd suggest finding a way out. Start looking at jobs at this point. And if you've got money of your own, keep it to yourself!
Comments like the ones above are insidious. They may seem innocuous at first, but if they continue, they become destructive and can chip away at a person's self-esteem.
Anonymous wrote:turkish delight
Midnight Express (1978)
My daughter and son - whom I had at 38 and 42 - are both healthy, despite some abnormal results on the ultrasound (choroid plexus cysts and low lying placenta).
Your baby will be fine!
Your baby will be fine!