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Anonymous wrote:I'd look at as two separate expenses. Kid related expenses and adult related expenses.
For the kid related expenses there is probably child support guidance you can follow. For example in VA there is a monthly child expense calculation based on the total income of both parents and then that is split by proportional income for 50/50 custody.
For the adult related expenses, there I think you probably have to be willing to go 50/50 like you would with a roommate. You could try to work a deal where you pay less now but in return get less from the sale of the house later.
This is great advice, thank you!
Anonymous wrote:I would consult an attorney ASAP. I don't think it will work for you to both be living in the same house. It sounds like he created this idea, which is basically impossible for you, in the hopes that you'd just give in and stay with him.
Yes -- he even mentioned "well it was your decision" to almost intimidate me into staying with him with the thought that I may not be able to afford being out on my own. Really?! That just upsets me even more and if my best option is splitting everything 50/50 with him then that's fine. I was just curious if there are other options or experiences anyone has had with this.
My fiance and I have decided to split. Our relationship moved very fast, got pregnant with twins after only 5 months of being together, and now after almost 8 years together and 3 wonderful kids ages 7 (twins) and 5, we have decided to call it quits. It's my decision mostly as he is completely committed to the relationship, but I haven't been emotionally connected for at least a year (lots of reasons why through history of relationship) and feel that we've been operating as robots. We've been going to regular therapy for the past 9 months, and I feel that we've both put in a good effort, but I still do not feel the love or emotion towards him that I know he wants and deserves.
He makes $105k/year and I recently quit my full time job (we both agreed on this) where I was making $79k/year to pursue my own business, knowing that it would take a few months to build up a regular salary, and I would need to bring in at minimum $2500/month for us to be comfortable still covering all expenses. I took $7k from my business to put in to our joint savings as "back up" money in case I ever fell short of that $2500/month min.
We have planned to live in the house together until possibly next summer when we may put the house on the market for sale, and we're trying to be as amicable and "normal" as possible for the sake of the kids until one (or both) of us does move out.
We've always pooled all of our finances together as a family, we have no debt, and we own a house together. This is very recent so the only changed we've made so far is that he's moved in to the guest room, but we are trying to now establish our "boundaries" and "rules" and set forth a regular schedule of who's responsible for what.
He wants to split all of our monthly expenses and responsibilities for the kids 50/50, and approached me with a budget spreadsheet showing what that would look like, but I do not feel that this is very fair, and I am seeking advice on what options and/or rights I have as an unmarried parent. He makes much more than me, so covering half of our family expenses is easy for him along with having his own money to save. I, on the other hand, would really have to hustle to make up my half and maybe eventually I'll get there with my business, but it is not guaranteed at the moment as this is my first month doing it full time.
Any comments, suggestions and advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
He makes $105k/year and I recently quit my full time job (we both agreed on this) where I was making $79k/year to pursue my own business, knowing that it would take a few months to build up a regular salary, and I would need to bring in at minimum $2500/month for us to be comfortable still covering all expenses. I took $7k from my business to put in to our joint savings as "back up" money in case I ever fell short of that $2500/month min.
We have planned to live in the house together until possibly next summer when we may put the house on the market for sale, and we're trying to be as amicable and "normal" as possible for the sake of the kids until one (or both) of us does move out.
We've always pooled all of our finances together as a family, we have no debt, and we own a house together. This is very recent so the only changed we've made so far is that he's moved in to the guest room, but we are trying to now establish our "boundaries" and "rules" and set forth a regular schedule of who's responsible for what.
He wants to split all of our monthly expenses and responsibilities for the kids 50/50, and approached me with a budget spreadsheet showing what that would look like, but I do not feel that this is very fair, and I am seeking advice on what options and/or rights I have as an unmarried parent. He makes much more than me, so covering half of our family expenses is easy for him along with having his own money to save. I, on the other hand, would really have to hustle to make up my half and maybe eventually I'll get there with my business, but it is not guaranteed at the moment as this is my first month doing it full time.
Any comments, suggestions and advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
Just looked at the new location in Takoma Park today and am heavily considering signing my 3.5 yr old twins into this program next week. It looked great and the program director was super accommodating and friendly when I decided to pop in on zero notice to tour the facility.
She mentioned that the principal for TPES does have her child in one of the classes. Several of the school teachers' kids are also in this program.
I haven't seen the SS location, but this one was clean, tidy and looked just like a normal elementary school classroom. I guess it helps that they are located in the new wing that was completed during the renovation of TPES.
She mentioned that the principal for TPES does have her child in one of the classes. Several of the school teachers' kids are also in this program.
I haven't seen the SS location, but this one was clean, tidy and looked just like a normal elementary school classroom. I guess it helps that they are located in the new wing that was completed during the renovation of TPES.